Isn't it time to stop 'feel for Anjali' campaign? - Page 8

Originally posted by: Amara_B

I completely agree with you. The magic has gone.The truth is I haven't watched IPKKND in over 2 months now because I loath where they've gone with this. It's like Twilight with an Indian twist. Arnav is nothing but abusive towards Khushi, both mentally and physically. Even the birthday cake scene yesterday, I saw the pictures and read about it, and again he is using his physical strength, and anger to force Khushi to succumb to his will. This is supposed to be romantic? A man using his anger and physical strength time and time again to force an innocent young girl to do exactly as he says, irrespective of her wishes, or what negative effect it has on her is NOT romantic; it's abusive.

There is no sense of justice in Arnav his world begins and ends at Anjali, everyone else can rot in hell, as long as Anjali is happy. If he wanted to he could balance both womens happiness, but he doesn't care enought to even attempt that.

These shows are extremely popular with the lower classes in India right? They therefore have a RESPONSIBILITY towards educating their viewers. At the moment they're teling they're viewers; "it doesn't matter if your husband man-handles you, abuses you, and mentally torments you, all of that is his love. You should just sit their like an obedient lttle doe and take all his abuse and thank him for the rare bouts of love he shows you". That is absolutely unacceptable, this sort of thing is a huge problem in India, and they're re-inforcing the idea that it's all good, and normal.

The ONLY thing that can redeem this show for me now, is Khushi being shown to fight for her rights and leaving Arnav for good. They can do a redemption track, but Khushi shouldn't go back to Arnav, she should find a man who loves her (properly loves her, not this new brand of twilight love), and treats her with the respect she deserves.

The bottom line is NOTHING justifies Arnav's behaviour. Abuse, any form of abuse (and Arnav has infilicted every possible type of abuse on Khushi) is NEVER justifiable, and anyone who tries to make out that it is needs to seriously check ther priorities. Arnav lost his parents at a young age, fine. However he has a loving family. There are so many people in the world who have no one, Arnav has a Nan, aunt, uncle, sister, brother, all of whom dote on him. What about that is sad? He is lucky. All I'm getting from all this is that Arnav is a selfish, and ungrateful character who will go to any length to get what he wants, including abusing his wife, whom he claims to love.

That to me is not a positive character, it''s a negative character who the creatives are trying to sell as a positive character. I truly hope no girl ever believes the sort of behaviour shown on this show, (Arnav's abuse, Khushi silently taking it all, and obeying him) is ok, normal, or acceptable. I hope no girl dreams for this kind of love, because this isn't love it's sadism.

Originally posted by: bidz

I see where you are coming from. I am actually one of those people who empathizes with her and feels sorry for her even, however, what I cannot understand is why the PH, actors are on "sympathize with Anjali" mission. Some people will connect with her and some wont. It has to come through the screenplay. How can they force people to feel for a character outside the storyline? For 1 year, we have connected with Arhi. They are close to our heart. Anjali isn't and that is a fact. If they really want the mass to sympathize with her, then show it in the story. I personally feel bad for her because I put myself in her shoes and feel how devastating this must be to her, not because I feel sympathy for her on screen. That is a fact.

Originally posted by: Baki

I could see the pain from Daljeet when she was talking about the mail-attack she got.. She don't have to explain her character. It's all upto us how we feel about her character but it's not fair to attack Daljeet for what she is doing.

Originally posted by: sree07

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Well thanks for getting the point

Till yesterday I was not feeling anything for her. but yesterday's scene was nice. It showed a woman's loneliness. Instead of continuing that way why roam around advertising for her? its confusing. does it mean that anjali as a character is perceived different by viewers than intended by CVs? whose fault is that?😕

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I think that's what it seems. They want everyone to be sympathetic towards her for the story to proceed the way they have perceived, but now she is perceived as the "other woman" in Arhi's life. That is probably frustrating the makers. They keep talking about this unbreakable brother-sister bond. We saw some of that in the earlier episodes, but those got completely diluted when you see her not thinking twice about giving Rs.75,000 to Shyam for a watch, living in her own bubble when a brother is kidnapped for 15 days and is virtually out of phone contact, her getting upset that her chote broke off his engagement with LA. Where is the understanding shown for her brother. We have always seen Arnav doing things for her, him ready to give up his "khushi" for his di. They might have perceived Anjali to be doing the same for her chote, but failed to show us that bond. So, can they blame the audience now if we cannot connect?

Originally posted by: bidz

I think that's what it seems. They want everyone to be sympathetic towards her for the story to proceed the way they have perceived, but now she is perceived as the "other woman" in Arhi's life. That is probably frustrating the makers. They keep talking about this unbreakable brother-sister bond. We saw some of that in the earlier episodes, but those got completely diluted when you see her not thinking twice about giving Rs.75,000 to Shyam for a watch, living in her own bubble when a brother is kidnapped for 15 days and is virtually out of phone contact, her getting upset that her chote broke off his engagement with LA. Where is the understanding shown for her brother. We have always seen Arnav doing things for her, him ready to give up his "khushi" for his di. They might have perceived Anjali to be doing the same for her chote, but failed to show us that bond. So, can they blame the audience now if we cannot connect?

Originally posted by: Baki

I could see the pain from Daljeet when she was talking about the mail-attack she got.. She don't have to explain her character. It's all upto us how we feel about her character but it's not fair to attack Daljeet for what she is doing.