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A Question I Wanted To Ask Again.
So, the post below was made a month back. After the scene where Arnav finds Khushi after that 'accident scare' and is pathetically at loss for the right words to express his feelings. The scene was simultaneously being shown with another scene where Aakash was telling Bua and Garima how everything will be alright with Payal and Maami so long as Arnav is behind them. Because Arnav was actually the real "Head of the Family".
The original post -
The man who is all glamour to the outside world looked exactly like a man who has indeed held the anchors of his family safely and strongly in his hands. His presence is unmistakable even in his absence.
He looked that man who has weared himself down, hardened himself for this role. And in the process has lost out on learning ways to show his softer emotions to hold on to his 'anchor' that he has now found in Khushi.
Felt really sorry for Arnav today. There are many of us who in reality have had to turn into hardened souls because of situations in life.
Sometimes I wonder what would have happened if the girl in the show was like 'Arnav'?
Do girls like that succeed in getting the passionate manly love in their lives that can be their true match?
So, That was the question I had asked back then.
After a friend revived this post with her comments, this question came back to my mind again.
A few of my friends who commented on this post below assured me that it doesn't much matter whether it is a boy or a girl, love happens the same way. A few of my other friends suggested me a show where I could get a positive idea of how such girls also find 'love' in their lives.
But to paraphrase one of my replies below.
Yes, ideally, it shouldn't matter much whether you are a boy or a girl...but with the notion that 'mills and boons' kind of romance is meant only for girls who look soft, innocent and in need of constant protection, I cannot help but get a sinking feeling that maybe, just 'maybe' with girls the scenario is different.
Also, in the show, although Khushi does look like a mills and boons heroine, she still is quite the feminist's delight...but that is also because she is supposed to be 18 and the real world still lies largely undiscovered to her. However that is fast changing.
At the rate the Diwali-like incidents are cropping up, and I am not even getting at the real financial problems and social problems that I can see in the girl's future, I doubt she will even look the same let alone feel the same after all this is over.
So, if Khushi turned into Arnav, will everybody who is justifying Arnav's actions now and asking Khushi to put up with him, feel the same if she meted out this treatment to Arnav? Or to say N.K. for that matter, to take an example? Will we 'like' Khushi or 'like' N.K., who under those circumstances is being made to be very understanding and patient till he has completely lost everything he has to the whims and fancies of Khushi's "tragic past" because he loves her? Is that how it is in real life??
Because, looking at Arnav now, it seems its a tough call for softening up such people. And with men, I am not sure if they would have so much patience with that girl the way Khushi is expected to have for Arnav.
Not being gender-biased here, just pointing out the inherent difference in the mental make-up of men and women.
Since, this forum is an active congregation of so many 'girls' and 'women', I would really like to have a perspective on my question from a real life POV. And,please, the 'boys' and 'men' (if there are any) are absolutely welcome to put in their views on my question.
Not sure, if my question is proving difficult to answer or difficult to understand. So I will put it down in so many words -
"Are you a girl like ASR in real life or do you know someone like that? If so, what has been your/their experience in finding a 'mills and boons' kind of romance in life?"
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