ASR & La not really a live-in couple

Writer42 thumbnail
15th Anniversary Thumbnail Voyager Thumbnail + 3
Posted: 14 years ago
#1
ASR & La were not really a typical live-in couple

They were meant to be portrayed as any young couple of today where living together would be an obvious step to take. Yet we never really saw anything close to a relationship between these two. They didn't live together before she came to live in ASR's house. Also why did La call him ASR which girlfriend calls her boyfriend by his initials? That was strange thing for her to do for sure. At least I thought it was weird.

She spent more time with his family than with him. We never saw them go out for dinner or catch a movie either before she moved in or after. In fact on the day of the party he turned her down for lunch. Also why was it that once she moved into his home she sort of stopped going to work?

Always at home, getting domesticated like living with your boyfriend some how prevents you from doing your job even if you were working for him. Further, I never saw any kind of intimacy between these two. When 2 people live together they are in essence like a married couple. But we never saw any endearment from Arnav to Lavanya.

She meanwhile was often in his bedroom. But we never saw them go out, sit together and just talk like a couple or sit next to each other on the dinner table. It's like the relationship was never established. At least not on his side. However one thing we saw fairly often was to see ASR shout at La. Almost as if he never realized that she was his girlfriend. Does ASR have intimacy issues? He almost treated her like an employee.

Never romantic towards La but La was the opposite she seemed to genuinely care for him and was attracted to him always touching him while his eyes were glued to Khushi though mostly to glare at her or to shout at her as well. I don't think I ever saw ASR ever smile at his girlfriend even once. Then why fight with Nani and Angali to keep her in his house?

I get it that Nani stood in the way of their sharing a room but there was nothing personal about this relationship. Was it a relationship at all?
Why was Arnav so cold and unresponsive to La in the first place, then why ask her to move in with him? Also in the end why did he have such a hard time explaining to La why he couldn't see a wife in her or why he was so anti-marriage? I mean your girlfriend is the one person you can confide in unless you only feel disdain for her and don't really see her as a spouse/girlfriend.
Edited by KaushalyaFan - 14 years ago

Created

Last reply

Replies

21

Views

2.1k

Users

9

Likes

59

Frequent Posters

trina2010 thumbnail
14th Anniversary Thumbnail Rocker Thumbnail + 8
Posted: 14 years ago
#2
I think LA was just a scapegoat nothing else. ASR used her as a shield so that his family does not force him for marriage. They were more like Friends With Benefits sans physical relationship.La used to get gifts and other comforts from him whereas ASR was saved from having to do marriage .They never were an actual couple.
Writer42 thumbnail
15th Anniversary Thumbnail Voyager Thumbnail + 3
Posted: 14 years ago
#3

Originally posted by: trina2010

I think LA was just a scapegoat nothing else. ASR used her as a shield so that his family does not force him for marriage. They were more like Friends With Benefits sans physical relationship.La used to get gifts and other comforts from him whereas ASR was saved from having to do marriage .They never were an actual couple.



I totally agree. Basically he may have played everyone including his Di and La just to stay away from committing to La. Just keep her in the house and not have to marry her. Never treated her like a girlfriend. No promises. No relationship.
MrDarcyfan thumbnail
14th Anniversary Thumbnail Stunner Thumbnail + 6
Posted: 14 years ago
#4
I think they used to do some stuff together before she moved in there! Hr got her to move in to defy Nani, coz she told him to break up with La as she is not Raizada bahu materail! He NEVER wanted to marry her at all, and was happy with their relationship lof conveniance, where she was the arm candy and he could be with her when he wanted and not with her when he didnt!
There were no emmotinal demands etc... however all this changed once she came to his house and KKG entered the pictutre to train her in Indian culter etc...suddenly LA wanted more from the relationship and ASR was left dazed by this change and he was mad as hell, coz his conveniant little "set up" was being threatned!
As for him never smiling at her, that is not true...he did look indulgent when she came to the Teej wearing a sari and even gave her a half simile (Barun's expressions were FAB there and he looked super hot):)
...
getting back to the topic... he did stand by her even when she made a spectacle of herslef at the anniversary party with the "Charachter Dheela" number and later getti g drunk? If he was so heartless he would have kicked her out then and there! He was actually quite indulgent towards LA for a long time, and sometimes even nice to her! He cares for her, but NOT as he would if he was actually in love with her! Which he NEVER was!
I am sure he was hurt by her leaving... coz he WAS hurt when she said "dont you care for me"??? Coz he does, and that's why he said "yes I dont care, that why I bought you here aganist everyone's wishes"... I think that was HIS way of saying, that is as much caring as I know how to show, and if THAT isn't enough for you...
Anyway, ASR is complex...he FEELS things for Kushi he has never felt for any other women, so he does not know how to deal with it, or with her! But in his other relationships with women, he does not show ANY romance, but that does not mean, he is unfeeling! He is just NOT demonstrative! However, when it comes to Kushi, he cant seem to stop mself from touching her, and he never touches La that way!
THIS shows that his feelings for Kushi are NOT in his control... and if ASR hates ANYTHING... it is not being in control!
moon_mine thumbnail
15th Anniversary Thumbnail Rocker Thumbnail + 4
Posted: 14 years ago
#5
yup!!!! since this is a family show as well...so they cud nt get that bold to show the live-in concept clearly!!!!!
shaz01 thumbnail
16th Anniversary Thumbnail Navigator Thumbnail Networker 1 Thumbnail
Posted: 14 years ago
#6

