If Tina leaves...i leave too!!! - Page 5

Originally posted by: sowmyaa

Blyton,

But let me tell you this is a public forum. And if you express your views there will be some people to go against your view. Better thing is to debate and just express your self. Sometime some members don't acknowledge, but we all can know what is right and what is not. Or what and whom to believe. I think if we keep on getting offended on small issues it will be hard to live on any public forum.

I totally agree with Sowmyaa. When you post on a public forum, people are bound to disagree and express their disagreement, maybe even ridicule your viewpoint or attack you personally. It happens all the times, even at home where we are among our loved ones, at work place, school, college, playground, everywhere. We can't quit all places all the time. We just need to cultivate enough strength in ourselves that we are strong enough to express ourselves and then hear out what others have to say. Sometimes, some words can tear the soul apart, undermine your self-esteem and hit you hard. The person who has done it to you is the last one to come to your rescue, because they are no where in agreement with you. A third party might have a totally different opinion and maynot agree with either of you. So you are the only one left to either loose it all, or gather yourself anf stand up strong again. You have to learn to ignore things that disturb you most, because the more you think about it the more it hurts. The less you think about it, the less it disturbs. Distractions are easy to find, there is always so much to do, so why let it burn you. Its not a bullet that hit you, there is no mark. So why keep thinking about it. You can instead think about something that brings pleasure to you. What I personally do when I post things on public forums that are bound to get a mixed response and if I know that I feel too strongly about my opinion, I just post it and don't go back to it. Generally, people debate strongly with the person who posts it. But when you are not there, your opinion is. And if I read something that is disturbing, I just don't go back to it. Don't we read books and don't we disagree with the authors. What do we do about it?

And as to someone said something that is offending to me, it happens all the time, so why should it stop me. I have posted it before on this forum and I will do it again. In the book Gone with the wind, Rhett Butler tells Scarlet " There is an oriental proverb: Dogs bark, but the caravan passes on. There is nothing that will stop your caravan from passing on." Why should anyone have that power or hold over you that it should stop your caravan right in the middle of the dessert. In the end it is you yourself who can liberate youself from what hurts you or for that matter your fears too. Running away from a situation will never take the hurt away. Only when we will deal with the hurt will we be able to get free from it.

On a lighter note find the video for "Tham ja zindagi" and enjoy it😊

Good to see things solved 😊

Its true then...we ARE the JJKN family 😳 🤗

Originally posted by: sowmyaa

Blyton,

I read your post. I agree with reason you gave that there are no new episode, show and also no reruns so nothing constructive to discuss. I agree that forum is not the same, but even the show is not running anymore and there are hardly anything to discuss. We had this section archive and all of you asked to get it back. Now that we have our section back all we need is harmony and good healthy discussions. I have not seen any unhealthy or offending discussion in this section until yesterday. If you all are bringing and mixing matters and situations from different section here I don't think it is fair and mature. Each of us here are adult. We can sort out things through either PM or by talking it out. If you open a thread or post about what you feel, you will be leading a debate, but that does not mean you are not given right to speak your heart.

It was sad to see Hema left. But let me tell you this is a public forum. And if you express your views there will be some people to go against your view. Better thing is to debate and just express your self. Sometime some members don't acknowledge, but we all can know what is right and what is not. Or what and whom to believe. I think if we keep on getting offended on small issues it will be hard to live on any public forum.

We don't like to see any of our friend leave, but being miles away and not having access to these friends personally, we can't stop them either. I have seen Tina post in this section since long time. I know she is very sensible, cool tempered member. I myself could not debate with such a patience like she does, maybe that's one of the reason I ignore some threads and don't put my input. However, if I don't express myself that's not end of the world. Best thing for me is I get to meet all my friends here everyday. My ego is not as important as my friends.

Anyways, I don't want to go on and on and on on this. All I want to tell that you guys make this section live. I don't want any of your to leave. Let's just be ourselves and enjoy last stage of this section. We never know when this section gets closed.

Also, one more thing, my time and other commitment does not allow me to go through each and every thread here. If anyone of you think that you are offended in some thread or post, please PM me with that link and I can help you out.

