polygamy still exist???? - Page 4

Originally posted by: anshfever

who z prophet nd khadija???? it may be a silly ques bt sry i dnt knw anythng abt iskam culture.

Originally posted by: ---Mehak---

even i hate that

Originally posted by: RayyanAziz

I can't say I hate the system. Maybe some of you are disagree but it is just how I felt.

First, sorry I can't agree with the term 'Islamic Culture' being used for this matter. I prefer to use 'Islamic Law' because culture is society's way of doing things and sometimes it has nothing to do with religious. And Islamic Culture is so various and different in every single part of the world but the Islamic Law is something stated in Quran or Sunnah and shared by all Muslim no matter where they are.

From where I'm from the polygamy is still practised and allowed under Muslim family court. Though nowadays, many remained monogamy like everyone in my family except for my late great grandfather who married his late best friend's wife to protect their young children during war time.

Being a Muslim, I am fully understand the concept and why it is allowed according to Islamic law. But, I always though that the system should not be allowed nowadays because the man usually used this law to their advantage. Universally, we conclude that under the polygamy rules, the second or next marriages are usually out of necessity like the first wife can't give children or to protect the women themselves. But, man usually practised what benefits them and ignores the parts that not.

Until I went to South Korea, I see why such practice is so significant and how it protect the women as it should be. Sorry to any South Korean but you can't argue that this is the fact. In a society where they should marry someone equal in status, Many South Korean men end up marrying woman chosen by his family. But, these men usually kept their girlfriend as their mistress because polygamy are not allowed and divorce is a BIG NO because it is something that will destroy family honour. Though the society is changing slowly but it is still happened.

At the end, I saw some cases where the woman end up killing herself out of depression. The mistress will live a life where she won't be receiving any kind of benefit and punished by society. They can't go away because they usually with children. Her children also will forever marked as a bas***d and also won't be receiving anything from his/her father including the family name. In some cases, the guy's family will just take away her child to be raised (usually suffered) by the wedded wife if the wife is childless.

Many will argue and start to blame the women who loved the married man and might even say that it is her choice and she had to live with it. I'm completely disagree. I never in love with a married man but I am in love with a very nice still single guy. So, I fully understood where love stands in human's heart. If we can control our heart and decide who we should fall in love than Prince Edward VIII won't gave up his throne for a divorcee and end up where he end up with.

I don't want to talk about the first wife's right here because it is again another evidence that human rules/culture is not flawless. Because there is no such thing like divorce, they end up remain in loveless marriage. And under Islamic Law, it is Haram to marry a woman when you know perfectly you will treat her unfair and can't provide her with what she needs, including to love her. Unless, the woman herself agree to the marriage for other reason like Salima agreed to Jalal.

So, I hate men who use this system to their advantage. But the system itself is meant to protect the society, women. I guess being a second or third or fourth LEGALLY WEDDED wife is far better than the mere mistress. And being a child from a LEGALLY WEDDED wife is way better than being call a bas***d. After all, first, second, third or fourth, all are equal under Muslim family law. They are all wives and have same rights under the family law.

Wow...sorry for a very long reply. I did not mean to hurt anyone here and merely stating my view...