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I am really trying to balance between both sides of the coin so please read with an open mind.
As one says moderation is the golden rule when sticking to one train of thought. If you feel something for or something against a particular thing (even if you are going to do it for a good cause) you will receive criticism. So its generally best to be mild about expressing your views
I vaguely remember originally when I joined, apoorva had a massive fan following and a lot of spam fan posts. Rules were made to prevent that and dedicating threads to "i love apoorva" were minimised.
Similarly now, we say that Shilpa is doing a major mistake of bragging about her relationship with Apoorva everywhere. However, are we not doing the same mistake if we discuss about Shilpa and her behaviour or dress everytime? We are essentially doing what we are criticizing her for; only in a different concept/angle.
There is nothing wrong when it comes to discussing about Actor's Actress's personal lives. However, that cannot be the only thing discussed everyday either. If there was a post criticisizing Shilpa's dressing sense once in a week or occassionally (let's say it's no secret that no one is a fan of shilpa's wardrobe) then all of us would laugh it off and forget about it. However, only posting pictures everyday to discuss fashion sense is not acceptable just as how spamming the forum with "Apoorva - We love you posts are not acceptable".
Now, this is not new. I have explained to numerous members of what is permissible and what is not. As someone mentioned above, nothing is black and white -everything is grey. So, I generally use discretion to decide whether a particular post can be passed off or not. If the poster has done it in as an occassional passing post for a few laughs the thread can be passed. However, it cannot become a regularity. That is why some threads are closed and others are not depending on the pretext of it.
Now having said this some members also find it impossible to listen to any form of criticism whether it be someone's looks/acting capabilities or weight. And this is also as unacceptable as continuous bashing is.
* If something is wrong about a person's acting/character in the serial - criticisms are most welcome
** criticisms about actor's or actresses personal lives are welcome if level headed and the occassion calls for it (i.e. when some particular incident has come to light)
** criticisms about dressing sense and hair dye even more occassional
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Now coming to the present problem that has occured, I really do wish this matter was not taken to the KSBKBT thread. There was a major problem some weeks back (at that time everyone was a fan of Apoorva and Mona) between the KYPH and JJKN sections because they had lifted a thread from here and were commenting about it.
Though the KSBKBT section didnt lift a thread from here, they were taken aback to see such strong views about the article particularly when they do not have as much Shilpa aggravation in that forum. Even if something was to be expressed, one post claiming what one thought should have sufficed. The views by the JJKN members in that thread were very strong (that is even before personal attack started).
However, having said all that; I personally feel it is the other person who took the thread to a whole new level and undertook personal attack calling for retaliation. I am not justifying retaliation and that is precisely what we are advising against. However, this person has always been very clever in trying to instigate certain members and start fights. I have constantly seen how she has been very very cunning in making personal attacks against some members and even mods of this forum. In that thread, I think she is the prime offender and I think a warning is too mild .
I know it is a long post. However, I wanted to be as frank as possible and this is just what I think. At the end of it, I really dont want hard feelings - all of us are friends here before being fans of the show. I am really very very very sorry if I have hurt anyone and I try thinking of anything in as open a mind as possible. However, being human; I could have gone wrong in many places and I apologise for all those faulty instances of judgement that I would have.
I think Buffie is the lifeline of this forum and her leaving would pain many-a-heart and definitely pain mine. I really hope everyone understands that no one is happy with this and I hope things are resolved. Lets close this chapter and open everything with a new leaf, a fresh start and a new day... 🤗
As one says moderation is the golden rule when sticking to one train of thought. If you feel something for or something against a particular thing (even if you are going to do it for a good cause) you will receive criticism. So its generally best to be mild about expressing your views
I vaguely remember originally when I joined, apoorva had a massive fan following and a lot of spam fan posts. Rules were made to prevent that and dedicating threads to "i love apoorva" were minimised.
Similarly now, we say that Shilpa is doing a major mistake of bragging about her relationship with Apoorva everywhere. However, are we not doing the same mistake if we discuss about Shilpa and her behaviour or dress everytime? We are essentially doing what we are criticizing her for; only in a different concept/angle.
There is nothing wrong when it comes to discussing about Actor's Actress's personal lives. However, that cannot be the only thing discussed everyday either. If there was a post criticisizing Shilpa's dressing sense once in a week or occassionally (let's say it's no secret that no one is a fan of shilpa's wardrobe) then all of us would laugh it off and forget about it. However, only posting pictures everyday to discuss fashion sense is not acceptable just as how spamming the forum with "Apoorva - We love you posts are not acceptable".
Now, this is not new. I have explained to numerous members of what is permissible and what is not. As someone mentioned above, nothing is black and white -everything is grey. So, I generally use discretion to decide whether a particular post can be passed off or not. If the poster has done it in as an occassional passing post for a few laughs the thread can be passed. However, it cannot become a regularity. That is why some threads are closed and others are not depending on the pretext of it.
Now having said this some members also find it impossible to listen to any form of criticism whether it be someone's looks/acting capabilities or weight. And this is also as unacceptable as continuous bashing is.
* If something is wrong about a person's acting/character in the serial - criticisms are most welcome
** criticisms about actor's or actresses personal lives are welcome if level headed and the occassion calls for it (i.e. when some particular incident has come to light)
** criticisms about dressing sense and hair dye even more occassional
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Now coming to the present problem that has occured, I really do wish this matter was not taken to the KSBKBT thread. There was a major problem some weeks back (at that time everyone was a fan of Apoorva and Mona) between the KYPH and JJKN sections because they had lifted a thread from here and were commenting about it.
Though the KSBKBT section didnt lift a thread from here, they were taken aback to see such strong views about the article particularly when they do not have as much Shilpa aggravation in that forum. Even if something was to be expressed, one post claiming what one thought should have sufficed. The views by the JJKN members in that thread were very strong (that is even before personal attack started).
However, having said all that; I personally feel it is the other person who took the thread to a whole new level and undertook personal attack calling for retaliation. I am not justifying retaliation and that is precisely what we are advising against. However, this person has always been very clever in trying to instigate certain members and start fights. I have constantly seen how she has been very very cunning in making personal attacks against some members and even mods of this forum. In that thread, I think she is the prime offender and I think a warning is too mild .
I know it is a long post. However, I wanted to be as frank as possible and this is just what I think. At the end of it, I really dont want hard feelings - all of us are friends here before being fans of the show. I am really very very very sorry if I have hurt anyone and I try thinking of anything in as open a mind as possible. However, being human; I could have gone wrong in many places and I apologise for all those faulty instances of judgement that I would have.
I think Buffie is the lifeline of this forum and her leaving would pain many-a-heart and definitely pain mine. I really hope everyone understands that no one is happy with this and I hope things are resolved. Lets close this chapter and open everything with a new leaf, a fresh start and a new day... 🤗