Sowmyaa

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Originally posted by: drrkamra

I totally agree with Sowmyaa. When you post on a public forum, people are bound to disagree and express their disagreement, maybe even ridicule your viewpoint or attack you personally. It happens all the times, even at home where we are among our loved ones, at work place, school, college, playground, everywhere. We can't quit all places all the time. We just need to cultivate enough strength in ourselves that we are strong enough to express ourselves and then hear out what others have to say. Sometimes, some words can tear the soul apart, undermine your self-esteem and hit you hard. The person who has done it to you is the last one to come to your rescue, because they are no where in agreement with you. A third party might have a totally different opinion and maynot agree with either of you. So you are the only one left to either loose it all, or gather yourself anf stand up strong again. You have to learn to ignore things that disturb you most, because the more you think about it the more it hurts. The less you think about it, the less it disturbs. Distractions are easy to find, there is always so much to do, so why let it burn you. Its not a bullet that hit you, there is no mark. So why keep thinking about it. You can instead think about something that brings pleasure to you. What I personally do when I post things on public forums that are bound to get a mixed response and if I know that I feel too strongly about my opinion, I just post it and don't go back to it. Generally, people debate strongly with the person who posts it. But when you are not there, your opinion is. And if I read something that is disturbing, I just don't go back to it. Don't we read books and don't we disagree with the authors. What do we do about it?

And as to someone said something that is offending to me, it happens all the time, so why should it stop me. I have posted it before on this forum and I will do it again. In the book Gone with the wind, Rhett Butler tells Scarlet " There is an oriental proverb: Dogs bark, but the caravan passes on. There is nothing that will stop your caravan from passing on." Why should anyone have that power or hold over you that it should stop your caravan right in the middle of the dessert. In the end it is you yourself who can liberate youself from what hurts you or for that matter your fears too. Running away from a situation will never take the hurt away. Only when we will deal with the hurt will we be able to get free from it.

On a lighter note find the video for "Tham ja zindagi" and enjoy it😊

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Very well said both of you👏....Its a public forum,and people from all walks of life,and people of all ilks meet here...some are polite,some are downright rude,some are funloving,some are argumentative,some are rough diamonds,some are the proverbial "iron fist in the velvet glove" just as in life....We need to CHOSE our friends,and CHOSE the people we would care about and who matter to us...and If incase our judgment is wrong,Its time to MOVE ON!

I dont get along with so many,I chose to avoid their posts and threads,simply because those posts are not my cup of tea...So many have been rude to me,I simply dont acknowledge their existence,thus less heartburns,less emotional turmoil,less dejection....

As sowmyaa said,when someone disagrees with you,just debate,and if the other person cant reciprocate your decensy,civility and politesse,they are best IGNORED!..Just as when we have an pesky colleague or classmate,we avoid them....But leaving the class/office for this ONE irksome person is stupidity.....Its sad hema left,but she was too over sensitive,and seriously,a tunnel vision simply doesnt help,especially on public forums!

C'mon people,public forums are not all roses,akin to life....We cant afford to waste precious time moping over the ones who have been rude or disrespectful...We come to IF for fun,and there's loads of fun,but just as in every place,there would be many throns in your flesh too who deserve IGNORANCE not ATTENTION.... sometimes Its better to look at things through rose tinted glasses.....😃

This forum uis here so we can discuss our fav shows not to talk about anything else. So in my opinion if you gonna stay post somethin abt jjkn or read somthing abt it. but if your not then leave and dont make it so emotional because this is a forum

Originally posted by: sowmyaa

no one is leaving and going anywhere.... i am closing the gate so no one can leave 😡

yaar buffie bhi kitni achi achi mature baten likhi hain read taht and don't leave. we come here for just fun. really we have life ..the real life with school, homework, husband, kids, chores, work etc. etc. that just suck you up and tire you then you come to IF where you can behave like careless lavish child and person and basher and wahtever you want...why do we have to get sad and give stress to our brain here too....😕 ..chalo yaar jagda jagdi bandh karo gandhiji ko yaad karo... let's just have fun ignore things that other unknow faces write to you and move on 😃 it's not that hard is it?

so blyti, tina, neelam di no one is leaving. period!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!😛

Bindi di thanks a lot. This time your gift the Lock meena di given you came in use properly. Love you bindi di🤗.

Oh meri Anjali
Ab tum kaha Chali
Hume mat rulao
ab tho ajao
Gale lag jao

Wada karo kabhi na chorenge tum mere saath
jaha tum ho wahan main bhi hun - This is one of my favourite song.

