Loved your post pearl.. 😊 and it reflects everything that I have been feeling for the past month ever since the whole separation thing started.. Though I had a lot of fun watching today's episode (as it was just plain stupid comedy.. when you watch it as a separate individual episode not relating to the current story line).. I still hate the way they are going about this whole thing.. That is exactly my issue with it ... the writer seems to have lost it completely !!
I totally agree with what you said about Anika not being aware of the effects of her betrayal.. She was in a fix and having no proper experience of being in a committed and a loving relationship.. she only went by how she understood the man she loved.. for her Shivaay was a man who's entire being depended on the fact that he was a blue blood and even though he had accepted her without NKK that did not mean he was ready to let go his beliefs entirely when it came to himself or his family..and she probably was right there because even Shivaay himself may not have realised back then that he was way beyond NKK ever since he fell in love and committed himself to his wife.. so her decision then may not have been entirely wrong bcoz neither she nor her brothers / family ever thought that the consequences of her fake betrayal would be so bad.. they all believed that it probably was good for Shivaay's peace of mind.. nobody realised the depth of his love.. And I agree with you totally here ... if you look at Shivaay before she left him he had no idea what life would be like without Annika in it and that was the time and space they BOTH needed (she had her growth to achieve as well) ...
Today the Shivvay we see has had time to weigh and measure his priorities and that has made him one with a clearer vision ... what Annika did then (though I do not like to endorse it) was the decision that she felt was best given the facts about her husband THEN!!! He was the NKK Shivvay then.
But today that man is a chaged man who has had time to think and ruminate in the solitute of his heart what NKK really means to him when weighed and measured against his 'True' identity. He still remains Shivvay with or without it and he has realised that
But I dont think I entirely agree with you when you say that now everyone realises their fault, they should just bring the truth out in the open.. you see it was wrong for Anika to leave him when he needed her the most.. as a wife it was her duty to stand by him and be there for him.. and she realises that now.. but that doesnt mean she should go and reveal the biggest truth of his life which definitely would still further break him.. and that is why you tell him yourself before someone uses it as a weapon against him or to break him which Pinky is planning to do anyways ... is it better it comes as poison spouting from her or as a gentle truth from them?
Anika and her family still wouldnt want that truth out bcoz for them this truth really doesnt matter.. what does it matter if he is illegitimate? He is still the best son, the most respected loving brother, the loving and caring husband, the protective wall for the family.. And that is exactly why they SHOULD tell him ... because once they tell him he will understand that it has not changed anything in the relationship with any of them
But it would matter to him.. and they still want to protect him.. which is why Jhanvi still tries to bring sense into Pinky by trying to make her realise that she is ruining her son for something that truly doesn't matter! One truth that can break his entire existence and the whole family.. the ones who love him dearly would always want to hide it and protect him from it.. especially since they know what it means to him.. if it was actually Om or Rudra it wouldnt have been such big a deal.. but for Shivaay it always will be a very big deal and someone who loves you will themselves suffer but not let you suffer from the truth they believe they can keep from you.. Actually Jhanvi has no issues with Pinky telling him the truth she has issues with Pinky separating ShivIka for Pinky's ego and revenge ... she has never told Pinky not to tell Shivvay as far as I know because she herself told Annika that such a thing cannot be hidden forever.
Also I dont think it is a truth that needs to be told to him by anyone other than his parents.. it isnt anybody else's responsibility.. nor should anybody else divulge it.. it isnt their story to tell..
How else will Annika explain why she did what she did? She cannot apologize for her act without explaining why??
I agree that it is his parents responsibility and it IS their story to tell but Pinky has used that as a bait to make her do what she wanted
This IS a parent who is also hell bent on ruining him because of this ... As Annika said today Pinky is not even considered by Annika as Shivvay's mother anymore so why should Annika not step in and intervene at this point ... it seems Shivvay's happiness and well being is solely her responsibility now
Dont take me wrong.. Im against hiding the truth from your husband or your family but if some truth really harms you more than it does good its better left in the dark.. that is what I believe.. I agree and in certain circumstances where it benefits the person but how is keeping this from Shivvay benefitting him???
there is nothing to be gained here except probably Pinky's truth coming out.. but who would gain from that?
