Double standards- edited topic : note : 15 - Page 11

Originally posted by: Surbhi123

See you are ignoring all the things ...that she is a part of a family who loves her...a normal family...than it's not about indira...such family do exist in india...and she is so hard because of the family only...you can't eliminate the surroundings of a person...without the surroundings...the person is nothing...if my surrounding...people close to me weren't like they are...i have not been the same person...

you can't compare us with her...we completed our studies before working...choose our careers with our choice...and are supported by parents at every next stage of life...We all were brought in a loving environment...i hope none of us on forum have been through that mental torture what indira went through...

Originally posted by: Walden

There is nothing wrong in expecting help from your brothers and sisters. Yes everyone in the family should put in equal efforts. But here Indira didn't just expect help from vidith, she wanted him to return and take over the entire familys responsiblity and to "free" her from this burden. Why? If Indira expected help from her brothers, then why NOT her sister? Why shouldn't Mandira work and suppor the family as well and then support her married family later in life? If Indra was so concerned about gender equality and equal rights for women, then why not expect the same from her sister that she did from her brothers?

Originally posted by: Walden

No Absolutely not...You got my point wrong. Women in no way consider themselves weak. If they would have considered themselves weak, then they never had moved on, they would have silently accepted a confined life around four walls. Neither Indira was weak and that is why she stood up to take family's responsibility. It's the society with it's stereotype approach of women not meant for working to earn. If a girl and a boy go for same interview, there are more chances of boy getting selected simply because they have more expectations from a boy than a girl. A man never has to face what a woman faces. He never have to be attentive and scared while walking on road late night but she has to. Literacy rate for women is lower than men. Why? because people are more interested in boys' education than a girl. The society has high time deprived women of what men usually do. Gender inequality still exists. So in this presumed world of females being the weaker sex, if women breaking all the chains in which they were tied and do something equivalent, why not give it a recognition? I again repeat any sort of encouragement boosts individual to perform better. Okay let me give you an example. Men are not habituated to household works. In the absense of their wives, they have to adapt to household duties. And I have seen many examples in my neighbourhood that men boasting themselves for doing household works. What's the point of boasting here? Cause they want recognition. They want to show the world that they are doing something unique.

Edited by -Yukti- - 12 years ago

Originally posted by: -Yukti-

Okay I see what you're saying and I can't disagree with your argument. Maybe it has to do more with how I was brought up- I grew up in India (in a very middle-income home- but moved away from India in my teens) as a only child (no brohters) and I never felt like I was treated differently by my parents, school, or society because I was a girl. So yes even though I have had to struggle to get whee I am today, gender inequality is not something I have faced too much and maybe I'm wrong in assuming that it is not as prevalent in India, especially in the bigger cities especially in this day and age. As far as I understand, there are a lot of girls in India today who work. And I also have to say that yes even though girls face challenges, I'm sure boys face their own set of challenges growing up in a society that boxes them into certain roles and stereotypes as well.

As for HD, I still think that it does more to propagate negative stereotypes about women than breaking any barriers for women (see our discussion before about Vidith and Mandira too). But if I had to conclude this discussion, I'll repeat what one of the other forum members stated in this thread- instead of appreciating and emphatizing with just one gender, I think its time for us to appreciate both and understand that both face their own set of challenges. BTW, thanks for your thoughtful comments.

Originally posted by: luminos3

Walden quite a battlefield of a topic i must say!😆 Anyway d show has thrived dis long on hollow pseudo-feminism!🤣😆 where an apparently "strong" woman suffers emotional/mental/physical torture at d hands of her family but goes out to d world proclaiming she is Hitler and slaps/beats somebody up with a slipper to prove dis very point! All i can get out of dis portrayal is ghar pe billi, Chandni Chowk mein sher ki khaal!🤣🤣

Originally posted by: luminos3

Walden quite a battlefield of a topic i must say!😆 Anyway d show has thrived dis long on hollow pseudo-feminism🤣😆 where an apparently "strong" woman suffers emotional/mental/physical torture at d hands of her family but goes out to d world proclaiming she is Hitler and slaps/beats somebody up with a slipper to prove dis very point! All i can get out of dis portrayal is ghar pe billi, Chandni Chowk mein sher ki khaal!🤣🤣

Originally posted by: Heema22

Hi Hema. I was about to comment ,I landed on your comment!! I did not read every comments!!!just few . After reading your comment , Now I know why you got those awards ,!!! I voted to!! Congrats again. You are proving our points,,!!!!

Walden and Pari. Very heathy and on topic conversation. I loved it .Pari I am sorry but I was not in mood yesterday to join you two. It was too much for my brain on Sunday afternoon. But I did get some time this morning. I hope every one stays within the topic .

I was talking to my husband about this. We both have not suffer in any way with gender stereotypes or discriminations!! But Both men and women face the same problem and because of the society. even in western countries this will exit for long time, women suffer more because their tolerance and men suffer due to high expectation from women " take care of me" mentality . In educated couple we see this less but then they suffer with power struggles and control issues . So it's no win situation . Both genders have problems!!!

So this discussion will go on for ever , because every one has different expriances and expectations for opposite sex!!