Neelam di hota hai asia kabhi kabhi
ise dard mat samjho

Aaaaaaaaaa dheke jara kisme kitna hai dam
haske rakhna kadam meri sathiyan 😃

Please don't think I am mad. As i login today first I got pm Tina di not leaving. Then this thread every one happy. 😃

Originally posted by: fan no 1 jjkn

Oh meri Anjali
Ab tum kaha Chali
Hume mat rulao
ab tho ajao
Gale lag jao

Wada karo kabhi na chorenge tum mere saath
jaha tum ho wahan main bhi hun - This is one of my favourite song.

Neelam di hota hai asia kabhi kabhi
ise dard mat samjho

Aaaaaaaaaa dheke jara kisme kitna hai dam
haske rakhna kadam meri sathiyan 😃

Please don't think I am mad. As i login today first I got pm Tina di not leaving. Then this thread every one happy. 😃

aww so cute such di😛

Originally posted by: drrkamra

I totally agree with Sowmyaa. When you post on a public forum, people are bound to disagree and express their disagreement, maybe even ridicule your viewpoint or attack you personally. It happens all the times, even at home where we are among our loved ones, at work place, school, college, playground, everywhere. We can't quit all places all the time. We just need to cultivate enough strength in ourselves that we are strong enough to express ourselves and then hear out what others have to say. Sometimes, some words can tear the soul apart, undermine your self-esteem and hit you hard. The person who has done it to you is the last one to come to your rescue, because they are no where in agreement with you. A third party might have a totally different opinion and maynot agree with either of you. So you are the only one left to either loose it all, or gather yourself anf stand up strong again. You have to learn to ignore things that disturb you most, because the more you think about it the more it hurts. The less you think about it, the less it disturbs. Distractions are easy to find, there is always so much to do, so why let it burn you. Its not a bullet that hit you, there is no mark. So why keep thinking about it. You can instead think about something that brings pleasure to you. What I personally do when I post things on public forums that are bound to get a mixed response and if I know that I feel too strongly about my opinion, I just post it and don't go back to it. Generally, people debate strongly with the person who posts it. But when you are not there, your opinion is. And if I read something that is disturbing, I just don't go back to it. Don't we read books and don't we disagree with the authors. What do we do about it?

And as to someone said something that is offending to me, it happens all the time, so why should it stop me. I have posted it before on this forum and I will do it again. In the book Gone with the wind, Rhett Butler tells Scarlet " There is an oriental proverb: Dogs bark, but the caravan passes on. There is nothing that will stop your caravan from passing on." Why should anyone have that power or hold over you that it should stop your caravan right in the middle of the dessert. In the end it is you yourself who can liberate youself from what hurts you or for that matter your fears too. Running away from a situation will never take the hurt away. Only when we will deal with the hurt will we be able to get free from it.

On a lighter note find the video for "Tham ja zindagi" and enjoy it😊

very well said.👏👏👏

Originally posted by: fan no 1 jjkn

Oh meri Anjali
Ab tum kaha Chali
Hume mat rulao
ab tho ajao
Gale lag jao

Wada karo kabhi na chorenge tum mere saath
jaha tum ho wahan main bhi hun - This is one of my favourite song.

Neelam di hota hai asia kabhi kabhi
ise dard mat samjho

Aaaaaaaaaa dheke jara kisme kitna hai dam
haske rakhna kadam meri sathiyan 😃

Please don't think I am mad. As i login today first I got pm Tina di not leaving. Then this thread every one happy. 😃

Sooooooooooooo sweeeeeeeeeeeeeeet, SUCH. Darling, Hum to kab ke dard ko siney se laga kar jina jaan chuke hai. All of you girls are forcing me to come back and share my feelings.

I think our love and friendship is lot more stronger than hate and ego in few mambers. I never had any personal problems on JJKN Forum, but when I read lots of rude replies to other members, I simply cannot tolerate and I am not here to change anyone. But I think we should all remember one thing: Make sure we don't write anything offensive to begin with Because its very easy to say IGNORE but hard to IGNORE rude and offensive posts from our own I-F members especially JJKN Forum GANG. We are here to have fun and we should make sure in future ( including me) that no one gets hurt with our harsh words. Harsh words say lot more than what we think we are trying to say to our dear friends on the forum.

Originally posted by: veekay

very well said.👏👏👏

Thanks for your kinds and touching words, Sowmyaa.👏👏👏