Originally posted by: .Ghausia.
Hey Sathya! 😃
Ah, this'll be good practise for when I have uni interviews and they're grilling me about every sentence I've written in my personal statement! 😆
Marriage is a commitment between two hearts.
What if Heart changes its colors tomorrow,,would u still want it to be that of heart ...And if heart is so important..where does arranged marriages fit in , in this definition ??
That's the thing - when you're in a matrimonial bond, all of those obstacles can be overcome. If one person has a change of heart, you work to make the marriage work. Nowadays, as soon as there is a slight problem in a relationship people just want out. The essence of marriage is to overcome hardship and difficult times together. Plus, marriage has to be thought about properly; if you hastily rushed into a marriage and you change your mind afterwards, you are missing the whole essence of marriage. As far as arranged marriages go... my parents had an arranged marriage, and my mum said that the day they got married she asked my dad if he loved her, and he replied with 'I don't know' 😆
My mum, being 19 at the time, was disheartened, but she later realised that both of my parents fell in love after marriage. Although they had made all the promises of marriage beforehand, the most important part came after the real marriage. So it is still about hearts, but it just takes a bit longer for that aspect to develop. That said, I am in complete disagreement with forced marriage. If someone has not consented to an arranged marriage and is still told they have to marry that person, that's forced marriage by my definition. Forced marriage, both in my opinion and in the eyes of my religion, is not real marriage and should not be treated like one.
The bond of love, the strength of the bond, is increased even more when the couple are married
why can't the bond deepen when a couple are living in ..after acc to ur first line it is commitment that matters ..
The bond can deepen with a live-in couple, of course it can. As you get to know a person more, the bond does strengthen. Commitment is the main part of a marriage, yes. But I feel that without any legality behind a relationship it is much easier for the bond to break with some strain and the relationship to end. So, to answer your question - the bond can deepen in this way, but I feel it is strengthened with marriage.
Without marriage, it all just seems so temporary.
Extra marital affairs ??
This post is about the benefits of marriage, na? Couples in a relationship can have affairs too, so if someone in the relationship is being unfaithful it's doomed. For me, the same should apply when people are married. If you discover your spouse is cheating on you, you should chuck them out. Affairs are, and always will be, inexcusable to me. So sadly, if affairs occur regardless of whether you're married or not the effects are very much the same. Affair = relationship over. I know others see this differently, but to me it is non-negotiable.
but I feel that marriage is permanent
How does it become permanent ?? what are the criteria's needed for that ??
For us, a marriage is permanent when you have a Nikah. For Christians, it's the vows in the Church, for Hindus the saat phere. When you have made those promises, vowed to stick by the one you have married, that is when a marriage is (or should be) permanent. The sacred union is completed by making promises and abiding by them. Of course, for atheists it would probably be a legal marriage that is done, but promises are still made. In all religions, that remains the same.
Marriage is a beautiful union between two people
why can't love be that union..what is Love then ??
Love is also a beautiful union, yet marriage is taking that a step further. Again, referring to my religion, without marriage you cannot have any physical aspect of a relationship. Love is the feeling, and marriage is how to act on that feeling and ensure it remains with you.
you have stability in life if you are legally bonded to the one you love
How does Marriage ensure stability..what if ur partner is the straying kind ??
I think this is roughly the same as the affairs talk. If your partner is the straying kind, they obviously have no concept of what a marriage is and they do not value it. So they either need to be put straight, or the marriage needs to be ended. As I said, there is no excuse for affairs, and 'straying' to me is just as bad. & again, you can have the same problem in a live-in relationship.
Oh, and before I forget guys, most probably there'll be no analysis from me on Tuesday or Friday as I have work experience. Also, I can't pull our gutter-filled all-nighters on Monday or Thursday because I need to be up at 6 the following days. & the whole week after next I'm on work experience, so you'll probably not get any analysis from me that week. Buuut, I'm sure you guys won't miss me - after all, there are so many talented Reduxians around here who analyse a lot better than I do! 😉
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