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I admit beforehand that this post is just based on the written update that I read during my lunchtime. The actual facial expressions and body language has its own impact on our perception which is lost upon me today. 😕 My views may be entirely wrong. I am not siding Arzoo here just trying to understand. Thanks for reading.
I remember the episode where Zara is stressing that she is not a child anymore and demands to be treated as a responsible adult. Nothing wrong in that. Today was Arzoo's chance to allow Zara to participate in this sudden monetary crisis that family is facing. Nausheen is not wrong in her argument. Sarfaraz should and must pay for his daughter's needs. Even though Arzoo may not like it due to her own pride, hurt, principles etc, it is really between Nausheen and Sarfaraz. Let Sarfaraz give this dhamaki to Nausheen first. Anyways, my point was Arzoo, had her own thoughts not so much distracted by her own issues, could have said, You know what Zara, you wanna be treated as responsible adult, contribute to family's wellbeing. here is your chance. Tell me, how can we overcome this crisis. Where will be get the money from? Maybe Zara may have felt gratified at being acknowledged thus by the very sister that she looks up to. She may herself would have disclosed the cheque she got and problem could have been solved right then and there. But No. Arzoo does not do that. She does not think before shutting Zara out. That is a big mistake. Zara will always resent her for not allowing to grow as her own person. Arzoo is so used to taking care of family, she has forgotten that she can't take decisions for them all, she will realize this too late after they have all rebelled.
The scene that comes on top of this newest wrinkle, is another convo with Sahir. Her lashing out at Sahir is her way of retaliation. She does not hate him really but she has feelings of betrayal such deep that I bet whenever she sees Sahir, the only thought that comes to her mind is "mein shadishuda hun". That one emotion clouds over everything else and we can't blame her for that. As we know, she hates the position of second wife with all her heart and to imagine herself in that position, is painful. She knows not what she is saying. She is just venting out and Sahir is allowing that as he should. He should not point out the obvious flaws in her madat argument when she herself is a freeloader in his house. Arzoo needs time to express her grief which unfortuantely the zany Zaki is not giving her, she is still in the same house and new problems seem to crop up everyday, normality does not seem to return any day soon.
I understand Sahir's feelings are real, concern is genuine however Sahir miya boond se gayi woh haud se nahi aati. Itni jaldi you can't expect anything. Your role for now should be just be there, give her space and let her take make the first move. Unfortunately however you don't have time to do that and it is such a pity.
Who says they are missing Asharfi? With Zaki parroting the same lines again and again, looks like he is their new Asharfi.
The precap seems to be another such poor retaliatory attempt by Arzoo. To me it seems like she is telling him, your betrayal has hurt me so so much that I am reduced to doing things which I never thought I could do. I am making a fool of myself and how. I never thought I will have to break my promise to the Almighty himself. This is what I feel, this is what I have become. These are all ways of expressing grief which I am not saying are right but she has no guidance on it.
I remember the episode where Zara is stressing that she is not a child anymore and demands to be treated as a responsible adult. Nothing wrong in that. Today was Arzoo's chance to allow Zara to participate in this sudden monetary crisis that family is facing. Nausheen is not wrong in her argument. Sarfaraz should and must pay for his daughter's needs. Even though Arzoo may not like it due to her own pride, hurt, principles etc, it is really between Nausheen and Sarfaraz. Let Sarfaraz give this dhamaki to Nausheen first. Anyways, my point was Arzoo, had her own thoughts not so much distracted by her own issues, could have said, You know what Zara, you wanna be treated as responsible adult, contribute to family's wellbeing. here is your chance. Tell me, how can we overcome this crisis. Where will be get the money from? Maybe Zara may have felt gratified at being acknowledged thus by the very sister that she looks up to. She may herself would have disclosed the cheque she got and problem could have been solved right then and there. But No. Arzoo does not do that. She does not think before shutting Zara out. That is a big mistake. Zara will always resent her for not allowing to grow as her own person. Arzoo is so used to taking care of family, she has forgotten that she can't take decisions for them all, she will realize this too late after they have all rebelled.
The scene that comes on top of this newest wrinkle, is another convo with Sahir. Her lashing out at Sahir is her way of retaliation. She does not hate him really but she has feelings of betrayal such deep that I bet whenever she sees Sahir, the only thought that comes to her mind is "mein shadishuda hun". That one emotion clouds over everything else and we can't blame her for that. As we know, she hates the position of second wife with all her heart and to imagine herself in that position, is painful. She knows not what she is saying. She is just venting out and Sahir is allowing that as he should. He should not point out the obvious flaws in her madat argument when she herself is a freeloader in his house. Arzoo needs time to express her grief which unfortuantely the zany Zaki is not giving her, she is still in the same house and new problems seem to crop up everyday, normality does not seem to return any day soon.
I understand Sahir's feelings are real, concern is genuine however Sahir miya boond se gayi woh haud se nahi aati. Itni jaldi you can't expect anything. Your role for now should be just be there, give her space and let her take make the first move. Unfortunately however you don't have time to do that and it is such a pity.
Who says they are missing Asharfi? With Zaki parroting the same lines again and again, looks like he is their new Asharfi.
The precap seems to be another such poor retaliatory attempt by Arzoo. To me it seems like she is telling him, your betrayal has hurt me so so much that I am reduced to doing things which I never thought I could do. I am making a fool of myself and how. I never thought I will have to break my promise to the Almighty himself. This is what I feel, this is what I have become. These are all ways of expressing grief which I am not saying are right but she has no guidance on it.
Anupamaa
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