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rima

@rima

Stunner

+ 10

Posted: 13 years ago

Sorry I completely give up on this episode.

Forget the romance part, I still continue to expect some sense and some progress...but after 6 months since Feb why do I expect anything?

If I had not been expecting this I think the episode would have been funny. But somehow the disapointment is difficult to shake off.

But let's leave that aside.

I noticed one thing with ASR's behavior with Anjali and with Khushi...the difference.

With Anjali he understands her sorrows, feels her suffering, reveres her and worships her with his tenderness which is born out of this sympathy and tenderness...so he is loving and gentle and caring with her. Being his sister and having known her for long, it is perhaps a natural outcome.

With Khushi, he is still playful. He still doesn't realize the extent of her suffering. He still thinks she is some kind of a bet to be won over. He still romances her, desires her and wants her...but the tenderness, protectiveness and perennial care is missing or rather comes in flashes like in the hut. And hence his attitude to Khushi lacks that essence of gentleness and reverance...

Today I felt, the day ASR realizes that Khushi has actually suffered is the day he will stop all this bets and games and treat her like a princess...It's the attitude which will make the difference

Tell me if I am wrong

Ok. I had to add this.

Quite a few people give the advise 'treat this as a fiction show' as if I do not know that.

But tell me do you treat it as fiction when they go romantic? Then why are you mooning over that and dreaming over that?

why get real about romance and unreal about pain?

And some people say they don't want to see ASR as Devdas.

Tell me is it fine to see him as Hitler?

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thechaigirl

@thechaigirl

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Posted: 13 years ago

Rima u read my mind...i. could not bring myself to njoy the episode after arnav anjali scene. In normal course of events I may have watched it but today I forwarded it after watching for a few seconds. The shear hypocrisy og attitude just left me speechless. Usually I wud have been happy to see khushi giving it back to ASR, I say ASR cos arnav has been missing wer khushi is concerned, but today I cud not get the distatefully callous attitude he has been showing khushi time and again out of my mind. After khushi suffering so much at his hands he has no recognition of her pain, suffering.

The episode today again reminded me of what i had commented once on your post "Squeaky wheel does get all the attention". Where khushi's resilience shud be admired it is going against her...what a sad thing to see. No I am not saying he shud not be concerned for his Di but thats all he has been caring about so long...high time he see's his wife's pain. Rewording what i wrote earlier " What kind of love it is if it makes him insensitive to her pain, her grief, her concerns.. thats not love for me.

Adding this to make it clear that I am not at all saying Arnav does not love Khushi what I am saying is he will never be able to truly win her back unless he reaches in his heart and gives her pain, her happiness, her concerns the same value as he is giving his Di's (in my opinion he shud give her more value , but tats my POV). Her strength cannot be the reason he does a blind eye to her pain.

Now I feel stupid tat I was happy khushi left bcos inspite if that her humiliation is not ending. Now i question myself that after everything that has happnd after Feb, m I even sane to expect to see khushi get her due...

A totally distasteful script...I feel so let down again.

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OmNaMaSteOm

@OmNaMaSteOm

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Posted: 13 years ago

When it comes to Khushi's emotions whether its pain, happy, sad, jealousy, hatred name it they treat her like a comedian

When it comes to Anjhalli's emotions which ever its always treated with care, courtesy, understanding, delicacy etc

ASR still has not or may be does not understand Khushi's pain

The creatives are trying to tell us that we are only supposed to understand only Anjali's pain, Khushi's pain bhadd mein jae

The contrast in scenes where arnav & anjali have just a nice peaceful & meaningful scene where as khushi with no error of hers is treated like shit

I dont find anything amusing in troubling ur own wife like that in the name of winning her back

we as audience are not supposed to expect anything meaningful in Khushi's life even aftr what she has gone through

I felt bad for the character of khushi why because what ever she does she is still treated like some sort of a machine do what u please but its not allowed to affect even though it is actually affecting her

i really missed the old IPK where Khushi had a brilliant substance to her role

On a purely entertainment level & keeping it as a stand alone the episode was spot on - i cant refute that

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Risha

@LivingInPajamas

Rocker

+ 6

Posted: 13 years ago

The question in WHEN?When will he realise that all of her smile and antics shadow over her real sufferings?I am waiting,waiting when she finally blasts on him.But when?Ye din kab aayega?I am tired of looking at the clock like Khushi :P

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Priyanka Agrawal

@priyanka3677

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+ 4

Posted: 13 years ago

Please don't take them as normal couples. There Nok jhok only shows their love. They are known for their love for each other like tom and Jerry. So please take it as a fiction show and be positive

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saavan_lover

@saavan_lover

Inactive

+ 4

Posted: 13 years ago

I think the day Arnav realizes the damage he has done, that will be the day when the ever famous "redemption" track will start. I m hoping that the CVs are gonna build up on this track and not just using it as a filler.

I m kinda confused about how I feel about the episode right now... so wont comment on it just yet 😕

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OwnMyCity

@OwnMyCity

Voyager

Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: rima
Sorry I completely give up on this episode.
Forget the romance part, I still continue to expect some sense and some progress...but after 6 months since Feb why do I expect anything?
If I had not been expecting this I think the episode would have been funny. But somehow the disapointment is difficult to shake off.

But let's leave that aside.

I noticed one thing with ASR's behavior with Anjali and with Khushi...the difference.

With Anjali he understands her sorrows, feels her suffering, reveres her and worships her with his tenderness which is born out of this sympathy and tenderness...so he is loving and gentle and caring with her. Being his sister and having known her for long, it is perhaps a natural outcome.

With Khushi, he is still playful. He still doesn't realize the extent of her suffering. He still thinks she is some kind of a bet to be won over. He still romances her, desires her and wants her...but the tenderness, protectiveness and perennial care is missing or rather comes in flashes like in the hut. And hence his attitude to Khushi lacks that essence of gentleness and reverance...

Today I felt, the day ASR realizes that Khushi has actually suffered is the day he will stop all this bets and games and treat her like a princess...It's the attitude which will make the difference

Tell me if I am wrong

YAAA????Even i feel e same...he does nt go beggn to her bt at least be gentle or understand her sorrow n pain...which i find is lacking...he still has to go long way..im glad khushi did nt give in..n she should walk away after the contract ends..tat will be his first set back...im sure khushi will go bck to RM n plan for raksha bandhan n etc as per article...n after which she will leave...n ten remarriage track will happen...n mayb anj might be e one to bring tem together..hopefully she does nt bcme selfish...

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anupama

@ak_maggi

Inactive

Posted: 13 years ago

i feel wid khushi he is more himself in evry way... his anger.. playfullness.. tenderness... care...he doesnt think twice to react to her...

wid Anjali he is more and more protective and she is more of a responsibility for him...

and i think being urself is d biggest comfort wid a partner...arnav n khushi r lik part of each other... they ve d rt to tease each other.. irritate.. and al thts a part of love...

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vijji12

@vijji12

Rocker

Posted: 13 years ago

rima epiosde is ok, if we forget everything whatever happend thats what i felt.i dont know when and how he is gonna realize and treat her with some tender love.i found that packing stuff little psyche action by ASR.i dont have any clue what he is upto now.we have to be like cv's forget every track and jump to new tracks .no consistency .next week we may get some other track based on trp .so i am training my brain to watch episode and dont relate it to any previous story.thats what we are getting now.if we relate it to story line whatever he is doing with khushi is not loving her but winning her.anyways romance ,comedy and ASR is back but story of ipkknd yet to come .untill then i am jus enjoying this nok joks but not loving it

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