If Tina leaves...i leave too!!! - Page 4

Originally posted by: hansa

Bindi, you are tooooo toooooooo sweet!!! 😊

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Bindi, very well written... you are a real care-taker (of us , of this forum)..so nobody is going anywhere now..

anjuji...where have you been? 😭 It's so nice to see you..... 😳

Originally posted by: anjubala

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Bindi, very well written... you are a real care-taker (of us , of this forum)..so nobody is going anywhere now..

Awww thats so sweet sowmy!😳

Thank you guys. I am really touched.

But there was a reason why I wanted to leave. It was not simply a "childish" impulse to follow in my friend's fotsteps. I had been getting a feeling, for quite a while now, that things are not the same since JJKN ended.

Partly, of course, it is because there are no fresh episodes to discuss and the reruns have also stopped in India. 😡 Despite all this, we all have tried to keep the forum alive by posting interesting tidbits. Tina did her bit by putting up the BLF story and then the rerun updates. In all these months that I have known her, I have never ever read anything by her that can be called remotely insulting or immature. I have marvelled at her patience for persisting in debates, which I dropped out of midway because i was close to losing my temper.

If, after all this, she has to be at the receiving end , then I'm sure no better treatment can be expected for me.

I have been attacked too, and it got to the point where i was unsure whether to post my candid opinion, because i knew it would be attacked and a debate would start again. It does pinch when the basis for criticism is not WHAT is being said but WHO is saying it. I was at the receiving end of a mindset that believed, "Blyton is saying it, so it must be wrong."

Even my updates ("certain fanfics") were subtly mocked for manda mongering. Now everyone knows that the original JJKN had its share of manda moments--or we would never have had a manda mystery. I tried to make them read as if they were actual episodes. And for this....*sigh*

I have always followed one principle in my online postings: Never say anything online that you would not be able to say in the real world. Everything that I wrote here, be it the Mona defences or the manda posts or the JJKN ravings, came straight from the heart. I'm not ashamed of a single thing I have written; and if i have, i have apologised for it.

That is why it hurts when my freedom of expression comes under fire, simply for having a different opinion. Certain topics have become minefields: one cannot mention them without a belligerent dismissal or malicious humour seeping into the thread.

This is a wake-up call for all of us. Ask yourselves: do you honestly feel that you can let your heart out here anymore? Do you feel that you can discuss things, have fun and relax, without taking sides and having to defend your stand again and again? There was a time when many of us had radically different opinions on Jassi's running away, ahem-ahem, manda mystery, Mona's weight, Purab, SS et al.....and yet there was a healthy respect for each other's opinion. Debates were carried out in the most intelligent and civilised manner. The same topics, if brought up today, lead to threads getting locked. Are we really the same people who wrote so warmly about each other in Lashy's hickory-dickory dock thread? What happened to us? 😭

One reason why things are not the same anymore, is that many people have either left or are not so active anymore, because of personal commitments. But Hema also left, and not because of a personal commitment. She left because she was hurt.

I am tempted to just let this incident pass and go back to my normal level of activity. It was a terrible feeling, leaving the forum like this. Now, since Tina has started posting, maybe i can also start trickling back. But I am afraid that the same cycle will start again in a few days.

Maybe this time, we can ALL work together to bring back the old spirit of our forum? Can we ALL resolve to change, not our opinions, but simply our attitude?

Your PMs and posts have made me feel whole again. I'm sorry for leaving you guys in the lurch. I have met some wonderful people in this place,and it tore at me to be parted from them. I hope everyone, including Hema, returns and we can have our comraderie back.

Neelam di, if you are reading this, please stay on. Don't leave because of us. You have been a guiding light for me and many others. Everyone needs you.

Originally posted by: blyton

Thank you guys. I am really touched.

But there was a reason why I wanted to leave. It was not simply a "childish" impulse to follow in my friend's fotsteps. I had been getting a feeling, for quite a while now, that things are not the same since JJKN ended.

Partly, of course, it is because there are no fresh episodes to discuss and the reruns have also stopped in India. 😡 Despite all this, we all have tried to keep the forum alive by posting interesting tidbits. Tina did her bit by putting up the BLF story and then the rerun updates. In all these months that I have known her, I have never ever read anything by her that can be called remotely insulting or immature. I have marvelled at her patience for persisting in debates, which I dropped out of midway because i was close to losing my temper.

If, after all this, she has to be at the receiving end , then I'm sure no better treatment can be expected for me.

