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very well explained... & truly right...CHEERS 2 U..

Originally posted by: khushboorath

anjali's behaviors is not negative dear...its normal human being behavior...
wat khushi is going through is not disclosed infornt of anjali...
watever disclosed dnt have proof...wat do u expect in such situation

Originally posted by: Sheerinbanu

Khushboo... We understand your Justification on Anjali. But the question is though Arnav love Khushi when he saw Her with Shyam on the terrace what was his reaction. His Di came first. Her happiness was his priority. He even punished his lady love and himself. He tolerate shyam all these days for Anjali to protect her happiness though its fake. He wanted her to be happy. He sacrificed his happiness and life and mess up with his Love.

But see Anjali she is very jealous. Though she still believes Shyam, one fact is true that Arnav was kidnapped and the Kidnappers tried to Kill him. And everyone knows that Khushi rescued him. So She is not worried about the risk Arnav gone through and what Khushi went through to save Arnav. If she really dont Love Arnav why should she Hunt for him crazy and save him. She could very well enjoy the life with Shyam in Arnav's absence. Anjali didn't think about the well being of Arnav ans She didnt think about his happiness with his wife. She really don't have the mighty heart of either ASR or Khushi. She can be claimed a parallel lead Always the Leads will have mighty heart. Anjali is so selfish enough to put her pleasures first. Than her Chotey's .

anjali put pleasure first...r u ok dear...
she alwz there to help arnav watever situation is...she alwz want to be with arnav if she find somethng wrng...
she treat him like a her own child...
anjali is jealous coz of khushi as she dnt like her rite now...coz she think tht khushi is the person to be punished tooo...

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You have put it so well...If you are truly connected to the creatives/prouduction house - please convey a message...Please ask them to stick to their own story line...The way the story is progressing is brilliant..I think they know their story better than the fans who keep on asking for senseless romance...

Anjali's reaction is totally understandable and justified...The show has been realistic so far..

Please dont give into the senseless requests for romance...the subtle romance between arnav and khushi, the pain the emotions shown now are BRILLIANT !!!!!!!!

Originally posted by: khushboorath

anjali's behaviors is not negative dear...its normal human being behavior...
wat khushi is going through is not disclosed infornt of anjali...
watever disclosed dnt have proof...wat do u expect in such situation

that's what CVs should be concentrating on, bringing all the truth out. Explaining everything to everyone. We have had so many months of MU that full disclosure is necessary now. Arnav was kidnapped, Khushi almost died, yet no one knows the details. You have made me more sensitive to Anjali's plight but then Cvs need to realize we are sick of half truths. The story line needs to move forward.

Originally posted by: april2003

Khushboorath I get what you're trying to explain to us. I am an experienced woman and has had friends who's been married, divorced and been cheated as well. Somehow to this day I am still unable to connect with Anjali's character. I know she had a horrible pass along with her brother. I cannot connect to and will not allow myself to connect with a woman who refused to let her intutition guide her. A woman who walked around with her head in the clouds. I cannot connect with a woman who expected to always be number 1 in her brother's life when he was never number 1 in her life since she met her husband. She has placed Shyam on a pedastle and she made him the God in her life and that's where she went wrong. No woman should love a man more than she loves herself. How could I connect with a woman who turned a blind eye to her husband's constant disappearances?

can u connect with Khushi?

cz she is also a woman who loves her husband more than she loves herself, and a woman who despite actually knowing all his faults, she is brushing all of it away, throwing her own self respect just because she loves him!

and as for the delusional woman anjali is we r not able to think we are her, because we are not delusional! but that doesn't mean she isn't realistically portrayed!!

and no she has NEVER i mean NEVER placed shyam at a place above arnav!! her love, her devotion, her possessiveness for her little brother has always exceeded every other relationship in her life!

do u remember her accident? the 1st thought on her head was that her baby brother was going to be left all alone in the world!! where any1 else would be thinking of her life partner, this woman was a sister first and a wife second! that day shyam was an afterthought, even after she thought of the rest of her family only she thought of shyam!

therefore she has every right to feel possessive of her brother! she just will learn all of their limits and priorities through this!

u and me may not be like that.but there are real life Anjalis out there...we can't say she is not realistic just cz we don't like what we are seeing!!!

