about asr - Page 20

Originally posted by: indi52

welcome back, my hero, my chotey 🥳 🤗

so good to hear that killer tone of voice. bionic woman, you will get him out of the clutches of clonedom and you shall plonk him in the centre of the invincible field of adoration, guarded day and night by the adorers of IF. and he shall be forever safe. humesha. baat sach ya jhoot ki... bat hai vishwaas ki. tan dan dan.

Originally posted by: Sunshine80

My only question is in real life too...why we only look a human being as Male and female...oh he is a male he shldn't do this and female shld be like this. Why can't they jst see them as humans...mistakewaa hum sab se hoti hain...but ppl who accepts it and learn from it are great. And my ASR does it without iota of hesitation...he had come long way Di.

Trust me being a woman..going through lot of hardships being a girl...I am in so jealous with Khushi and Anjali.. both Di😆

Originally posted by: indi52

will we ever graduate to understanding people as people? humans as humans and not as man and woman? hmm in my skd. you are right about mistakewas, my chotey. if you don't make them how wil you learn, oh our asr. now what's bothering you, why jealous of the girls? need a superperson to save ya? 😆

hi Indi,

Originally posted by: riti4u

Interesting discussion Sunny and Indi di... I understand Arnav more as human...I relate to him more as human..I think I wrote this in forum long back... yes I do feel for khushi as a woman but I feel more for this man as a human...

Originally posted by: Rita.C

hi Indi,

after reading a couple of your posts, I have started stalking you:)

loved reading your couple of posts. will write at length soon.

and shubho mahalaya!

Rita

Originally posted by: indi52

yes, riti,
i think of him as a magnificent human being and the woman in me is excited by that and sees this hot man that you want in your life. his traits are remarkable in any gender.

in fact, i identify strongly with him, many of his ways are mine. the ones that make me happy and i guard zealously: not being manipulative, thinking my way, believing in the imp of relationship, remaing as honest as i can be. i do think khushi's sanak and that gutsy girl thing is in me a bit too. but it's asr's traits that make me me. people see the sanak, sometimes they sense the rest, sometimes not.

Originally posted by: riti4u

😊 di just wanted to add into why ppl got attached to ASR ..like you I see myself in him too...though not fr right reasons actually...but for flaws that he carries ,I identify myself more with his flaws..as they are mine...I have huge anger problem...😆..you might be knowin it now..and indeed in anger ,I loose control and have done things to hurt people around but they forgave me as they knew I am not that bad😳..If ppl can give me that chance..then why cant ppl give this man a chance...why cant he be viewed with respect when he has done everything possible to undo his wrong actions...he has a conscience...he regrets..he feels guilty...his guilt and regret is what I relate the most too...as I can truely understand that aspect..and as far as good qualities in this man...oh di..I can write a book on that..😆

Originally posted by: indi52

lovely. anger is so much a part of me i forget to mention it. my temper is known i certain circles and possibly has damaged many unknowingly. over the years, how hard i've tried to control my anger and its natural expression: a torrent of really hurtful words. why do you think i understand and empathise with their fights so much. even today, a friend can't get over the fact that my husband and i aren't scrapping all the time, with me screaming and crying and throwing things. my mother used to say till i've yelled at someone she knows they are not that precious to me. i scream at those i love the most. i know what will hurt them and i say it. sometimes the anger banishes thought and the nastiest words flow out. yet, i know if i control it too much it will only get worse. so with my loved ones now i talk about it. tell my daughter not to trust my screaming voice, to feel my love and yay for her in my heart, to know ma has that weird other side. we all do in our own way i guess.

asr's gussa is a little more ready to go than mine, but then he's 28, only now touched by love. will he become a calm saint over time? i doubt it. i somehow trust people who get angry and show it. we all have aggression, a certain amount is needed tpo survive. mine and yours and asr's are all out their, expressed. over and done with. then there are the ones who show it in a passive way. like khushi. it's really hard to handle this difference. usually the ones like asr lose out, because everyone sees and are upset by taht anger. but as you say, such people when they realise, really ask for forgiveness and know they need to ask for it. i can live with that.

there i wrote the book. and guess what, i can see your straight forward, non manipulative, say it as it is, honest asr side too riti. remember our religion takkar. all of it was there.