IPKKND -Classic Defination of Insanity - Page 5

Originally posted by: Rita.C

Bezella, I just watched Humsafar also, and you know what - I loved it and then recently watched it again and said WT?? the father said to his wife if you dont toe the line on my son's marriage I will walk out on you - so in effect in one sweep he took away her right to take a decision in her son's marriage (good or bad) and made her feel an outcast. the son played footsie with zara for years and clearly knew how she felt (see episode 5) and yet played around with her feelings and then when it was time to man up, threw out his wife... the only person with any self respect was the wife I think... and she too took 5 secs to forgive him pretty much.. this is the state of women all over!!

Coming to the issue of the show.. I personally dont have a problem with a consistent grey Arnav who is damaged, angry, ruthless, cruel, who reverts back to type in his progress towards becoming a better human being the minute he mistakenly believes in Khushi - and his anger and disgust and his darkness gets pronounced when he feels betrayed. that makes sense to me. My problem is a lack of understanding of what he is thinking, his lack of logic in managing Shyam or in keeping Khushi in the same house or remembering the Holi confession on both sides and then suddenly going back to thinking she loves him.. the lack of the visibility into his thinking is pretty frustrating..

Khushi on the other hand bounces every now and then from being this lovely, kind hearted, heart-on-her-sleeve, generous, loving, never say die girl to suddenly being this insensitive, jeuvenile girl with little self respect...

its not a major issue with the track really - a little bit of work on the script could salvage it at least for me...

Originally posted by: evenjleena28

Missed you lovie :) her and I agree on things so thats good but to be honest I am glad that there are people here who dont blindly worship ASR/Arnav

Originally posted by: Rita.C

Vibha, you said it. unfortunately if you look around today's generation, i was shocked to find many young girls think being a feminist is a dirty word.. teh fact that today we can study, vote, are free, have freedom unlimited is because of those feminist all over who fought for those rights..

anyway, regarding the crap that is worshipped... well, I personally find around me that women tell me that a good housewife is one who has her husband dependent on her for everything including handing over his socks, and accepting everything is what makes for a good marriage... the traditional household still expects that the good wife is someone who accepts everything with a smile. I am all for strong women who accept everything quietly with dignity only to bring about change by firmly getting things done or speaking up when its required v clearly (I have to admit the shrieking virago can be exhausting and there is much to be said about being a lady)

but there is a difference between silent suffering and strong silent suffering. Our country in general needs to understand the difference between the two. but I must say, I have understood after watching the SPA that the channel is trying to bring change but they are doing it at a pace that the audience can handle. I really do trust and respect this channel. I watched a few episodes of SNS and I have to admit that the message are there, but v v gentle and subtle to break in an audience that is v v hidebound.. I bet they will bring in some reovlutionary ideas in another 5 years hehehe...

Originally posted by: evenjleena28

Missed you lovie :) her and I agree on things so thats good but to be honest I am glad that there are people here who dont blindly worship ASR/Arnav

Originally posted by: wesha

At work, Vibs. Trying to break my head over a mathematical model. Trying really hard to not let my concentration waver, but your sensible posts are making it difficult for me. 😛

Originally posted by: evenjleena28

So so so true what you just said, the fact is the story doesnt exist anymore...a guy who loves his sister ...thats great but what about the most idiotic MU????if you look at it from a 2year old's eyes it wont make sense at all...

They have great cast and brilliant actors and they are ruining it...see how many awards they get next year...they are cutting their nose to spite their face basically...i can do without the rabbe ve's too if i get a decent story that moves forward...then bring on the rabba ve's...what i was saying from the day they got married that clear the darned MU then let them confess the love,consummate the relationship and then bring other believable MU this time and other characters past and there are soo many things they can work on but no we keep getting this ridiclous track which normal thinking audiences doesnt like

Originally posted by: evenjleena28

Thanks dear that indeed is a lovely compliment, we all love barun and sanaya but we are not blind...there are some really good posts by wesha,enigma17,uniquebluerose and sudha...have a read if you get a chance they really write much better than me and it really will make it up for the horrible things that we do read here on this forum

Originally posted by: gitika712

I like the intensity of your post, even if they used 5% of it in the show i would surely buy a round of martinis for all the distraught viewers on IF.

Owing to the coma induced episodes we got after the wedding i don't understand where this was headed. But now with the loud hue and cry and articles declaring - the paradigm shift of an intense love story to a meaningless rom-com I am hoping things change and change drastically.

All we see now is

If this helps in any way i am totally with you - if we cant sail alone let's drown together.