Originally posted by: premparbat
Dolly - My question would be What is so special / different about a widow.
And for me its the treatment of the family first and then the society that see them differently .
Couples when together one of them has to go before the other ..that's the way life works. If a family is respectful of women they do not distinguish between who is a widow versus who is not. The rich and poor equation is secondary.
If women were respected by their children by their elders such a distinguish would not happen.
In Kanaks case though her FIL is disdainful of widows she still has a place in his house . Her son will not allow it . He keeps her away from the big functions . Keeping her away from the kitchen would happen if her MIL were mean to her. Kanak enjoys the privilege coz she has the backing of her son . She is a fighter but can never answer back her FIL .
She has the protection of the family hence the society cannot touch her. That is what the diff is .
My point exactly Ratna. What is special / or different about becoming a widow.?
A sad circumstance brought about this status to a woman by loosing her partner.
The society that is mainly patriarchal has foisted this absurd rule on women that have no man to support and stand beside her. Who gives them this right ??
Widows are women that needs to be shown the same respect by family and the society.
Men that have lost their wives are not treated as pariahs , so my question is why women ??
And in K T's case she is getting away with her rudeness because nobody wants to stand up to her bullying attitude and teaches her not to behave like she does.
Viplav did try to tell her not to be rude to his wife and she answers with.. do not talk to me like that ..I am your mother , show some respect.. Does K T know the meaning of that word ?
The unfairness of all this really irks me, and standing back and ignoring it, is not my style.
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