I have been attacked too, and it got to the point where i was unsure whether to post my candid opinion, because i knew it would be attacked and a debate would start again. It does pinch when the basis for criticism is not WHAT is being said but WHO is saying it. I was at the receiving end of a mindset that believed, "Blyton is saying it, so it must be wrong."

Even my updates ("certain fanfics") were subtly mocked for manda mongering. Now everyone knows that the original JJKN had its share of manda moments--or we would never have had a manda mystery. I tried to make them read as if they were actual episodes. And for this....*sigh*

I have always followed one principle in my online postings: Never say anything online that you would not be able to say in the real world. Everything that I wrote here, be it the Mona defences or the manda posts or the JJKN ravings, came straight from the heart. I'm not ashamed of a single thing I have written; and if i have, i have apologised for it.

That is why it hurts when my freedom of expression comes under fire, simply for having a different opinion. Certain topics have become minefields: one cannot mention them without a belligerent dismissal or malicious humour seeping into the thread.

This is a wake-up call for all of us. Ask yourselves: do you honestly feel that you can let your heart out here anymore? Do you feel that you can discuss things, have fun and relax, without taking sides and having to defend your stand again and again? There was a time when many of us had radically different opinions on Jassi's running away, ahem-ahem, manda mystery, Mona's weight, Purab, SS et al.....and yet there was a healthy respect for each other's opinion. Debates were carried out in the most intelligent and civilised manner. The same topics, if brought up today, lead to threads getting locked. Are we really the same people who wrote so warmly about each other in Lashy's hickory-dickory dock thread? What happened to us? 😭

One reason why things are not the same anymore, is that many people have either left or are not so active anymore, because of personal commitments. But Hema also left, and not because of a personal commitment. She left because she was hurt.

I am tempted to just let this incident pass and go back to my normal level of activity. It was a terrible feeling, leaving the forum like this. Now, since Tina has started posting, maybe i can also start trickling back. But I am afraid that the same cycle will start again in a few days.

Maybe this time, we can ALL work together to bring back the old spirit of our forum? Can we ALL resolve to change, not our opinions, but simply our attitude?

Your PMs and posts have made me feel whole again. I'm sorry for leaving you guys in the lurch. I have met some wonderful people in this place,and it tore at me to be parted from them. I hope everyone, including Hema, returns and we can have our comraderie back.

Neelam di, if you are reading this, please stay on. Don't leave because of us. You have been a guiding light for me and many others. Everyone needs you.

Welcome back Blyti!🤗

Blyton,
I read your post. I agree with reason you gave that there are no new episode, show and also no reruns so nothing constructive to discuss. I agree that forum is not the same, but even the show is not running anymore and there are hardly anything to discuss. We had this section archive and all of you asked to get it back. Now that we have our section back all we need is harmony and good healthy discussions. I have not seen any unhealthy or offending discussion in this section until yesterday. If you all are bringing and mixing matters and situations from different section here I don't think it is fair and mature. Each of us here are adult. We can sort out things through either PM or by talking it out. If you open a thread or post about what you feel, you will be leading a debate, but that does not mean you are not given right to speak your heart.

It was sad to see Hema left. But let me tell you this is a public forum. And if you express your views there will be some people to go against your view. Better thing is to debate and just express your self. Sometime some members don't acknowledge, but we all can know what is right and what is not. Or what and whom to believe. I think if we keep on getting offended on small issues it will be hard to live on any public forum.

We don't like to see any of our friend leave, but being miles away and not having access to these friends personally, we can't stop them either. I have seen Tina post in this section since long time. I know she is very sensible, cool tempered member. I myself could not debate with such a patience like she does, maybe that's one of the reason I ignore some threads and don't put my input. However, if I don't express myself that's not end of the world. Best thing for me is I get to meet all my friends here everyday. My ego is not as important as my friends.

Anyways, I don't want to go on and on and on on this. All I want to tell that you guys make this section live. I don't want any of your to leave. Let's just be ourselves and enjoy last stage of this section. We never know when this section gets closed.

Also, one more thing, my time and other commitment does not allow me to go through each and every thread here. If anyone of you think that you are offended in some thread or post, please PM me with that link and I can help you out.

Sowmyaa

Originally posted by: blyton

Thank you guys. I am really touched.

But there was a reason why I wanted to leave. It was not simply a "childish" impulse to follow in my friend's fotsteps. I had been getting a feeling, for quite a while now, that things are not the same since JJKN ended.

