why dahej ? - Page 2

I AGREE but so much fuss is because the groom's mother is asking for it not because Rathore wants to give those things to Arpita. Gifts are what you want to give out of love & care, dowry is when the groom's family specifically asked for the stuff they want. and top of it's king of blackmailing. how do you know it will stop here and Sundar's mom will not ask for more.

I don't support dowry system and I am hell against it. I am glad my in laws didn't demanded anything neither we obligated to do anything. Rathore's are rich whether Sundar mom demand or not rathore's will provide everything to arpita but here before that happens Sundar mom blackmailing and also bad mouthing Arpita, narmada playing weak instead being strong is the biggest drawback, As per the story i don't think arpita and Sundar will take a exit so no point of getting all these stuffs. Even if they exist to live separately rathore's giving things to their daughter should be out of their love and responsibilities not out of dowry and obligation, I think that's what imlie trying to emphasize it here because she knows rathore's can afford anything to their daughter. She is trying to stop the continuous dowry which will happen after marriage if narmada accepts now. It's good CVS highlighting this topic.

Yes dowry will help families who are suffering to withstand themselves to start but it should come out of own will not because of obligation. Every family can't afford it and it's against law too. It's all about how everyone take things seriously.

Originally posted by: gayatherry88

I don't support dowry system and I am hell against it. I am glad my in laws didn't demanded anything neither we obligated to do anything. Rathore's are rich whether Sundar mom demand or not rathore's will provide everything to arpita but here before that happens Sundar mom blackmailing and also bad mouthing Arpita, narmada playing weak instead being strong is the biggest drawback, As per the story i don't think arpita and Sundar will take a exit so no point of getting all these stuffs. Even if they exist to live separately rathore's giving things to their daughter should be out of their love and responsibilities not out of dowry and obligation, I think that's what imlie trying to emphasize it here because she knows rathore's can afford anything to their daughter. She is trying to stop the continuous dowry which will happen after marriage if narmada accepts now. It's good CVS highlighting this topic.

Yes dowry will help families who are suffering to withstand themselves to start but it should come out of own will not because of obligation. Every family can't afford it and it's against law too. It's all about how everyone take things seriously.

I agree. That's why I said that there are two sides of coin.

Nanda's constant blackmail actually makes me angry, not just at her, but more at rathores and imlie for going ahead with the wedding this is such a mismatched wedding and a Hugh red flag is already in their face in the form of Nanda.

But we are also not told specifically what arrangements have been done for the newly Weds or by the newly Weds. Are they leaving? If yes, then where? How will Arpita live? Also we are not told that rathores were planning to give her anything. We are assuming.

Gifts are supposed to be given willingly, out of love. Not under obligation. That's right. But we know this case is different. Arry ye Shaadi awal tou honi hi nae chahiye thi. Ab ho rhi hai tou dowry ko Kya royen

Originally posted by: Shabia1

I agree. That's why I said that there are two sides of coin.

Nanda's constant blackmail actually makes me angry, not just at her, but more at rathores and imlie for going ahead with the wedding this is such a mismatched wedding and a Hugh red flag is already in their face in the form of Nanda.

But we are also not told specifically what arrangements have been done for the newly Weds or by the newly Weds. Are they leaving? If yes, then where? How will Arpita live? Also we are not told that rathores were planning to give her anything. We are assuming.

Gifts are supposed to be given willingly, out of love. Not under obligation. That's right. But we know this case is different. Arry ye Shaadi awal tou honi hi nae chahiye thi. Ab ho rhi hai tou dowry ko Kya royen

After marriage only we will know what CVS planned for Arpita and Sundar. Here Sundar and Arpita hell bound to marry so no point on stopping this marriage, Arpita maybe widow and it's second marriage but rathore's are way strong on every aspect, this politics make us irritate because of narmada weakness. I am waiting for Aryan reaction on tomorrow nothing much because he don't have idea about dowry.

I hate the dowry system for many many reasons, few below:

Since the day daughter is born, parents have this thing in their mind… very low in the list but slowly crawls up in priorities when daughter grows up. Also a reason why still many places daughters birth isn’t celebrated yet.

