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Posted: 9 years ago
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I've seen posts where some people have said that Roshini can't be in shock anymore or that she should be over the shock of DD's death by now or that she loved her mother more than Sid and never loved him life he loved her.

In all seriousness, TV show aside.

You don't just get over losing a loved one. Its a loss that stays with you for life. The pain never goes away. We only get used to lt. Everyone is different and therefore people react differently. They move on at different paces. Grief can bring people close or it can drive people away from one another.

No one comes out of losing a loved one unscarred. People change. Their way of thinking, their goals, their habits, their like and dislikes; everything can change. This can happen even when we lose someone naturally. So think how much losing someone tragically can impact a person.

It shakes your entire world. Suddenly you begin questioning everything you ever knew. You begin questioning right and wrong. The purpose of life. The purpose of having relationships at all.

At times the pain can be so overwhelming that it makes you think being alone is better than being with people because the fear of losing them and the pain that will come with losing them is far too much to bear. It is hard to see reason and logic when you, your life is immersed in darkness. When the pain overwhelms, takes over every other emotions.

When you begin to think you're the cause of problem in the lives of people you love. You want to go away from them in order to protect them. You want to do the right thing but you don't realize the choice wasn't yours to make.

Also grief over losing one person in your life doesn't mean you don't love anyone else as much. Everyone has their own place in a person's life. A different relationship with them. Parents and spouses are different. How we love them is different. How we act and face situations with them is different. With parents you want to their support but you don't want to burden them. With your partners you want to share the burden with them. (This again is my opinion.)

I'm not saying grief and pain is a reason enough to changes wrong into right, Nothing can do that. I'm just saying that a wrong decision doesn't make the person wrong. It doesn't make them undeserving of love. It doesn't define them. It doesn't nullify all the right that they've done in their life.

It's just a friendly unsolicited advice from someone who's been on both ends. You can apply it to reel and real life. () Be patient and empathic towards someone who has lost a loved one or is suffering through a psychological disease. (Depression, anxiety, disorders, etc) You can't imagine the pain they are going through. Their minds are literally a mess. That is the time they need your kindness, your love and support the most. Try to be forgiving. To be understanding. And again I repeat patient. You have no idea how far a simple assurance or a small act of kindness can mean to them or how far it can take them.

It's okay if you don't do this for Tv characters but when it comes to actual people this is so very important.

Stay blessed all, šŸ‘šŸ¼

Em

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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: can_pak

I've seen posts where some people have said that Roshini can't be in shock anymore or that she should be over the shock of DD's death by now or that she loved her mother more than Sid and never loved him life he loved her.

In all seriousness, TV show aside.

You don't just get over losing a loved one. Its a loss that stays with you for life. The pain never goes away. We only get used to lt. Everyone is different and therefore people react differently. They move on at different paces. Grief can bring people close or it can drive people away from one another.

No one comes out of losing a loved one unscarred. People change. Their way of thinking, their goals, their habits, their like and dislikes; everything can change. This can happen even when we lose someone naturally. So think how much losing someone tragically can impact a person.

It shakes your entire world. Suddenly you begin questioning everything you ever knew. You begin questioning right and wrong. The purpose of life. The purpose of having relationships at all.

At times the pain can be so overwhelming that it makes you think being alone is better than being with people because the fear of losing them and the pain that will come with losing them is far too much to bear. It is hard to see reason and logic when you, your life is immersed in darkness. When the pain overwhelms, takes over every other emotions.

When you begin to think you're the cause of problem in the lives of people you love. You want to go away from them in order to protect them. You want to do the right thing but you don't realize the choice wasn't yours to make.

Also grief over losing one person in your life doesn't mean you don't love anyone else as much. Everyone has their own place in a person's life. A different relationship with them. Parents and spouses are different. How we love them is different. How we act and face situations with them is different. With parents you want to their support but you don't want to burden them. With your partners you want to share the burden with them. (This again is my opinion.)

I'm not saying grief and pain is a reason enough to changes wrong into right, Nothing can do that. I'm just saying that a wrong decision doesn't make the person wrong. It doesn't make them undeserving of love. It doesn't define them. It doesn't nullify all the right that they've done in their life.

It's just a friendly unsolicited advice from someone who's been on both ends. You can apply it to reel and real life. () Be patient and empathic towards someone who has lost a loved one or is suffering through a psychological disease. (Depression, anxiety, disorders, etc) You can't imagine the pain they are going through. Their minds are literally a mess. That is the time they need your kindness, your love and support the most. Try to be forgiving. To be understanding. And again I repeat patient. You have no idea how far a simple assurance or a small act of kindness can mean to them or how far it can take them.

It's okay if you don't do this for Tv characters but when it comes to actual people this is so very important.

Stay blessed all, šŸ‘šŸ¼

Em


I totally agree! It takes at least a year to get over someone's death psychologically, and I would imagine even more for Roshni, especially she is an emotional character in general.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Wowww...wjay a post yaaršŸ‘
I will give more claps for ur post..
Perfectly written..for real life and reel life..too..real life..whatever u said..yes perfectly.. It may take years years to CME out of a shock...
Anyways I loved one of ur sentence
This one- true yaar ..Roshni did a mistake but she does t know its a mistake when she realises she wkl get sid..
If she did a mistake it doesn't mean.she doesn't deserve..
Very well saidšŸ‘
Nothing can do that. I'm just saying that a wrong decision doesn't make the person wrong. It doesn't make them undeserving of love. It doesn't define them. It doesn't nullify all the right that they've done in their life.

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Posted: 9 years ago
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Wowww yaar ur post are so well written. ..I loved everything u said and I agree with everything. ...
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Posted: 9 years ago
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nice post dear..i agree with you...wrong decisions doesn't make u bad person...šŸ˜› its time or Roshni to realize how wrong she was in taking decision about their lovešŸ˜‰

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