Who Would gain from that!!??? Shivvay and Annika !!! Their love, their marriage and their future!!!
That is what needs to happen if you want this husband and wife to trust each other again ... Shivvay needs to know who is the responsible party?? Are you expecting that Annika should wait years and years before Pinky decides she has been wrong ??
Wouldnt it be better if Pinky finally came around and then she herself gently reveals the truth by explaining him that she was wrong to believe in NKK and make him so vulnerable to NKK? That she loves him even if he isnt her blood? That is the ideal scenario and the family will always want that to be the only way if the truth ever comes out.. 😊
That is an IF and a very big IF ..lol And came around when??? When Shivvay is married to another woman and Annika has disappeared for good from his life??? How does that help either of them??
If Pinky does that then it solves all problems but what if she does not do it the way you mentioned and makes a big huge media circus out of this whole thing ... then what?? Who is responsible for what Shivvay does then??
But I 100% agree.. these Jealousy and FNP games are not the way to go! Anika should apologise..she should be very sorry and explain.. let him know that she feared coming in between his relationships.. she feared that their marriage was the reason they were facing problems and that his mother never accepted her.. He knows that.. he would understand the reason then that she didnt want to be the reason of a fallout between the mother and son.. She did try to warn him that it was his mother who was trying to separate them but he wasnt ready to accept it so she had to fake all this and leave bcoz she thought it was best for him.. and now she realises that her biggest mistake was to give up on their marriage.. That is half the truth and to me that sounds very much like a lie ... it is insulting Shivvay's trust and intelligence
I believe that she should come clean but not by telling him the truth about his birth.. she should be truthful about the reason she left him.. which was that she didnt trust the strength and power of their relationship.. she should have stood by him.. as he had always asked her to.. she should have believed that both of them would face everything together no matter what.. this will lead to him asking 'what made you think we were not strong enough', 'what has my mother to do with this again', 'why are you making this about my mother and me again' ... no I am sorry but that makes it only worse ... it is evading the truth and that will make him more infuriated.
If you have decided that you want to tell the truth then in such cases the good old fashioned truth is best
Right now the CVs seem to have made this lovely mature relationship into a teenage play.. I guess I can accept this for a week max.. but not more than that.. they both need to calm down and think and realise where they are going wrong.. Trying to get a reaction is one thing but continuously trying to make him jealous is just downright ridiculous.. She's manipulating his feelings to assure herself that he still has feelings for her.. I hate that HS is making Anika look so immature when this is the same Anika who has such a mature understanding of life and relationships.. similarly Shivaay has shut his mind for a long time now.. he needs to wake up and smell the grass!! He needs to think as to why would she buy the house and still let everyone live with her..He should realise that the Anika he loves is still there trying to poke him for reactions and if she did move on there is no reason for her to be here..And why is everyone in the house except Pinky happy to have her back.. I get that they are trying to get back into the trp game.. but they need to hurry up with the nonsense and get back to track.. they have already ruined such a beautiful mature relationship by making both of them stupid..! Its just unacceptable to experience such a mature conversation between them after the jungle track and then watch them be like this.. agree 100% ... please bring the essence and ehsaas of the show back Harneet 😆
P.S. I really love your theory about a plan within a plan..😉 but Im just not able to digest it looking at the episodes.. there should have been some proper hints at least like we had during the ML track.. right now it just seems that both of them are behaving stupid..😆 But seriosuly I would love it if it is a plan.. I dont think Shivaay knows the truth but if he's planning to find out the truth at least even that would be welcome! 😆 me too believe me 😊
P.P.S. Also I really dont think this track will go until the actual engagement.. Shivaay is just trying to make her jealous as well..it would totally ruin everything and I would feel like I have wasted my last 6 months if they actually go ahead with a Shivaay and Rags engagement!! An actual engagement would mean the whole last 1 year didnt even happen.. and I dont think Harneet is that stupid.. this is supposedly supposed to be a test of love track...if that's the case they shouldnt move on with other people even if it is fake! 😡 true again
Sorry ended up with a very long post! 😆 no worries ... glad you did 😃
Edited by asya34 - 8 years ago
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