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Originally posted by: riti4u

we both are so alike when it comes to anger too...🤗..I loved what you wrote about holding it back and indeed di...it is with only those people whom we love the most ..aww you find nice qualities in me too 🤗..thank you a sure leo quality in me- I love my praises...😆..but it is always good to discuss things with you ..you bring your experience out in very beautiful and intelligent way.. I understand things in very clear manner.. as for ASR di..yeah he is honest isnt he...no manipulation, straight forward person...and though ppl may think otherwise..I see a very selfless man in him...always thinkin of others- be it his di or be his khushi...he weighs their happiness way above his own... even in bday fiasco by CV..see what our ASR did.. he was not hurt that noone wished him n how his small wish ws nt fulfilled...he was more hurt that he hurt his khushi...😭..aww have I told you that I just love this fictional character a lot...

Originally posted by: SaraJL

I agree!
That's why I felt so bad the way he was treated in his own birthday by Khushi, after long preaching in her birthday. That was very rude of her both times.
I don't know for me I love ASR the old one that's why I started watching this show, if they wanted to change him then there is no point in this opposite attracts concept.
He is changed so much that I can see Khushi in him.
Honestly, for me ASR the old one was very charismatic, now everything is gone. I can't feel the same thing for this character any more.
CV's totally butchered him bad. Seriously, people might change, but not like this the way they are showing is annoying.
No one can leave their originality in 5 minutes that's impossible!
Why he needs to be change so bad and every part? there was nothing good about him? then why Khushi was so attracted towards him? what's the point of showing all this before?
I just don't understand this anymore.

Originally posted by: indi52

hi sarajl,

good to see you. we are all hurting a bit at this unnecessary barging in and changing of asr, aren't we. i also love him as he is. to realise your feelings and let that show is lovely. but you don't have to become someone else.

which is why i asked, if we had to change him entirely why create him at all? and let's not lie, all of us here, whatever our personalities, were all turned on in an inexplicable way by this character. if we had hated him we wouldn't have been interested in a love story about him. it was not just barun sobti. it was asr.

but you know, such big characters, iconoclastic, so individualistic we finally feel dwarfed by, then we judge, and try to cut him down to be more like us. some of us squirm at this. but many feel comforted, he becomes nice and controllable, arnav baba, not asr/arrrnavji/laad governor/arnav.

if you've read fountainhead, you'll remember roark and how difficult it was for people to take his unique ways.

Originally posted by: SaraJL

Originally posted by: indi52

lovely. anger is so much a part of me i forget to mention it. my temper is known in certain circles and possibly has damaged many unknowingly. over the years, how hard i've tried to control my anger and its natural expression: a torrent of really hurtful words. why do you think i understand and empathise with their fights so much. even today, a friend can't get over the fact that my husband and i aren't scrapping all the time, with me screaming and crying and throwing things. my mother used to say till i've yelled at someone she knows they are not that precious to me. i scream at those i love the most. i know what will hurt them and i say it. sometimes the anger banishes thought and the nastiest words flow out. yet, i know if i control it too much it will only get worse. so with my loved ones now i talk about it. tell my daughter not to trust my screaming voice, to feel my love and yay for her in my heart, to know ma has that weird other side. we all do in our own way i guess.

asr's gussa is a little more ready to go than mine, but then he's 28, only now touched by love. will he become a calm saint over time? i doubt it. i somehow trust people who get angry and show it. we all have aggression, a certain amount is needed tpo survive. mine and yours and asr's are all out their, expressed. over and done with. then there are the ones who show it in a passive way. like khushi. it's really hard to handle this difference. usually the ones like asr lose out, because everyone sees and are upset by taht anger. but as you say, such people when they realise, really ask for forgiveness and know they need to. i can live with that.

there i wrote the book. and guess what, i can see your straight forward, non manipulative, say it as it is, honest asr side too, riti. remember our religion takkar. all of it was there.

Originally posted by: indi52

spirit,

just spirit him away to safer arms and unguarded full adoration, will you? 😆 when the cooking started the tv had to be turned off. but then the just watch mantra was uttered and acted upon. dumb me, can't figure out who is odb. our deadly boy? our dear barun? you know, parsha knows i'm from a different planet and calls me alien dii. think i can negotiate the return of the script from those red planet people?

see you. soon.

Originally posted by: spirit

Thought I was the only one from another planet here on this forum who wasn't aware of its meaning, ODB refers to our dear boy as I was told not so long ago. IBut ur choice of words works fine as I can see...

Are you sure you want to negotiate the return of the script frm the red planet people? May be they hv been generous enough by giving back the SUV? What's next, i wonder!

How did you like driving lessons 101 kkgsr style?