If the parents can’t afford, it becomes a burden. Something that may give them sleepless nights.

It automatically gives a superiority feeling to grooms family. Brides family will be obliged to keep them happy with that mindset. Why? Didn’t the girls mother have the same pain and discomfort while giving birth as of a sons mother?

If the dowry custom doesn’t stop completely, I am sure we have witnessed cases where greedy families will prefer a girl with dowry than without it making the second one feel inferior.

The feeling may slowly crawl into husbands mind that he is superior/ his family is superior the way they are treated by brides family. Treating well and treating superior are two different things. I am well aware how parents leave no stone unturned to please their jawai. It’s good to do but never make him feel he is superior to their own daughter.

If parents can afford, why exactly give at the time of wedding? We are talking about giving dowry at the time of wedding to please the grooms family. If you want to give share of inheritance to your daughter(which I strongly feel we should do), just give them at any good time post wedding. This shouldn’t be a condition to get them married but a gift sometime the parents feel they want to support their girl out of their own free will. Also, they can gift the daughter when she visits them or similar occasions. Gifting is not questionable at all, anybody would want to do it, specifically at the time of marriage time is questionable.

I am sure the dowry custom started when girls didn’t work, probably not much educated as the boy and not working. In times of today where girls are as much good as the boy, why why this gender inequality? I feel so angry and sad.

I can write a book about how and why women should say NO to gender inequality at any level, dowry is just a part of it😀

Coming to Arpita’s case, if Aru during the wedding gave half or whatever share of property to Arpita, that was fine. It was considered as a gift from Rs. Arpita accepting or not was her choice. But getting a list from grooms mother and then giving the stuff as per that demand list is definitely dowry per me. Also, when groom’s mother is openly saying without dowry who will marry a widow. In such circumstances, was dowry a good idea? Probably NOT.

Arpita may be in love with Sundar but where’s her self respect? Why do girls have to leave their self respect once in love? How does she see her future married in such family? I definitely was mad at Sunder…. He wasn’t loud and clear at all in his NO… it came out as half heartedly NO to me.

Good afternoon girls !!!!

The show is boring me to death over the last 2 days. I was busy, but as I say always, it is not like I can't find 20 min in my day to watch or comment. But, I just didn't have the inclination.

The Aryan-Imlie scenes also had no soul whatsoever. Exception was the brother-sister scenes from yesterday. The whole Sundar-Arpita wedding and Sundar's characterization or lack thereof and whole dahej thingie is creeping me out🤢

As much as the dowry system is a social evil, the act of weighing Arpita with the things is so crass and cheap😡 Yes, Sundar's mom is cheap, because well she is..... So, instead of having Imlie give all the bhashans and her antics with the flowered weighing scale for aesthetics, why did they not have Sundar handle his mom? That would have elevated the character somewhat, at least made him somewhat worthy of being Arpita's groom and shut up pain in the neck people like me☢️ Instead, his stand is like " I am marrying Arpita ji no matter what" is so disappointing💔For a skeptic like me, it is like yeah, yeah, he knows that Arpita has a big inheritance and so he will marry her despite dahej or whatever😡

And who will endure a bride, your bride, your sister, your daughter being called the derogatory vidhawa again and again in her own shaadi ke mandap🤬 A brother? A mother or a lover? 😡🤬The whole clan and the ASR is ignoring this "word" completely💔.

Why is Narmada so tensed up? She is the matriarch of a billionaire family, her son can literally make anything happen to his sister and mother and then she is afraid that if this Sundar doesn't marry her daughter, somehow her future is doomed for good😡

First off, why isn't Arpita storming off 😡instead of blaming her bad fortune of not being able to marry Sundar? What did they do to that character?😭 Instead she is sitting on a weighing scale?🤢 If writers are thinking this is some kind of women's empowerment or fighting against a social evil through Imlie, please have a look at what they are doing with the other woman in this fiasco, Arpita🤬 Didn't they feel that this is demeaning Arpita's character completely?