@ MrDarcyfan

i agree...he was veryy indulgent with her...ASR does not tolerate anything less than perfect BUT he still let La get away with quite alot...considering she is someone he 'does not give 2hoots for'
even when she came in the wedding outfit, after shouting at her (not unusual), instead of kicking her out, he calmy tells her to go change her clothes.
When she does not heed him, he sighs and tells her to go change AGAIN...when have we ever seen ASR repeat himself...usko to baatein repeat karne ki adat nahi hai na??
When La said she has had enuf, it was not because he had changed but because what she wanted out of the relationship had changed and she knew that ASR wont adapt to those changes...he had said as much b4 getting into a r/ship with her-----HONESTY...another thing he gave this unconventional r/ship.
i think he WAS HURT when she left...he didnt kick her out...she walked out by choice...jab asr ki galti nahi hoti toh phir usko sorry bolne ki yah La ko rokne ki kya zarurat hai...i completely understand this...from his pov, he is correct on this stance.
in the office when KKG confronts him, he blurts out that by leaving La is proving him correct yet again that 2ppl cannot live together for ever, ppl change with time and move on...if he wasn't hurting he would never say this. La may not have been his confident, or his "proper"gf, yet she was someone he cared about...much like KKG.
~~~~Edit add~~~~
AAhh...i almost forgot...another thing ASR has given is his LOYALTY...now i knw this is a bit of a controversial issue for some ppl (Shyam v ASR)...BUT not me...
ASR has not INTENTIONALLY cheated on La in his knwledge...he has never jaan buj kar KKG pe dore nahi daale...unlike Shyam whio knows he's married yet he INTENTIONALLY goes arond behind Anji's back and says...sorry rani saheba...aap ko main nahi chod sakta par khushi ko bhi nahi chod sakta
ASR has given honesty, loyalty and obv he gives her all the comforts and whatever not as his gf...Ab bande ko emotionally attached nahi hona and he has already told her at the outset, then he cant be blamed for it
Edited by shaz01 - 14 years ago
incandescent thumbnail
14th Anniversary Thumbnail Sparkler Thumbnail + 6
Posted: 14 years ago
#7

I they were physically intimate but it was never properly shown since it's an SP show. I agree that ASR never initiated but he never objected when La became (or tried to) intimate with him. It indicated that he shares a physical comfort with her.

Remember after the photoshoot incident, La offered to remove his tie (quite seductively) and he gazed into her eyes without even blinking!! A lot more could have happened if Khushi hadn't interrupted.

If he never had any feelings or attraction towards her he would never let her be a part of his life. He would never allow her to waste his precious ten minutes.




shaz01 thumbnail
16th Anniversary Thumbnail Navigator Thumbnail Networker 1 Thumbnail
Posted: 14 years ago
#8
^^ call me old fashioned...but i hope and pray that they weren't physically intimate...i want KKG to be the first girl ASR thinks of in THAT way!!
hahaha...i knw i knw...who does that these days...but i really hope him and La havent done IT!! LOL
SK_Love thumbnail
14th Anniversary Thumbnail Rocker Thumbnail + 5
Posted: 14 years ago
#9

Originally posted by: shaz01

^^ call me old fashioned...but i hope and pray that they weren't physically intimate...i want KKG to be the first girl ASR thinks of in THAT way!!

hahaha...i knw i knw...who does that these days...but i really hope him and La havent done IT!! LOL

i m sure arnav is virgin. he is only for khushi. u r not old fashoined. u r very decent. shadi se pehle sab kuch ho jana ye humari sanskar aur sabbhata ka khilaf hai
shaz01 thumbnail
16th Anniversary Thumbnail Navigator Thumbnail Networker 1 Thumbnail
Posted: 14 years ago
#10
ASR has a very traditional upbringing...considering Anjali and Nani...and im damn sure that ASR only had La as a means to fend off any marriage proposals...he knows what kind of girl he wants and La is not it...so he has no risk of falling in love with La.
Imagine if he had KKG as his "gf"...two days and he'd be GONEEE...he would fall for her hook line and sinker...hence, no emotional or physical attachment...just an excuse to remain "Unavailable" to other potential prospects...

Related Topics

Iss Pyaar Ko Kya Naam Doon thumbnail

Posted by: Mysticaldivine · 2 years ago

Walking through the memory lanes of the secretive doors of our remembrance, looking for forgotten benchmarks of our lives, we can find...

Expand ▼
Iss Pyaar Ko Kya Naam Doon thumbnail

Posted by: Sapnokiduniya · 2 months ago

I am trying to post my OS here and its giving me PHONE NOT ALLOWED error I haven't specified any phone number and I am posting this via laptop....

Expand ▼
Top

Stay Connected with IndiaForums!

Be the first to know about the latest news, updates, and exclusive content.

Add to Home Screen!

Install this web app on your iPhone for the best experience. It's easy, just tap and then "Add to Home Screen".