wow....whew Rumi, you put me in such a romantic mood that I hada call my husband! 😛
Ok, so I have been in a few relationships...I had one boyfriend whom I dated for five years! When we first met, he was so in love...and he would always tell me that he loved me and did cute little things for me...and finally me made fall in love...and he wanted to marry me and kept telling me that...but when it came down to it, he couldn't do it...he couldn't disobey his mother since he was muslim and I was hindu...
Now before you guys jump down my throat and ask me why did I date someone for five years if the relationship was going no where. I want to tell you that we shared a lot of good times and I wouldn't trade that for the world, plus we had quite a carefree relationship...no worries...no family issues. I liked to refer to it as timepass. I met my husband while I was still dating him. As soon as I told this boy that I had met someone new, he hopped on the first flight, got married and came back with his wife. 😆 I take it he did wanted to beat me to the alter, before anyone could say I dropped him. Oh, well. Six months later, he was divorced. My friends and family said that is what he deserved, but I don't think so...if things didn't work out between us oh well...I sorta knew he wasn't the one for me.
The reason I share this story is cuz ladies, when a relationship doesn't work out, don't cry over it! For the following reason:
I met my husband online...I was registered with indianmarriages.com. I went out with a few guys. 🤢 Then this one day, I receive an email that was about two pages long. My husband told me everything about himself...who he was...what he did...what he wanted...his hopes...I thought it was so funny I sent it to my girlfriend and we got a riot out of his email. However, I still emailed him back and finally we chatted over the phone.My husband at that point was living in Toronto. I don't know how I found the courage or what happened but I decided to fly out to Vancouver to meet him. I figured if things didn't work out, I could at least visit some family. That night he told me that we were meant to be and we were gonna get married...I nearly puked. 🤢
My husband is quite the romantic and because of him, I have learned to be more romantic...otherwise people were starting to think I was weird. He is quite the romantic and some consider me the man in the relationship and him the woman...he is over sensitive and I am what is the big deal, put a lid on it.
Anyway, I guess it was love at first sight...we hit it off. Our next meeting was about a month later in Toronto...it was still romantic...we had dinner at the CN tower, went on one of those small planes and saw all of Toronto and we saw Niagara Falls. Unfortunately, as I have said I am not a romantic and I said that we should get married and I made him marry me within three months of us meeting each other so there is no proposal story. Thank god both our parents approved! His parents were just happy that he got married to an indian girl and my parents were just happy I was getting married. They were quite traumatized by my earlier relationship and me not seeing the reason we had to get married.
We had two memorable weddings. We had a huge western ceremony in Calgary for this family and friends and we had a traditional hindu wedding in California for my family and friends. Our wedding in Calgary was much more romantic and I felt like I was in a fairy tale...the indian wedding was just to technical...everyone has something to say, but in the end everything worked out wonderful. My husband told me that he would marry me again, but for the third wedding I need to hire a replacement....
My point to add in the b/f previous to my husband was that I thought that this is as good as it gets, but I was so wrong. Sometimes dreams do come true and my husband has tried really hard to make all my dreams come true. I can't even say that I am able to come close to being the person that he is and I don't even know how to repay him. If I lost my hubby I would be to blame and I would be in big trouble.
All relationships have their ups and downs...only god knows we have, but even after all the arguing and bickering that sometimes engulfs us...I still wouldn't change my hubby for the worlds....not even Armaan.
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Bade Achche Lagte Hain Naya Season