Partly, of course, it is because there are no fresh episodes to discuss and the reruns have also stopped in India. 😡 Despite all this, we all have tried to keep the forum alive by posting interesting tidbits. Tina did her bit by putting up the BLF story and then the rerun updates. In all these months that I have known her, I have never ever read anything by her that can be called remotely insulting or immature. I have marvelled at her patience for persisting in debates, which I dropped out of midway because i was close to losing my temper.

If, after all this, she has to be at the receiving end , then I'm sure no better treatment can be expected for me.

I have been attacked too, and it got to the point where i was unsure whether to post my candid opinion, because i knew it would be attacked and a debate would start again. It does pinch when the basis for criticism is not WHAT is being said but WHO is saying it. I was at the receiving end of a mindset that believed, "Blyton is saying it, so it must be wrong."

Even my updates ("certain fanfics") were subtly mocked for manda mongering. Now everyone knows that the original JJKN had its share of manda moments--or we would never have had a manda mystery. I tried to make them read as if they were actual episodes. And for this....*sigh*

I have always followed one principle in my online postings: Never say anything online that you would not be able to say in the real world. Everything that I wrote here, be it the Mona defences or the manda posts or the JJKN ravings, came straight from the heart. I'm not ashamed of a single thing I have written; and if i have, i have apologised for it.

That is why it hurts when my freedom of expression comes under fire, simply for having a different opinion. Certain topics have become minefields: one cannot mention them without a belligerent dismissal or malicious humour seeping into the thread.

This is a wake-up call for all of us. Ask yourselves: do you honestly feel that you can let your heart out here anymore? Do you feel that you can discuss things, have fun and relax, without taking sides and having to defend your stand again and again? There was a time when many of us had radically different opinions on Jassi's running away, ahem-ahem, manda mystery, Mona's weight, Purab, SS et al.....and yet there was a healthy respect for each other's opinion. Debates were carried out in the most intelligent and civilised manner. The same topics, if brought up today, lead to threads getting locked. Are we really the same people who wrote so warmly about each other in Lashy's hickory-dickory dock thread? What happened to us? 😭

One reason why things are not the same anymore, is that many people have either left or are not so active anymore, because of personal commitments. But Hema also left, and not because of a personal commitment. She left because she was hurt.

I am tempted to just let this incident pass and go back to my normal level of activity. It was a terrible feeling, leaving the forum like this. Now, since Tina has started posting, maybe i can also start trickling back. But I am afraid that the same cycle will start again in a few days.

Maybe this time, we can ALL work together to bring back the old spirit of our forum? Can we ALL resolve to change, not our opinions, but simply our attitude?

Your PMs and posts have made me feel whole again. I'm sorry for leaving you guys in the lurch. I have met some wonderful people in this place,and it tore at me to be parted from them. I hope everyone, including Hema, returns and we can have our comraderie back.

Neelam di, if you are reading this, please stay on. Don't leave because of us. You have been a guiding light for me and many others. Everyone needs you.

blyton u are such a sweetheart who has always been a true friend to me. I completely agree with what u have written here.I have always tried to keep the forum alive with BLF, Pics and even videos but still the forum is not enjoyable anymore .

I am sure all the old members woould tell you how healthy debates were here in this forum,I still remember who used to come up with interesting topics to debate on and how both purab and arman fans used to defend in the most civilised manner without attacking or mocking anyone . Now if anyone speaks against any celebrity ,members of the opposition camp attack you as if theres a war going on or a personal battle to win .

I dont mind having healthy debates ,its the language that offends me esp when it becomes personal. The main reason why I posted my goodbye post in this sec was coz u are my closest friends ,why would I say goodbye in the JDJ forum ,where I dont know anyone .Its here that i made my friends and hence found it appropriate to bid godbye here .

anyway , blyton/anjali......I am glad to have u back and lets just try to keep the forum alive with healthy discussions and interesting posts . I hope neelam di would beback with us too .

Originally posted by: sowmyaa

anjuji...where have you been? 😭 It's so nice to see you..... 😳

arey Bindi, i am here only... I have been back to the forum since last week.. I guess u never noticed me😭... aur sunayi kya haal chaal hain???

I am so glad that Tina and Anjali are back and I am sure Neelam di will be back too... welcome back dears. This is what I call healthy spirit. See, our unity and friendship cannot keep us away from this forum.. we will pull each other back to this wonderful place. 😃😳

This problem has been resolved and solved before I even got here 😛 ..thats it acccha bache, shake hands and put the past behind you for a brighter future in the JJKN forum...hamesha 😳

Nice to hear that nobody's leaving😃

Let's bring the best and lively JJKN forum back

Cheers

Pj😛