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Please note this is in keeping with Harneets Face Value Plot that I have made this post and though many may not share my views I felt the need to put my take on what happened today out there ... no bashing pls as it is just my opinion and may not match yours.
This is for you B&W as promised ... I never forget a promise 😉
We are a mature couple that has seen things in our marriage and life that has built our relationship to the pinnacle where we now have not only have stepped in front of a bullet for each other but have made the ultimate kind of sacrifices for each other as well. These sacrifices have made me (as a wife) realise that giving up your happiness, spouse and marriage is not always the right move in order to secure his health and happiness.
So I have grown (operative word here) to understand in these 3 months that these were my insecurities that caused me to make the decision on my own instead of as a team, trusting my husband 's love for me and commitment towards our future.
It taught me to trust my love, spouse and the strength of our marriage because I now see how much it does mean to my husband who is a hollow shell of a man without me in his life.
So as a mature wife who has reached this very wise conclusion what do I do about it now??
I play FNP games in a bid to make him jealous and react instead of telling my husband how sorry I am while we (me and the brothers he adores ) gently reveal the truth about what made the man lifeless in the first place.
That is the new advice from Oprah on relationships that is trending now.
For how long do we play the FPH games then?? Until Pinky comes up with another vicious plan that would need me to counter it because I so enjoy this Saas- Bahu challenge with the old Annika back with a New bang!!
How this would affect my husband once again??? Oh! that is a worry for later as now i just want to make sure that he still reacts to me and my presence.
The truth, confession and apology that would be a quick fix to getting him to react can wait for another few days ... 😕
Yery very mature I must say 👏
Sorry but this does not make sense as per Harneets's Face Value Plot but if this is the 'plot within the plot' it does, because that would mean that either Annika or Pinky or maybe both know that Shivvay already knows so this way Annika is not lying to him more than she needs to and Pinky is just playing a game.
When you decide that you should have done something that would have stopped your husband from becoming this 'lifeless man' you start with some home truths first.
You say to your MIL that you believe in your love and its strength but frankly you do not imo because you still do not have the guts to put it to the test. If you did believe in the strength of your love and wanted to drive that point home to your MIL you would ask the others (Jhanvi, OmRu) to sit with you and let that truth out in the open so that all of you can support him when he crumbles because you are in control of HOW that truth comes out, not Pinky.
You beat the woman who has been /is still blackmailing you at her own game and 'you tell him first' so that you rectify what you did not do in the first place.This also ensures that he understands 'why' you took those drastic steps and he asks his mother what she was blackmailing you about.
Then you apologize ... From the bottom of your heart you apologize to the man for doubting the strength of your love and making the decision without considering his take on this.
Then you leave the decision of whether to believe or not, forgive or not, accept you back or not to him because now you know that with this you have leveled the playing field and put the man out of his misery where he kept asking"Why are you doing this to me??"
You now have atoned for what you did and you are ready to carry out the penance because you know that the strength of your love is stronger than anything else.
Annika has grown and that is what I wanted. This realization, this will to fight for her relationship and this whole I will pick the pieces up if he shatters is what i wanted from her and she is there now ... what is missing is that to me her words lack the conviction as she is still playing with his feelings with these games.
If she wants him to come back to life again it is very very simple ... lay the truth before him. That is enough to make him react - positive or negative that is his choice
This is for you B&W as promised ... I never forget a promise 😉
We are a mature couple that has seen things in our marriage and life that has built our relationship to the pinnacle where we now have not only have stepped in front of a bullet for each other but have made the ultimate kind of sacrifices for each other as well. These sacrifices have made me (as a wife) realise that giving up your happiness, spouse and marriage is not always the right move in order to secure his health and happiness.
So I have grown (operative word here) to understand in these 3 months that these were my insecurities that caused me to make the decision on my own instead of as a team, trusting my husband 's love for me and commitment towards our future.
It taught me to trust my love, spouse and the strength of our marriage because I now see how much it does mean to my husband who is a hollow shell of a man without me in his life.
So as a mature wife who has reached this very wise conclusion what do I do about it now??
I play FNP games in a bid to make him jealous and react instead of telling my husband how sorry I am while we (me and the brothers he adores ) gently reveal the truth about what made the man lifeless in the first place.
That is the new advice from Oprah on relationships that is trending now.
For how long do we play the FPH games then?? Until Pinky comes up with another vicious plan that would need me to counter it because I so enjoy this Saas- Bahu challenge with the old Annika back with a New bang!!
How this would affect my husband once again??? Oh! that is a worry for later as now i just want to make sure that he still reacts to me and my presence.