Why didn't Aryan ask Sundar and his mom to buzz off? Instead he listens to Imlie's rant and gives her a chance to weigh his sister against things🤢 Why doesn't he think that Sundar's mom can use the ehsaan on the widow card for any number of things in the future and his kill his sister's soul? 🤬

So, what do they expect? After all this bhashan and antics, this devil Nanda is going to be enlightened how bad of a soul she is and let her son Sundar marry Arpita?

It is like zero responsibility on the part of Arpita and Sundar to defend themselves. They are sitting with sad faces as if to say " kaise bhi karke shaadi karaa do humari"🤬 Disgusting writers. I understand Imlie is their central character, but even in things like this, if they let a mature couple handle their real problems, what is there to lose? God forbid if Arpita goes to live with Nanda and Sundar in their house( didn't Narmada say something about a new house" and if Nanda starts abusing Arpita, is Imlie going to take up that cause too? I mean give that Sundar guy and Arpita a spine😡

Being goody-goody and nice is fine, but not being able to stand up when you and your decorum is getting attacked is disappointing😡And both the partners in the same frame of mind is scary☢️

Left a very bad taste for me.👎🏼 This wedding is a complete NO-NO☢️

Dowry system is not just something that happened in India. It was part of marriage in all the civilization in ancient times. But over time people outgrew it as women became more and more empowered in other societies.

In India, I am sorry to say upper middle and rich people of the society are worse than the poor sections. Because these people use the words gifts and token of love for newly weds etc to keep this system alive. exactly how Narmada was doing. The fact that both Arpita and Sundar remained sitting while all this is being discussed it ridiculous. I know the makers are taking a route to show Imlie as being the fighter and outspoken girl with guts to stand up for women's right etc. this is not the first time she is doing this. In the PD track she taught the tribal people about toilets. At that moment the way the scene was written it made perfect sense for a young village girl telling the tribal leader about other women issues. There as well Aryan was clueless why they came back to the village so he let her present her case and only jumped in to protect Imlie and with more cash donations when needed.So, here him being quiet doesn't surprise me.

Also, the sympathetic look shared between Narmada and Meethi was a good touch. They both have a lot in common. They were both single mothers, one a widow and other unwed. They both have raise strong women. But they both have seen their daughters' pervious marriages being dissolved either through divorce or death. A really painful experience for a mom. So they both know how much they want their daughters' second chance at happy life. Meethi literally forced and blackmailed Imlie to marry Aryan. While we all are thinking why Narmada is silent and accepting everything, I think she is in similar situation as Meethi was that day. And Meethi realizes that and is supporting Narmada through this time.

I understand that Narmada is thinking about Arpita getting her happiness with the materialistic things. But Sundar and Arpita should have spoken more viciously. Imlie bringing out the decorated scale is just like her bringing mop and brooms to reception. As someone pointed out that day, it was a protest and those were props for added effect. Similarly the scale is for added effect.

My only issue is that this Imliepanti is getting on repeat every 2 episodes. Thankfully ex GF is coming on thrusday. If makers acan only handle crazy obnoxious ex gf troupes only as evidenced by their pervious show Qubool hai and Imlie 1.0 (eg Malini) then lets just buckle up and get ready.

Originally posted by: BlueJayFire

Spot on..When two people are willingly getting married, whats the negotiation and deals..wow..I am totally against the dahej system. Everyone including Narmada should be punished for taking the word Dahej..

Whatever with the Jhula was so not needed.

I swear that was so useless

The dowry system is cursed for women.

But fir bhi Sundar doesn't deserve dowry. The dowry is a price tag of groom which this society tag a token of love for the bride. & That's a harsh truth. More educated or earning man demand more dowry. But here Sundar is uneducated, he is a house helper. He is marrying a princess. It should be enough for him. If his mother demanding dowry then it's nothing just a cunning person. Anath ashram k liye bhi paise Arpita k taraf se. If one of the rich boy like uday demand dowry then it would be more impactful & more understandable.

They always pick a sensitive issue but execute badly. This dowry took so much innocent girls life. I hate this system. If Arpita took stand for herself then it would so good. If Sundar shut Nanda then it would be more impactful. But show name is Imlie so every problem solve by her only. Other would be mute or week.