Originally posted by: spelano.ws
This! I absolutely despise how many people have been passing these judgements on her because ‘naukrani ne malkin ki zindagi kharab kardi’ (I have seen those exact words used so many times) such vicious words used even comments like she’s illegitimate so she deserves it, all for what??? A bland character with zero personality besides aditya. They’re unhappy the family loves imlie? ‘Aisa kaun karta hai’ my foot. You’d rather see anu treating her househelp like absolute shit that’s more realistic than people treating a human being like a human being and loving her as such. Honestly, it’s disturbed me a lot seeing this mentality in so many people. I have stopped engaging or even thinking about it, distancing myself as much as I can from them. I heard somewhere, the best thing about fiction is that at the end of the day, it doesn’t matter how many people love it and how many people hate it. The only thing that matters is what it meant to you, if you got something good out of it. A meaningful experience, some happiness. And that’s all I am trying to do right now. Which is why the sudden shift in dynamics upset me, idc about these vile views but I really really hope they’re not the reason the vibe of the show is off.
@bold. Exactly- I only started watching this a month ago and have been binge- watching and re- watching since then. I was so shocked reviewing the comments on various forums and news outlets on the internet, after watching a few episodes and I think this is what drew me to the show - that it exposes so much about our psyche as a society that is wrong. That without understanding how Imlie came to be in that relationship- they call her naukrani and husband stealer- just because she looks a certain way. So automatically based on the way you talk, walk and behave you are pigeonholed into a certain box, that you should Never try to get out of. That a tall fair educated guy can and should only fall in love with a similar looking girl. I was so happy when the writers were creating such strong episodes to change this way of thinking and bucking this trend.
And yes - also shocking is that people think it’s actually wrong for the Ts to treat Imlie so well when they think she has entered their family as household help. That’s why even though Imlie’s dream doesnot sit well with those of us who love her, I think it was also a reflection of the way a particular part of the public are actually reacting this way in reality - so May be it’s to call that part of the society out- for how wrong they are, that the writers had that bit thrown in.
And then finally the biggest discussion - our collective views on what constitutes a happy marriage. Forget happy - good marriage. That only two people of similar backgrounds can be happy together and if there is trouble in the marriage then it’s your ‘duty’ to sacrifice your happiness to keep the marriage together. There has been so much focus on Malini’s haq- how good a wife she has been and that she doesnot ‘deserve’ this. That if she wants Adi then he better ready to give himself to her and if he isn’t then she has every right to ‘fight for her rights’, manipulate people, call Imlie names - just to test and see if Imlie is the reason Adi is not talking to her anymore; that people who made her unhappy should feel guilty and should be made to pay...All that is just so wrong. I am not denying the rights of a woman to be supported financially or otherwise etc by her ex- spouse also not denying that he give her an explanation ( though I doubt if that will be enough for her)...but you can’t demand his soul, man. Because there is also the other part of this marriage- Aadi’s haq to his happiness which I hope he keeps vocalizing and I hope he is heard soon.
I hope that the writers are drawing us through this current doom and gloom and this abjectly apologetic Imlie ( who is a ghost of her former self) only to contrast with Imlie in all her glory - ready to fight for her happiness because she has every right to it, she has done no wrong and has every right too to love whom she wants. And not feel sorry for feeling that love. I hope the introduction of Rupi into their secret is a step in this direction. Fingers crossed.
Edited by Sunnygrin1 - 4 years ago