How can I connect with a woman who never asked her husband to see the dream home he was building for them for so long? How could I connect with a woman who does not understand another woman's pain because she can only think about hers? Khushi was cheated as well and she almost lost her husband who so happen to be Anjali's brother. If he had died, then she would not be the centre of his world, then what?

ok did they ever mentioned she hadn't seen their home? no..they didn't! her brother preferred her to live with the family as her husband was away on trips most of the time! that is why she lived at her brother's house..and one more instance where she gave priority to being there for her brother (being with him, if u don't think she was there for her brother) that building her own family life with her hubby.
shyam that day gave a cock n bull story to khushi abt building a dream home..no they already had a house..they just didn't live there!
here the only fault lies that anjali never questioned why shyam went away so many times..but there again her blind devotion plays out!


next one, did any1 tell a logical word to anjali? NO they r still wrapping her up in cotton wool! if they had told her the entire tale from the beginning giving GRAVITY to the kidnapping and every event that took place, u will not have anjali in this situation, misunderstanding everything! otherwise if they had pinpointed on the fact that SHYAM TRIED TO KILL ARNAV, we would have all seen the sister overpowering the wife in anjali!!
so without giving her all the truth how can we expect her to show full loyalty?
does she have any proof that khsuhi was cheated? other than for khushi's own words n payal's?nope

I do sympathize with her though and feel sad that she's hurting so much. I will not call her childish, conceited etc but I do think she need look at both sides of the coin. She always claimed that she was her chote's mother then where is the mother in her? ( a mother forget her pain to see her children happy) She is older that him, she is not his little sister. Where is the older mature sister in her. I'm afraid Anjali is and has always been emotionally and physically handicapped. The only person sacrificing to this day has always been Arnav. The only person carrying all the pain has always been Arnav. He's the one who's been carrying her emotionally. She has always been his world and still his world. He gave up his Khushi for hers when he forced a girl to marry him and tortured her for months. Every decision Arnav has made to this day involved Anjali both directly and indirectly.

if it was for arnav's well being i can assure anjali would have done the same thing! there is no two ways!!

right now she has been given a distorted version of reality, based on which she will react! and the fault lies with both arnav and nani right now! because they r not telling her anything!

why ask her to grow up when everyone else is treating her with kid gloves?

So when people get upset with Anjali and thinks she throwing a tantrum can you blame them?

Sorry if I came across harsh but that's my two-cents on the matter.

so well ya i for one can blame the people who DO NOT look at both sides of the coin just cz we love ArHi and create havoc on the forum!

what i had a problem with was her barging in to her Married brother's room at night time! not the ways she reacted to the thing she saw!! cz for me that is exactly how i expected her to react at this point of time!

hope i got my point across!!

Originally posted by: khushboorath

anjali put pleasure first...r u ok dear...
she alwz there to help arnav watever situation is...she alwz want to be with arnav if she find somethng wrng...
she treat him like a her own child...
anjali is jealous coz of khushi as she dnt like her rite now...coz she think tht khushi is the person to be punished tooo...

Really? I mean are you serious? Just give a scenario where she was there for Arnav except depending on him in every way. I want to ask you one thing, even NK and Lavanya could make it that Arnav has something for Khushi, did she ever see that Arnav never loved La?
U mean to say she is like a mother a mother to him. Okay fine, did she once, atleast once cared to ask was he really kidnapped, how was he?, how did he manage to escape?(leave for a second that Shyam kidnapped him)Where was her motherly instinct here. A mother is the one who always keeps her child's safety and happiness above hers. Im sorry to say this but she dont have basic manners that she should knock someone's door before entering room.

Originally posted by: khushboorath

Hello everyone

Since there are so many posts regarding Anjali, I thought lets have a moment to discuss the reason of hatred..

When the red roses were delivered, Anjali's mind jumped to the fact that they were from her husband. When Arnav said that it was from him, she jumped to a conclusion that it was for her. Is something really wrong in this? Is it wrong to expect roses from a sibling when her life is suddenly full of thorns?

Is it wrong if she feels that her husband has handed her roses because he was missing her as he has always been doing from the past three years? When she got to know that Arnav ordered them, she thought that they were from her brother for her because she was feeling down. What is wrong with that? After all she has been the centre of his brothers universe. She has been the centre of his life even when she herself used to wish for someone else to share that place. Arnav gave her all the attention even when she didn't need it,.. so why will she expect any less specially during the time when she needs her brother the most?

What is wrong when she feels a twinge of jealousy seeing Arnav and Khushi together?

I want to ask one question to all those who are married or in a relationship..

Picture this: If your friend or your brothers wife comes and tells you, that the husband you have worshipped for years, the husband who has promised undying love, has been lying.. How will you react? When Mami told her this, her first reaction was denial. And it was obvious'not because Anjali is said to live in her 'make believe world ' but because it is impossible to believe that ,for anyone, that the love and care of the person who is closest to you is fake.

