At the outset, clarifying that my responses are based on yesterday's episode and not taking into account the nosedive Agastya took today.
She is self sacrificial but that’s not the same as being great.
Mahan in ITV doesn't mean great. It is usually referred to as self sacrificial. When you do something for others at the cost of your own comfort/ happiness etc.
The family don’t know that their relationship is not real so they will all have some kind of expectations of her but you are right she should do bare minimum. Agreed However we know the way these stories will be written that won’t happen. On the trust front yes she needs to start trusting him like he has but neither can really trust each other on a fake foundation with the constant reminder of things ending and all they will be left with is their own families. She fears for Ashu hence she has sent him away so there is no way she would share that however she did start sharing a little about her past when talking about Bulbul the other day.
I can understand she fears for Ashu's safety but Agastya is not going to harm Ashu. She doesn't need to bring Ashu back to this house but just tell him the truth that she had an urgent medical need for her nephew's life which is why she was singing in the bar and which is why she did the contract marriage too. Plus the stalker track started recently. Even before when Agastya asked her to say the truth she didn't tell him anything. Her telling him about Mami and Bulbul never treating her right isn't enough. The whole misunderstanding from his side is about her need for money.
She hasn’t sacrificed anything with Agastya don’t worry, those two are stuck together with glue!
Not everyone deals with things in the same way yet when a female deals with things it’s always referred to as preachy. She did say repeatedly she wanted to speak to Karan on his own but in typical fashion everyone gathered round. Why did they not leave them to it? This is another thing that totally amuses me, no one can have a conversation in the house without everyone being part of it. This I know happens in every serial but why?
See Imlie does go in a preachy mode. She did it earlier during Nyonika abortion track, Chutki past relationship track. She was also about to go super preachy when Bulbul was attempting suicide. Again, I accept her intentions are always right but she also needs to understand the sensitivities involved. The dialogues need to be written in a way that don't sound preachy and drive home the same points - but I guess this is for trp reasons. She also needs to stop being so argumentative. I am questioning her ways not her intent. In the current matter, Imlie made a very big accusation on one of their family member which is why everyone got involved. Had this been a husband-wife matter, they may have given them space to sort it out. Chachi was rightly miffed that Imlie accused Karan of being involved with her sister when they may be know about his relationship with Yashi.
Anyway, where I am women like Imlie 3 are not given labels like mahan and preachy they are just seen as women wanting to do the right thing by people and as women who fight for their loved ones whether it be family, friends or just supporting neighbours, other women etc. Granted the serials here are not as super dramatic nor do they have super crazy storylines lol.
Again the question isn't about being supportive but rather being diplomatic and tactful in dealing with matters that are sensitive. She can drive home the same points in a more suitable way but guess this is for trp reasons so we got to make peace with it.
I made this statement in reference to everything that has happened so far because depending on what is going on she is either thrown out or brought back. I have no interest in Bulbul and Karan storyline as you know however I do feel Agastya may suspect something is not right.
The thing is she wasn't thrown out of the house despite being seen as someone who was scheming to trap Karan to accept a child who wasn't his. Even previously when she was asked to leave, Imlie herself confessed before the family (for whatever reasons) that she married Agastya coz he was rich and she wanted to trap a rich guy. Which practical person would continue the marriage under such circumstances when the motives itself are questionable. If we put ourselves in Agastya or his family members' shoes, they were right in their stand.
That’s ok I just didn’t want I be posting Imlie specific comments on the AT. Thanks. You can post Imlie specific comments too as they are always in relation to Agastya.