~ Societal Acceptance ~

Hi there,

beautiful post uditi ...love what u raised today, this show is lots about parallelism ,it shows what constraints are in village life and what are there in city,in both places society becomes more important than individual happiness. Some things are reality, man is social animal and has to live in these settings, but what matters is if one can enhance one's humanity in this whole process then he is the winner.

^^^very well said Sami ... But social acceptance at a cost of what ? Barkha rather have an unhappy son rather than a "Gawaar" daughter in law . Putti's mom rather marry her daughter to an elder man than to the guy she loves . Yes indeed the issue is still the same whether it is high society or a village scenario.

Social acceptance is a funny thing, we all want that feeling of belonging, but personal happiness should come first. Theses people are all there for you when things are going right but soon as your having problems they abandoned you. They may taunt you but fact is they are not there to help you pick up the pieces. In putti's case I didn't see any young man from her caste asking for marriage, why because of her sister's failed marriage, the same society who will taunt will not resolve the problem, had her mother not agreed, putti would have stayed home all her life.

Originally posted by: premparbat

^^^very well said Sami ... But social acceptance at a cost of what ? Barkha rather have an unhappy son rather than a "Gawaar" daughter in law . Putti's mom rather marry her daughter to an elder man than to the guy she loves . Yes indeed the issue is still the same whether it is high society or a village scenario.

So Laajo sets out to be an equal but tomorrow if Ayesha falls in love with Adi what about him ? Will he be expected to become rich ? Is this social norm a practice that women need to follow ?

My point - the heart and the head should be in the right place and both should function in a synchronized manner . Currently both Barkha and Laajo are in battlefield and ready to draw their swords motivated by their egos. Society has nothing to do with it.

Originally posted by: londonkababu

Hi there,Hi

I took my time reading your points as you have raised some very interesting and questioning points.

Up to a level we are all victims of society and its codes of acceptance. We may be more modern in our outlook to our grand parents and parents, we may be more conservative to some younger guys, but yes we have our comfort zones, and limits to what we will and won't accept. GD shows clearly that Sonbarsa has it's tolerance levels and Barkha and her high society in Delhi has its own.

I completely agree each place each individual has their own limits, and it ultimately on us how we decide to be affected by the societal pressures

We hate Barkha's unwillingness to accept Laajo and her utter contempt for her and seeing her as an uneducated and uncultured girl and missing out on her innocent, loving and helpful character. Sonbarsa too has horrible caste and creed issues and the attitude towards females is repulsive.

True in the sense the whole show started with showing how in Sonbarsa everyone wanted to get Laajo married and her own parents then due to the norms didn't allow her to continue studying,

We love Nikhil and Adi because they are prepared to move out of the constraints of society.

GD is very well written in the sense that it raises these subjects by polarising good and bad characters.

I know rite this show doesn't show just one aspect like we can see so many different aspects the good, the bad and the medium ones too

I do hope that we can have a lively discussion on these themes from the forum members.

my replies in Bold 😳

Originally posted by: sami01

beautiful post uditi ...love what u raised today, this show is lots about parallelism ,it shows what constraints are in village life and what are there in city,in both places society becomes more important than individual happiness. Some things are reality, man is social animal and has to live in these settings, but what matters is if one can enhance one's humanity in this whole process then he is the winner.

Thank u, completely agree we are social beings but at times some people like for example Barkha and Nani too they make it their sole purpose of their life to please the society without really thinking of their personal values that's why now i like Nani more she has started to think more about her family and Nikhil

I also feel what matters is inner peace, See people like barkha despite having everything are so bitter, restless and alone in their demonic worlds.

adi is some one who is at peace with his inner self while Nikhil is some one who has to find out real motive of his life.

Nikhil will get there slowly he has a bitter past but yet he tries to be happy slowly he will his true purpose and let go of his past 😳

Laajo is right in her way that she wants to face demons of Nikhil's world as equal and I don't blame her,so far adi is one character that shines best,nikhil is next and I want to see his journey as individual and see where it takes him.

Adi and Nikhil are lovely written characters they are not perfect they are normal beings with their flaws and Adi knows them and accepts them wholeheartedly which is so nice

My replies in Bold 😳

Originally posted by: premparbat

^^^very well said Sami ... But social acceptance at a cost of what ? Barkha rather have an unhappy son rather than a "Gawaar" daughter in law . Putti's mom rather marry her daughter to an elder man than to the guy she loves . Yes indeed the issue is still the same whether it is high society or a village scenario.

So Laajo sets out to be an equal but tomorrow if Ayesha falls in love with Adi what about him ? Will he be expected to become rich ? Is this social norm a practice that women need to follow ?

My point - the heart and the head should be in the right place and both should function in a synchronized manner . Currently both Barkha and Laajo are in battlefield and ready to draw their swords motivated by their egos. Society has nothing to do with it.

@ bold 👏 very well said, its actually true also they are both trying to prove a point and to satisy their egos also Barkha wants to prove that only she can decide whats best and Laajo that she deserves to live in that house