Originally posted by: Cleo12345
Radhika, yes we can choose our feelings...but not all the time. Emotions and feelings are dependent on many factors...genetic makeup, environmental influences, neurotransmitters in our brain and many more. We can try and have positive thoughts but staying in a constant state of positivity is not something everyone is blessed with. Most people need a stimulus to have that positive state of mind...reading a positive post is one example( having cheesecake works for me too)...but the effect of the stimulus may not be the same on everyone...and it may not last very long...we can try and continue to expose ourselves to the positive stimuli...however, it is impossible to shield ourselves from the negative ones. And feeling sad, depressed, annoyed or agitated as as result of that exposure it is nothing to be ashamed of. It is all part of being human. Most people can't always be like you , Donjas and Sindhu ...we get upset when we see too much negativity on screen...I try to read a positive post after watching a negative episode( my positive stimulus)...most of the times it works...sometimes it doesn't...we hv to learn to accept it. However, a constant state of negativity ( again a few people are blessed with that) is worrisome. And like Donjas wrote...it can be infectious. Most of us who belong to middle group found something nice in todays episode( we know that it is historically inaccurate but best not to lose sleep over it as it was action packed, entertaining and did not make any character look too bad)...so best to enjoy the action and emotions.Trying to achieve a constant positive state of mind if you are not born with it can lead to disappointment. Best to be yourself...read posts written by positive people...vent if it helps... and try not to get infected by the "constant state of negativity" bug.
well said Cleo.. Honestly I do feel let down also get frustrated reading comments or watching something that I did not like etc.Its very hard to be positive all the time. But I have learned to cope with it and get out of it as soon as I can because I hate to give up. Just like you, I try to read positive comments or watch or do something that will distract me and get me out of this frustration..
The best thing that has helped me in this forum to be positive is to not read what I do not want to read.