so I haven't seen the episode yet. so I will just comment in general.
I think we have to look at this widow card in multiple ways -- so as a nation, we are multicultural, multilingual, multireligious and multicommunity. this means that we have very different ways of looking at the same topic such as widow card. we also have to consider how historical practices still silently affect attitudes today in certain parts but may not have as much relevance in other parts of the country. am not trying to hurt anyone's feelings or beliefs, but trying to give a general view -- please don't take offense as it is not meant to be disrespectful to anyone.
we need to look at the whole idea of fate and what we believe about death -- that also makes a difference in how we view widows, divorcees, relationship breakdowns.......
now that is one side, I have also seen some relatives characters like aunty blue who use the widow card to get out of tricky situations -- they will taunt and if anyone questions them, they create drama that they are widow and being attacked etc. 🤷♀️
we need to keep Arpita in that cultural lens as well -- she comes from a position where she is constantly told that because they didn't do all these rituals + her fate, that her husband died some horrible tragic death. so not only does she have grief, she is left with guilt and accusation that somehow her bad fate is why Arvind died. now wouldn't that make anyone more hesitant and more confused on what their options could be? the last time she chose, this man died. now his death has nothing to do with her but how does her grief translate what happened to him? when you have characters like aunty blue constantly taunting, won't a woman in some level blame herself?
as for her options, again, it depends on how we view re-marriage. in some families/communities, they feel that re-marriage means that your choices narrow and only choice is to move down. but that is not necessarily the case. it really depends on how open people are.
one of my mom's relative re-married and this was in 80s when it wasn't common at all. her husband passed away a year after their marriage in an accident. those days, re-marriage would have seemed like her choices were limited. however, they found someone who had never been married, good qualification etc who was willing to marry her. she didn't marry down.
nowadays, people are lot more open and more matter of fact about it and so it is not like people's choices are that limited. however, sometimes I have heard from colleagues from other parts of the country that it isn't necessarily so. I guess what I am trying to say it all depends. I am not criticizing anyone's culture as we are all different in our nation. however, it is what it is and our regional culture also plays a role in how we view something like what is shown in this serial. we are all not going to have the same reaction to these scenes. for some people, it will make sense and others not at all.
in regards to the drama, I really hope that we get good writing that shows how Arpita is dealing with the fallout from her grief and guilt in a meaningful way. I don't want her to choose Sundar because she is out of options but rather because he is a meaningful option for her. I want the creatives to slow down and write scenes for these side characters that are just as detailed and meaningful. then, this track and all the questions will be good --- otherwise, what to say... 🤷♀️
Edited by mango.falooda - 3 years ago
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