The truth, confession and apology that would be a quick fix to getting him to react can wait for another few days ... 😕
Yery very mature I must say 👏
Sorry but this does not make sense as per Harneets's Face Value Plot but if this is the 'plot within the plot' it does, because that would mean that either Annika or Pinky or maybe both know that Shivvay already knows so this way Annika is not lying to him more than she needs to and Pinky is just playing a game.
When you decide that you should have done something that would have stopped your husband from becoming this 'lifeless man' you start with some home truths first.
You say to your MIL that you believe in your love and its strength but frankly you do not imo because you still do not have the guts to put it to the test. If you did believe in the strength of your love and wanted to drive that point home to your MIL you would ask the others (Jhanvi, OmRu) to sit with you and let that truth out in the open so that all of you can support him when he crumbles because you are in control of HOW that truth comes out, not Pinky.
You beat the woman who has been /is still blackmailing you at her own game and 'you tell him first' so that you rectify what you did not do in the first place.This also ensures that he understands 'why' you took those drastic steps and he asks his mother what she was blackmailing you about.
Then you apologize ... From the bottom of your heart you apologize to the man for doubting the strength of your love and making the decision without considering his take on this.
Then you leave the decision of whether to believe or not, forgive or not, accept you back or not to him because now you know that with this you have leveled the playing field and put the man out of his misery where he kept asking"Why are you doing this to me??"
You now have atoned for what you did and you are ready to carry out the penance because you know that the strength of your love is stronger than anything else.
Annika has grown and that is what I wanted. This realization, this will to fight for her relationship and this whole I will pick the pieces up if he shatters is what i wanted from her and she is there now ... what is missing is that to me her words lack the conviction as she is still playing with his feelings with these games.
If she wants him to come back to life again it is very very simple ... lay the truth before him. That is enough to make him react - positive or negative that is his choice
You do not try gauge how important you are to him by playing with his feelings?? You know that already because you yourself have come to the conclusion that your lies broke him.
NO!!!! In fact you become credible in his life again by winning him over with what he loves you the most for - always telling the truth no matter how bitter and what the consequences are. You win that trust back by being bold enough to do what you did not do 3 months ago and let him know that it is because you have realized you were wrong that you are now atoning for it.
You apologize for being presumptuous in the relationship that they both were supposed to nurture - and you are sorry you bailed out when you should have stood and fought.
These FNP games, if they are at Face Value, are the saddest thing I have seen and I am sorry but they pain me more than make me smile. If I was Shivvay and I came to know about this later on I would feel like the biggest Jackass.
She decides that she wants to leave him - his opinion not asked and now she decides she wants him back - again his opinion not asked ... I am wondering who is the bigger manipulator here, Shivvay or Annika??? If this is not playing him like a puppet then what is??!!
When he forced her to marry him he was straight up and up front about what he was doing and why he was doing it. He never lied to her or hid it from her. It was manipulation I agree but he was bold enough to be the bad guy, the dark one and he even stated why he was doing it to her.
She is making a bigger fool of her husband now because when he comes to know the truth about why she left and then her games after her return he is going to feel like a 'bigger jackass' for being played twice in the span of 3 odd months by his wife who again was presumptuous enough to make decisions on his behalf.
I don't know if I am right or wrong but if I were Shivvay I would appreciate the truth from my wife so that it would put me out of my misery right now
NO!!!! In fact you become credible in his life again by winning him over with what he loves you the most for - always telling the truth no matter how bitter and what the consequences are. You win that trust back by being bold enough to do what you did not do 3 months ago and let him know that it is because you have realized you were wrong that you are now atoning for it.
You apologize for being presumptuous in the relationship that they both were supposed to nurture - and you are sorry you bailed out when you should have stood and fought.
These FNP games, if they are at Face Value, are the saddest thing I have seen and I am sorry but they pain me more than make me smile. If I was Shivvay and I came to know about this later on I would feel like the biggest Jackass.
She decides that she wants to leave him - his opinion not asked and now she decides she wants him back - again his opinion not asked ... I am wondering who is the bigger manipulator here, Shivvay or Annika??? If this is not playing him like a puppet then what is??!!
When he forced her to marry him he was straight up and up front about what he was doing and why he was doing it. He never lied to her or hid it from her. It was manipulation I agree but he was bold enough to be the bad guy, the dark one and he even stated why he was doing it to her.
She is making a bigger fool of her husband now because when he comes to know the truth about why she left and then her games after her return he is going to feel like a 'bigger jackass' for being played twice in the span of 3 odd months by his wife who again was presumptuous enough to make decisions on his behalf.
I don't know if I am right or wrong but if I were Shivvay I would appreciate the truth from my wife so that it would put me out of my misery right now
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