ASR is untrustworthy & hence unworthy

1. All that Kh knows about his conduct is what he said to her on Diwali night, and then what he said to her on her 'sagai' revelation: Both times he shook her roughly - on Diwali night it was to shut her up, on Sagai Revelation night it was to make her see she meant something to him. Also, apart from the physical touch & go, the only other thing Kh has are his words which couldn't be further apart: Diwali night 'u mean nothing (mujhe farq nahin partha), payal/near-kiss r not important, u thought snapping a rich guy wud make ur life' and what he said on Sagai Revelation night 'ur sagai, why didn't u tell me, i care dammit (mujhe farq partha hai)' - now frankly, Kh is caught between the pendulum of 'farq partha and not partha', what is she supposed to believe, what is she supposed to feel, what is she supposed to think about this gloomy rocky 'flippant' dream boat? That he loves her - ookay, so why doesn't he just say so? Why does he want to push her to say it? Why? Because he wants to win, win against her, win against her 'other man', win over her pride (she shud hear the MAN be a man and acknowledge it first), win over her values (going for another woman's man, and going against her own fiance!), win over everything she holds dear (family, honor, p'little ppl stuff'), win over his argument that 2 people cannot live together forever ('cos ppl change their opinions and their tastes with time' which is what he told her pre-going-to-get-La scene), win even the Character Dheela argument with Kh actually where SHE was eschewing the morality of commitment to a single person with a 'contract' binding them forever-spouting lines of pati-patni stay together thru thick and thin (ASR can simply remind her that 'u believed in values, commitment, honor strongly and NOW look at you, going ga-ga over ME - doesn't that show u r Character Dheela as well under ur OWN DEFINITION???!') - basically ASR just wants to WIN this round - it doesn't really matter what he does, how he does it, how long he does it for - As long as in the end he comes up tops over Kh that is ALL that matters to him - FOR NOW - so what he is getting engaged to La - HE'LL MARRY LA TOO IF IT MEANS GETTING SOME KIND OF CONFESSION AND TEARS OUT OF KH THAT YES U MEAN SOMETHING TO ME AND I CANNOT HELP MYSELF - so what if he doesn't hear her say those things at his wedding - no worries - he'll have a kid with La with Kh 'auntie' as the caretaker/nanny of the kid - THAT WILL SHOW THAT WOMAN WHO IS THE BOSS IN THIS RELATIONSHIP!

2. I don't think the current track is about ASR avoiding rejection from Kh by making sure Kh really loves him and then making his move. NO. ASR does not care about rejection, cos he OBVIOUSLY IS SOME1 WHO HAS NEVER ENCOUNTERED IT - with Kh too, he is the one who always has the last word in, if she is leaving without listening to him, he screams at her to stay put and she does; if she is distancing herself physically, he roughs her up, and then feels sorry; and let's not even talk about the number of ways he has made her feel small and insignificant - in hate or cos she made him 'feel', and the current track is just an extension of that! he will mistreat her, and then do one grand gesture that will redeem him in Kh's eyes.

3. There is no guarantee that ASR will not reject Kh once she says yes I love you.

4. There is no guarantee that ASR will not still get engaged to La if Kh confesses - infact I believe the chances of THAT happening correspondingly increase with THAT likelihood! ASR WILL get engaged to La simply cos ONCE AGAIN he will b unwilling to deal with his feelings towards Kh, unable to deal with Kh's desire for commitment and family values and maybe her challenge to him TO TELL THE TRUTH TO LA ATHT HE DOESN'T REALLY LOVE LA and unable to digest Kh's will.

5. There is no guarantee that even if Kh does do what ASR wants her to do (break off her engagement) that he will not simply THROW HER WORDS BACK AT HER - telling Kh 'see I told u there is no such thing as word of honor, commitment - look @ u! who used to sing sonnets over 'Pati+Patni rishta', 'family values' & u r abt to throw it all away FOR ME - A Godless, Thankless, guy!

