Originally posted by: aashyagh
Sandhya, no doubt he has hurt her, but I think Ruq knew that Jalal didn't love her and she was confident that he will never love anyone else and if you notice, inspite if Ruq's misbehaviour, her support to MA in Sujamal khaand has been ignored by Jalal only because he cares for her and he understands her and not once he has told Ruq's that, he loves Jodha even though he has shown it thru actions, he is trying very hard to balance and not to hurt Ruq's, so what he should be doing? Should he tell Ruq's that, I am sorry Ruq's, but I love Jodha, but your place will be intact in my life? Do you think Ruq will accept it and realise?
First and foremost, why should one sympathize with Rukks...she's getting what she gave to all other Begums...getting lost in oblivion without trace.
Seconldy, no other Begum of Jalal could gauge him...not even Rukks, she sure knew his calculations, that also to some extent..but she never understood him fully, otherwise she would have seen difference in Jalal's talks and actions...infact it was Jalal, who made her believe that only she understood him...of course he himself thought that at least as a friend to some extent she's within his wavelength...he'd not met any other women in his life who understood him even to an extent of Ruqaiya.
Also let's accept, Ruqaiya is and always was inept in understanding and handling emotional Jalal...she left him crying during BK's death cause she did not know what to do with this side of Jalal, how to console or handle him...and she ran away to control what she can, ie, Her harem
She can play games with Jalal, get physical in bed, can give some advise to him...but never complete him.
She is at fault, to not accept CHANGE in her own life, not only with regard to Jalal, but also her other relations, and in harem.
Why concentrate on Jodha? Before her came Salima Begum, and Jalal started to take advise from her also in important matters...but then she also can't give him things which pertains to matter of his heart. In fact Rukks was even miffed at that, and commented to Salima, that now Jalal values her and her advises a lot...
Then came Jodha...who challenged him, intrigued him, both mentally as well as emotionally...even during her "ghrina" phase she tried to understand him for what he did, why he did...questioned him, answered him...challenged him for his wrongs, making him startled, how she'd hit bull's eye...she advised him as a good minister, showed him mirror, stood beside him giving him much needed strength...had the audacity and courage to walk over him...show him her jealousy...and finally her love. Jodha also had the strength to take in his nafrat, his venom, his pain, his ignorance towards her, his care, concern, and his love. Jodha can handle an emotional Jalal...she tried in BB case, she did not run away, this was when she was not in love with him.
Ruqaiya can never take in Jalal's ignorance, hatred, pain...she'd not got that mental and emotional strength...
So, finally Jodha completed Jalal...she guaged him wholly, and most important she always tries to observe him, learn about him...this way their relationship can never stagnate...and Jalal is also with her on this..their wavelengths match cent-percent...they both are curious souls.
Ruqaiya had all things in her favour or stride to find about Jalal, what she did not know, she could have at least made an effort to know and recognize him emotionally...but she was under illusion that since they were childhood friends, she knew him and there was nothing more to know about him...and what she didn't know about him was not there in him, ie. his heart. And she moved to next priority in her life, her power and position..which ironically became her drug and topmost priority...may be she was fascinated by the way Jalal held command over his people being Shehanshaah, and since she could not become that, she fulfilled her desires of ruling, with her harem...in all this she failed to observe Jalal's lonely eyes, or better chose to ignore them.
There's difference between Man and women when it comes to relationship, and one can't sit and argue, that since Jalal also didn't try to love Ruqaiya, why she find his heart...such arguments spell doom for relationships.
Also its not only Ruqaiya who's going through the change, for Jalal also, life has changed and quite suddenly...at one time he'd BK and MA to trust and blindly so, next moment, he'd got no one...suddenly he's the sole Boy Emperor...whom should he cry and blame...One fine day he's feeling a tug and turmoil in an unknown organ of his body and no one is there to explain him, what's happening, not even his childhood friend is able to gauge him...he's left alone to unravel the mystery and he does, but his one Begum Jodha also helps in his this mission, and finds that he's got a beautiful heart inside him...Jalal always had a heart, and we knew that, but no, one told him this, not even Ruqaiya...next he finds out that he's lost that heart to his same, newest begum Jodha...now Ruqaiya wants his this side too...because she's his oldest wife and friend, so she thinks, this is her right and none else. 😕
Life evolves and changes come, but the way person handles those changes in life, etches one's personality and tests one's strength...Jalal even now values Ruqaiya as much, but it is her deeds which are becoming more than mischief and mistakes, that is somewhat deterring him, though not much, from her. yes, Jalal was also part of crime with Ruqaiya but he acknowledged later that he was wrong, and what sort of best friend Ruqaiya was, that she never went against him, if and when he was wrong...she only gets upset, angry at Jalal if she feels, she's being devalued...
Ruqaiya does have a conscience and we've seen it many times but now it is buried deep...may be the result of this FP fiasco can shake her up... Personally I never disliked her even when she plotted against Jodha...but the moment she hit her so called whole world and life Jalal, where it will hurt him the most...I shut her up, she's a nobody. Even putting oneself in her shoes can't bring out the reasoning of her this act 😕😡
Edited by mishtidoi - 11 years ago
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