If you have ever been cheated on in a relationship or have known someone who has been cheated- then you will know, that even though the 'other woman' might not always be at fault, somewhere you end up blaming her because it is easier to blame her then to believe that you didn't have it in you to be the loved one.

How many of you are friends with your boyfriends ex? Friends meaning "best friends" and "ex" as in an ex he was crazy about? It is possible to be friends but there will always be a sinking feeling in some corner of the heart- a discomfort at a certain memory'no matter how long past the incident is'

Anjali lost the most important person in her life because he fell for Khushi and now another important person, her brother is totally in love with her. The same brother who panics if she sneezes, the same person who cries seeing a slightest tear in her eyes'is now celebrating with the woman who has destroyed her world? [Don't think of this from Khushi's POV but Anjali's]

Don't forget Anjali wasn't shown any proof regarding shyam.. she just has a spoken word.. A spoken word of a women who she has just known for a few months. The spoken word of those men who believe this women. One (Arnav)because he loves her. Two (NK) who nurses a soft spot for her and three (Payal) who is her sister. How can she believe these three people against that one man she has spent 3 years as his wife'Married women will understand this even though words fail to explain.

Many might say that Khushi faced a lot on her own, Why cant Anjali do the same? Why does she want to cling on to her brother?

The answer is that Khushi despite of losing her parents has had a sheltered upbringing. She has been brought up by so much love that her positive attitude towards life says it all. Arnav and Anjali clearly have a bad past. The past that has made the person they are today. So if Arnav adorns a ruthless mask, it is UNDERSTANDABLE and when Anjali clings to him, it INSANE? Are we that biased?

Arnav and Anjali have one common weakness. Losing someone they love. If Arnav had lost Khushi, you all would have wanted to see him shattered. If he lashed out at the world, there would have been posts saying 'he loves her so much that his anger says it all'. Then Anjali is no different. Why get annoyed when she cries or gets bitter or possessive? She is human. What Khushi is for Arnav, Shyam was the same for Anjali. Why does that fantasy of "cannot survive without the other" restrict to only Arnav and Khushi?

Don't forget, this is the same Anjali who had once wanted Arnav and Khushi to be together, the same Anjali who would talk to Arnav if she felt that Khushi was slightest bit upset. Then why is she against Khushi?

Because the truth is that she wants to hate KHUSHI. Every time Khushi comes in front of her she is reminded of the husband she can't live without. She is the reminder of her broken home. The reason her child doesn't have a father. Yes Khushi has suffered and that is overlooked because no one exactly knows the extent of Khushi's suffering and that will remain hidden till the six month contract does.

The tagline of the story still remains the same. But for the story to go on, it is imperative that the feelings of the other members are shown and whether you like it or not Anjali is the parallel lead of the show. You are getting arhi moments despite of the tense situation.. so stop complaining and start enjoying..

I have a problem with that twinge of jealousy she feels for Khushi. Why, pray tell me, Khushi should not feel that same twinge of jealousy towards Anjali??? Khushi has been betrayed far too many times in her life too by SHYAM as well as by ARNAV. So why should she not feel jealous when Arnav gives the red roses that were meant for her to his Di??? This is not a friend or a brother's wife coming & telling you bullshit about your husband...this is your trustworthy brother coming & telling you that he was kidnapped & he is alive because his wife came & saved him otherwise he was a gonner...BUT you don't want to believe him. The man you love & who says he loves you & his honewali rajkumari (??????), has just disappeared because apparently his SAALESAAHEB has given him two jhaapads. He has a phone na...& he has your number na...so what happened...he can't call you & clarify?????

Originally posted by: khushboorath

Hello everyone

Since there are so many posts regarding Anjali, I thought lets have a moment to discuss the reason of hatred..

When the red roses were delivered, Anjali's mind jumped to the fact that they were from her husband. When Arnav said that it was from him, she jumped to a conclusion that it was for her. Is something really wrong in this? Is it wrong to expect roses from a sibling when her life is suddenly full of thorns?

Is it wrong if she feels that her husband has handed her roses because he was missing her as he has always been doing from the past three years? When she got to know that Arnav ordered them, she thought that they were from her brother for her because she was feeling down. What is wrong with that? After all she has been the centre of his brothers universe. She has been the centre of his life even when she herself used to wish for someone else to share that place. Arnav gave her all the attention even when she didn't need it,.. so why will she expect any less specially during the time when she needs her brother the most?

What is wrong when she feels a twinge of jealousy seeing Arnav and Khushi together?

