First No: consequences

Now we all know that Pratibha is not going to cook for the Sunidhi's kitty party and in turn Sunidhi will do everything to make the big drama so that all other family members are against Pratibha. I am thinking how Prat is going to handle and who will be her supporter...I am hoping at least mahen understands her...but knowing the mental tension he is going through this is least expected...your views friends...

Originally posted by: tulipbaby53

I actually did not agree with P for refusing to make the food for S because she did not tell her flat out "No". P waited and waited until S started to figure out that nothing was cooked. She not only made S look bad in front of her friends, P also disgraced the house because guests came to their home and left hungry. P should have told S from the beginning that she will not cook for her Kitty Party, and P has to be strong in her "No". That way S would have had some time to order food in advance or something. I guess P was afraid of the confrontation, but she will have to deal with these confrontations if she wants respect in her household.

Originally posted by: cherrypansy

...but even S didn't ask her directly...and it was her party, she would have been much earlier at home to see the arrangements ...but the problem is she is so full of herself and takes P for granted or to be precise consider P her maid...

Second, S always make P look bad in front of her family especially children...and as far as guests are considered I don't think it matters coz all ladies there were big gossip queens...even you do for them...situation remains the same..

But I agree with you that P needs to be strong and confront people directly...

Originally posted by: tulipbaby53

Yes, you are right that S did not directly ask P if she can cook for her Kitty Party, and I know that is why P justified not telling S a straightforward "No, I'm not going to cook for your Kitty Party." Also, if P has told S in advance, S probably would have had the MIL yell at P and force P to cook for her, so I do understand why P did not tell S directly.

I think though, for longterm, P has to stop being afraid of confrontation. Telling S a straightforward "No" and being able to stay firm to that "No" despite all of S's and the MIL's taunts and S's manipulative games, is the only way P will get respect for herself in front of her family. It's really tough though because she will have to look like the "bad guy", but it will only be short-term. I think though communicating to Mahen about what she's doing and why she's doing is crucial for her cause. She needs to be able to have him on her side for her support. She needs to also explain to him about S and MIL's behaviors.

Originally posted by: devashree_h

This was her first 'No' and she was full of guilt and fear. But it was a good start. Sunidhi is someone who takes her for granted. For once, Sundhi got taste of her own medicine. I hope Pushpa puts some more confidence so that she can take her stance. Mahen cant be the one she has to confide in because he always takes out the world's frustration on her.