res..will edit in sometime..and this sometime can be long..
some of the thoughts which i was going through plus some others
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I believe nothing is right or wrong unless something mentioned on paper as laws.It all depends on the perception.
Maturity can not be judged by age.Its reflected from what one writes.From what one thinks.From the way how one react to certain situation(here news,information,others opinion).
Maturity is not just writing big words but also practicing what one preach.Maturity is also when one start ignoring things(which is not their interest) or respectfully disagree without stooping low to prove that I am right and you are wrong.Maturity also means to acknowledge that we all are different and difference in opinion is natural.Maturity also means when one has the courage to accept ones fault without blaming onto others.These are my POV and one can agree or disagree to this.
If we talk about influencing then what I have observed in this forum is people choose the group according to their vested interest(like minded people,over here its choosing your most fav,choosing something which will entertain you and give a some time happiness).
For eg:in last 3 months there were equal posts on Barun called a liar,unprofessional,abusing Gul,conspiracy theory,okay with whatever happening and accepting that everything is normal and no one is wrong.And I must say all post will equally influencing.And all the posts were made on the same sets of available information.But everyone inferred in their own way.And what one chose to believe was again a vested interest(i.e what makes them happy).No one can influence you until you want to get influenced.Be it be teen or adult.
Anonymity is something which I have always mentioned in my post.We take the advantage of this mask to abuse actors,PH,channel and the fellow forum members.
And its just not the last incidence of Barun's leave that mad gossip.It started with Daljeet's leave/negotiation.I was shocked to see forum gossiping about her intentions,abusing Dalejeet,calling names,mocking at her and for what just because she thought for her career.And surprisingly i thought this forum has adults,working people who understand the importance of career.
And as someone mentioned about cyber bullying.Is this not cyber bullying that one questions an actor because of character to the extent that the actor has to come in public and give an explanation.But no here people think its their right to know things and actor's duty to answer as they are public figure.Last I knew actor's duty was to act and he/she is answerable only to their employers related to something with their job.
Then comes Gautam Hegde's twits.That person was irritated to the heights and when he gave a direct answer people took it as poor PR.And then Gautam and Deepali both left twitter.
Then Gul and Barun.These 2 were tortured the most.And these 2 were harassed to the extent that they have to arrange an interview in spite of their busy schedules.Though the actor gave 3 interviews separately repeating same things again and again.
I have seen adults and teens both questioning someone if he/she wants to move ahead in his career.I have seen adults and teens applauding another forum member for a hate letter.I have seen adult and teens calling a general interview as scripted.I have seen adult and teens both using an abuse and calls it a constructive criticism(my definition of constructive is only valid if I have all information available and its without any mere assumptions) towards PH,actor,channel.I have seen both adults and teens making inferences or judgements,passing comments based on their assumptions and blaming someone or the other for anything that has gone wrong knowing none of knows the actual behind the camera story completely.I have seen both adult and teens passing comments on some one's personal life..accusing actor that he has used his personal pics to remain in news..accused another PH that they are using actor's personal pics for publicity...So where does an adult stands better than a teen or teen stands better than adults?
Again a shocking appreciation of Gossip was Zee_news.I still see people appreciating zee_news for the correct news but no one ever thought that how unprofessional and unethical was it to leak a confidential news before time.And it was the beginning of gossip.Those people come and leak information because similar kind of people have been entertained here.And then never ending self claimed sources.The news being true or false comes later for me,its the way the news comes thats important.And then the gossips never ended.
Media sales what customers buys.Media print news which will sell well.And thats what the rumor word has got so importance in media world.When an actor,PH and channel gives a proper interview people call it scripted,liar and what not.So,its not that people have not been provided with information but its upto people to choose what they want to believe.
This is a big bad world.And I believe no parent intentionally will like to kick their children which has a negative impact.I feel this forum is a much better place than other websites available on internet.And its not always teens fault.Sometimes they are provoked and sometimes they are under estimated in their activity.This forum has its advantages and disadvantages equally like any other source of entertainment available.I have seen the obsession and disliking this forum has for their favorites or non-favorites in extremes.And its just not teens for whom its not good but also for adults.All one need is self monitoring.
Fans has no age.I remember watching KBC last year and I have seen ladies reactions on seeing or listening to Amitabh Bachhan.Personally I will or had never do/done this.But neither do I laugh at those who behaves like this.
But here I have seen fans(be it be SI or BS or DB or anyone's fans)are mocked at.Fans have no age.All I know fans are dedicated then be it be SRK's or Rajinikant's or Sachin's or Salman's or Amitabh's.I have also seen people who uses their fav as their role model and their inspiration.
If someone says me this forum's adults are better than teens in anyways I will just laugh at it.Because I have never seen that.This forum has only shown the fan dedication towards their respective favorites and hatred towards someone they do not like(or their decision does not pleases me) and has gone to any level to prove their point and hurt someone who do not agree to their opinion.
Another thing is humor and sarcasm as temparance mentioned.I very much agree to her points.
Humor in my understanding is different from mocking.Why do one need someone else to have fun among an own group.Its selfishness.Is n't it more better to laugh at oneself instead of laughing at others.I call that a good humor.And I have seen people who actually have good sense of humor.Its so easy to make fun of other people and their emotions intentionally or unintentionally.If one believe he/she has good sense of humor then prove it by laughing at own self.Because in that way you are not hurting anyone.And it requires actual creativity.
Edited by coolnisha_fun87 - 13 years ago
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