CVs, STOP SENDING DANGEROUS MESSAGES TO KIDS!

I wanted to slap someone today, and it wasn't Shyam, or Arnav. It was Khushi.

Seriously, you know how you can watch CNN or Indian News or whatever, and social issues are being covered-there is that one question that VICTIMS of sexual violence are almost inevitably asked- when they get harassed, or raped, or molested whatever-no matter where they are-the west or the east, they are asked-What did you do to make this happen to you? Basically saying, in another way- "she asked for it."

Having worked with victims of rape, I can tell you, this question will inevitably be posed. By someone, usually a man, almost always a person who thinks that rape is about sex and not violence. But there are danger signals, especially when it comes to acquaintance rape. The signals include a steady increase in harassment, starting with lewd looks, then following, then inappropriate comments, then forced touching, and then physical assault. Shyam is following the classic pattern.

This is HIS sickness, she is not encouraging it, you can say.

YEAH she is-by not revealing what he's doing, screaming, asking for help, telling someone in authority, (ASR, Nani, for god's sake at this point I'd take Payal and Aakash) for NOT going crazy on his ass! By not yelling in his face, standing up to him, telling him in screams not whispers that he CANNOT do this, by not using a fear of being caught to make him back off, since he is shameless!

Dont tell me about protecting Arnav or the family or Anjali's unborn baby! What will happen when Khushi is raped which is where this would normally end up in real life? Which of these stupid concerns will help her deal with that trauma? What part of this will be soothing to her husband if his is wife assaulted without even knowing that she COULD have been protected because she didn't f**king tell him about her harassment?

So, out of SHEER ANGER at seeing what is drummed into women every day, about being careful, about being conscious of their rights, their control over their body and over who gets to goddamn touch that body, seeing that IGNORED today, I have to ask:

Are you asking for it Khushi? Are you really so goddamn stupid that you don't see danger signals from this insane perverted creep? Granted, slapping him will literally turn him on. Granted you are in a public place, and you can't do anything right away. But you are in danger and you know it, because your BODY tells you you are-YOUR INSTINCT is screaming warnings you are ignoring!

I'm worried because kids watch this show.

They will think, rudeness and being direct is worse than saying NO and walking away if they are made uncomfortable by someone or by some situation (Shyam/Khushi, and Anjali's meds thing! W*F!!)

They will think, a man can and will harass them in public, but they themselves should be soft and afraid of people's comments if they create a scene. They should quietly seek to escape, but never never create a scene since that is unfeminine/bad behavior.

They will think, a family member or family friend or an elder or someone important to their own parents/family should be given multiple chances simply because they are related or known, that they should allow the harassment to continue so people don't get upset.

They will think they have to fight such lewd potential rapists off by stupid means like dropping something heavy on their feet, or running away or using stupid avoidance techniques which never works because they are being STALKED as opposed to CONFRONTING such behavior, with an adult, or with someone who can protect them.

They will think its their responsibility to hide a pervert's behavior because it will hurt the pervert's family.

They will think the pervert's behavior will change if they stay away from him, or if he is given a warning. They worry their own loved ones they wont believe them and they'll be branded as a trouble maker.

NONE of these things are true, and Khushi's actions is perpetuating every last one of them !!!

Goddamit CVs, you've stuck it down our throats that this is a family show. Then protect the damn family values in this one instance, and give us a heroine who does the right, the ONLY thing she can and should do right now, which is to NOT let Shyam intimidate her, to NOT keep this a secret when its not her shame or her fault- LET HER FIGHT AND END HER OWN HARASSMENT!!!!

so true... of all, this is the biggest problem i have wid ipk now. the whole "keeping her mouth shut coz anjali will shatter thing is too much"
what are they trying to show... that girls should put family members and family honor and what not before their own safety... ok agreed in the show she thought initially that he would change for the good... but now, after so many months, how can she remain quiet... tats beyond me!!!
to think of it, she is the same girl who threw hot tea on arnav doubting he had held her duppatta!!!
why is she keeping it from arnav is something i dont understand, he will not drop dead on knowing the truth(we have seen it)... god he is a man, give him the credit😆... this is not they way to protect anjali... both arnav and khushi are wrong in this
or they could have shown her discussing it wid payal... why wont she, payal is her sister, she knows everything about shyam; then why not??

totally agree with you on this

It is a freaking shame that the CVs do not for one second show Khushi sharing Shyam's increasing advances with her sister. How is she sleeping at night knowing that he is next door???