Why did she see it in the first place? Because she barged into her married brother's room at night, without knocking. It was her fault she saw Arnav's closeness with Khushi, neither Arnav nor Khushi were flaunting their relationship in front of her.

I want to ask one question to all those who are married or in a relationship..

Picture this: If your friend or your brothers wife comes and tells you, that the husband you have worshipped for years, the husband who has promised undying love, has been lying.. How will you react? When Mami told her this, her first reaction was denial. And it was obvious'not because Anjali is said to live in her 'make believe world ' but because it is impossible to believe that ,for anyone, that the love and care of the person who is closest to you is fake.

If you have ever been cheated on in a relationship or have known someone who has been cheated- then you will know, that even though the 'other woman' might not always be at fault, somewhere you end up blaming her because it is easier to blame her then to believe that you didn't have it in you to be the loved one.

Nope. In my case I blamed my ex-boyfriend equally, and asked him a lot of questions-- any normal woman would do that.

How many of you are friends with your boyfriends ex? Friends meaning "best friends" and "ex" as in an ex he was crazy about? It is possible to be friends but there will always be a sinking feeling in some corner of the heart- a discomfort at a certain memory'no matter how long past the incident is'

Anjali lost the most important person in her life because he fell for Khushi and now another important person, her brother is totally in love with her. The same brother who panics if she sneezes, the same person who cries seeing a slightest tear in her eyes'is now celebrating with the woman who has destroyed her world? [Don't think of this from Khushi's POV but Anjali's]

Don't forget Anjali wasn't shown any proof regarding shyam.. she just has a spoken word.. A spoken word of a women who she has just known for a few months. The spoken word of those men who believe this women. One (Arnav)because he loves her. Two (NK) who nurses a soft spot for her and three (Payal) who is her sister. How can she believe these three people against that one man she has spent 3 years as his wife'Married women will understand this even though words fail to explain.

If she doesn't believe Snake is a cheat and the one who kidnapped Arnav, why didn't she leave with Shyam? If my family accuses my husband and I don't believe them, I will leave with him. If you say she fainted, then she could have asked the accusers for proof against her husband after she gained consciousness. All she wants is back to status quo, requesting Chote to return her earlier happiness-- refusing to face reality? How does anyone sympathise with someone so weak and cowardly?

Many might say that Khushi faced a lot on her own, Why cant Anjali do the same? Why does she want to cling on to her brother?

The answer is that Khushi despite of losing her parents has had a sheltered upbringing. She has been brought up by so much love that her positive attitude towards life says it all. Arnav and Anjali clearly have a bad past. The past that has made the person they are today. So if Arnav adorns a ruthless mask, it is UNDERSTANDABLE and when Anjali clings to him, it INSANE? Are we that biased?

No, I did not find any of Arnav's misbehavior understandable-- a lot of people have bad pasts, they don't all turn out like him. So yes, they're both damaged and need counseling.

Arnav and Anjali have one common weakness. Losing someone they love. If Arnav had lost Khushi, you all would have wanted to see him shattered. If he lashed out at the world, there would have been posts saying 'he loves her so much that his anger says it all'. Then Anjali is no different. Why get annoyed when she cries or gets bitter or possessive? She is human. What Khushi is for Arnav, Shyam was the same for Anjali. Why does that fantasy of "cannot survive without the other" restrict to only Arnav and Khushi?

Don't forget, this is the same Anjali who had once wanted Arnav and Khushi to be together, the same Anjali who would talk to Arnav if she felt that Khushi was slightest bit upset. Then why is she against Khushi?

Because the truth is that she wants to hate KHUSHI. Every time Khushi comes in front of her she is reminded of the husband she can't live without. She is the reminder of her broken home. The reason her child doesn't have a father. Yes Khushi has suffered and that is overlooked because no one exactly knows the extent of Khushi's suffering and that will remain hidden till the six month contract does.

Perfectly fine, she hates Khushi. Why does she not remember that her brother had been kidnapped? Why hasn't she asked him if he is well, whether he is hurt, what did he suffer in all these days? She's instead blaming her brother for forgetting her pain-- did she remember his?

The tagline of the story still remains the same. But for the story to go on, it is imperative that the feelings of the other members are shown and whether you like it or not Anjali is the parallel lead of the show. You are getting arhi moments despite of the tense situation.. so stop complaining and start enjoying..

I don't want rabba ves and Arshi romance. All I'm asking for is an Anjali who shows a modicum of common sense, selfless love for her brother, and a little inclination to ask for proofs and face reality. Too much to ask?