6. There is no guarantee that he won't complete this magnificent argument with his standard line 'u r abt to throw it all away FOR ME...cos I am rich!!!!!! YOU'LL SAY YES TO ANY1 AS LONG AS HE WAS RICH EVEN IF HE WAS UNAVAILABLE!' - OMG - like THAT will shock her anymore!

7. There is no guarantee that once Kh confesses, he won't call out to La and say 'La, there is something YOUR FRIEND wants to tell you' - thereby MOCKING POOR KH once more.

8. There is no guarantee ASR loves Kh to make her happy by his side. Yes, he cannot see her cry, bleed, get hurt - BUT considering that her problems multiplied after his advent, there is really no guarantee he will NOT DUMP HER IN THE MIDDLE OF THE ROAD, DUMP HER IN HIS HOUSE, DUMP HER OUT OF HIS HOUSE, DUMP HER IN A JUNGLE, DUMP HER IN A DHABBA, DUMP HER AT HER PARENTS' HOUSE, DUMP HER AT A MANDIR - u get my drift, I hope!

9. There is no guarantee ASR sees Kh as his equal - yeah, it is all very fine and dandy to get a high from a woman - physically, emotionally, intellectually - BUT when it TRULY MATTERS has this guy ever honored Kh (with regret, remorse, apology, help) infront of ANYONE besides himself? Does he have GUTS to say he loves her infront of his family and the world - that he indeed loves a low-level-not-realy-educated-not-really-refined-but -TOO-GOOD-FOR-HIM-AND-HIS-GOOD-FOR-NOTHING-FAMILY-girl? This guy is having a hard time acknowledging it to himself - how can Kh expect him to 'honor' her?

10. There is no guarantee ASR will get engaged to Kh - he may simply change his mind / change his tune after Shyam revelation - not cause he doesn't love or believe in Kh - but simply cos he doesn't want to hurt his sister or himself by associating with 'lower class scandal-plagued woman'

11. Lastly, there is NO guarantee that ASR will not leave Kh after marriage (which should not occur BEFORE September/December 2012) - after all he actually is a MALIK NOT RAIZADA - and whenever he marries Kh - he will marry her not telling her his real name / identity - which means KH WILL BE MARRIED TO ASR BUT NOT LEGALLY RECOGNIZED AS HIS 'LAWFULLY WEDDED' WIFE!!!

12. And though Kh will always try to stand by his side, and reassure him of her love, and bear his dumb insults, can anyone anyone ANYONE really guarantee ASR will not change his mind?

13. Can anyone guarantee he won't reject her once he finds out who Kh's real father and mother r?

14. So, my point is simple: knowing what she DOES know about him, the good, bad and ugly (which isn't even half of what this guy is capable of being!), WHY WUD KH SACRIFICE HER FAMILY, HER LIFE, HER DREAMS, HER WORLD, HER PRIDE, HER LOVE FOR HIM, HER CREEPY FIANCE, AND HER POVERTY - JUST TO SAY 'Hamain farq aprtha hai kyunki hum aap say pyaar kartay hain Arnav ji' - That is too BIG a sacrifice and too big a risk for a small town girl like Kh - AFTER ALL LOVE ISN'T EVERYTHING AND SOMETIMES IT ISN'T EVEN ENOUGH! and I doubt ASR will win this round or ANY ROUND for a very long time to come!

15. AND HENCE, KH MAY EVEN THINK IS ASR WORTH FIGHTING FOR?

That there's no guarantee actually reminds me of Somerset Maugham's Up At the Villa - a movie that starred Sean Penn and Kristin Thomas - and near the end, Penn actually says to Thomas 'I cannot guarantee that I'll love u forever - but who can?' (LOL)

What I am hoping for is that Kh stays strong & DOES NOT GET bogged down by ASR's pressure on her-& this in turn puts pressure on ASR & IT IS ASR WHO GETS SICK ON HIS ENGAGEMENT DAY COS HE FAILED IN CONVINCING KH TO BLURT OUT HER FEELINGS-thus postponing his sagai as well as giving Kh a chance to take care of him - just in time for a delirious ASR to say her name, Rabba Ve and CUT!