Originally posted by: nainac01

so true... of all, this is the biggest problem i have wid ipk now. the whole "keeping her mouth shut coz anjali will shatter thing is too much"
what are they trying to show... that girls should put family members and family honor and what not before their own safety... ok agreed in the show she thought initially that he would change for the good... but now, after so many months, how can she remain quiet... tats beyond me!!!
to think of it, she is the same girl who threw hot tea on arnav doubting he had held her duppatta!!!
why is she keeping it from arnav is something i dont understand, he will not drop dead on knowing the truth(we have seen it)... god he is a man, give him the credit😆... this is not they way to protect anjali... both arnav and khushi are wrong in this
or they could have shown her discussing it wid payal... why wont she, payal is her sister, she knows everything about shyam; then why not??

Thank you! I honestly thought I was losing my mind, that I was the only one who saw how DEMEANING this was for Khushi, not the fact that its happening to her, because it can happen to anybody! Good point on the dupatta-she was so aware that no one could touch her without her permission, she threw hot tea thinking Arnav had dared to touch only a piece of her clothing.

And now Shyam can do this in public, grabbing her wrist, hurting her, she acts like she cant stop it, or do anything to him, she whimpers and doesnt knee him in the balls? This is NOT Khushi!

She is supposed to be a girl with STRONG sense of right or wrong, so sure about her rights-i mean, the FIRST episode was about how she didn't want Payal's then to-be-husband to take Dahej, eight? Remember her introduction scene, on a scooter, rushing off to stop an illegal discriminatory practice of dowry that demeans women?

And now she silently tolerates this? GOD!

Touche! This is a very serious concern that the CVs should pay attention to. The MU and all can be cleared but if this continues on and NO ONE will know about it, then this will be a great injustice to the character and female audiences' expectation.

Originally posted by: momma1128

It is a freaking shame that the CVs do not for one second show Khushi sharing Shyam's increasing advances with her sister. How is she sleeping at night knowing that he is next door???

Oh yes - I forgot, her character trait of handling everything herself. Well, honey it ain't working.

This is ridiculous and what makes me ill is thinking that the story will follow the classic martyr syndrome that SP heroines follow.

This all started with the abnormally long and silent hug on the terrace that she shared with absolutely no one.

I'll be frank-if I was Khushi, I wouldn't want to share a sandwich with Payal, much less my troubles. Stupid, ineffective, helpless, self serving watering pot- first time in my LIFE I've found myself cheering on the evil saas torturing her bahu. I swear Mamiji does it so I don't have to.

Whenever I see Payal and Aakash I remember the hypocritical, self-righteous dialogue she spouted when his mom gave her hell for being ditched at the altar-Remember, the one about him being a bad bad boy by not telling his mommy dearest about her past, being all snooty about secrets and how "she dont believe in keeping them secrets no more"?

And when he promises to be honest forever, to start their marriage off on total trust and transparency she smiles and theres not a twinge in her conscience about the biggest one that is being kept from all the Raizadas-Shyam.

If there was a twinge, it sure died fast once she got into her wedding clothes and jewellery. Silence on something that might rock her boat-All so she can get married double quick. How is it only Khushi's job or decision to reveal Shyam's truth? Before the stupid ASR-KSR Wedding went down, Payal was the only one getting MARRIED into the family containing Anjali, the person being betrayed. To Anjali's BROTHER. At this stage, it was on her more than Khushi to tell everyone what she knew re. Shyam for the sake of her future family

And now that no one can take her gold bangles away from her, whats stopping her from telling her husband herself, without waiting for Khushi?

So Aakash at least can protect his own sister, even though Payal clearly doesn't give a damn about her own?

And how about a scene of Payal being an actual sister and asking Khushi in between bouts of sucking up to Mami-ji hard enough to leave hickeys- how about a scene where she cares enough to say "Hey, whats up with that obsessed pervert who's living two doors down from you in this house? Update me on whether he's still cheating our common nanad trying to get into your panties! Here's a pakora, lets chat like sisters do when they give a damn!!"...dumbass...

😡What is stopping Khushi from slapping Shyam? She acts like Maa Durga in front of ASR but in front of Shyam she is scared as hell..Total What the episode today.

you are absolutely right..i just dont know how she is doing all these masti when a pervert is on loose..the worst part is that the CVs are not even showing her thinking abt a soln to this problem..or even her fears..her soft attitude towards creep is no more acceptable..she needs to confide in someone..atleast buaji i think...she should atleast try saying this to arnav!