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Posted: 11 years ago

In today's episode and in few episodes after laajo left why nikhil is behaving like
he is the one sacrificing married life for the future and sake of laajo so that she will
be happy .

He is behaving and talking creating scenes like only and only for laajo's
happiness as if laajo is the one forced him to sign on divorce, laajo is the one who actually
unhappy with him in this marriage and as if laajo herself wants to get rid of this marriage
and after seeing that scene of nikhil signing on the papers and the way he said now he is
freeing her from this relationship and made me confused that as if laajo is the one loves
another man and she wants divorce and she wants to live with another man and nikhil
is divorcing her allowing her to go with another man whom she loved . This is what
Nikhil scene today looks .

Can you please clarify me who the hell is sacrificing here and who was actually
hurting and who actually forced other one to take this decision .

For whose happiness and for whose future who sacrificed ?

Nikhil u r really great u actually confused me . So makers want us to think for this
marriage to fail as per nikhil and makers view laajo is the reason and for laajo's
happiness and due to her selfishness nikhil has to sign on divorce papers .

I want to bang my head now

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Posted: 11 years ago

it was guilt talking yaar am just crying ...today need time then will come back and comment

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Posted: 11 years ago

ok all right my 2 cents on all this..

what is PH thinking. I feel they r building for grand downfall of all the family members.

Every one including Nikhil's dad played on Nikhil's guilt in their own way. Ishaana played on Nikhil's guilt by telling him how this decision would make Laajo more comfortable. No one is even suggesting that Laajo could just adjust into his lifestyle had she gotten any chance. So the game they played right from start is playing a psychological game with Nikhil. Nikhil has a chemistry with Laajo, there is awareness between 2 which confused Nikhil but before it could be explored Ishaana always came in.

Now Ishaana and all his family are making him think that even though Laajo did this for you,she will benefit from this.His father ensured he would help with her second marriage .Nikhil feels may be if she marries again she will get happiness. The day he finds out that all his family as in his mom,nani and ishaana knew Laajo loved him and played games with her to get away from him he will hate them, hence that will be next track...Nikhil hating all his family. So I feel low point in Nikhil and his character is for next high point of the drama...the grand eye opening of Nikhil...

hope this helped/but am also confused ...but Nikhil's scene made me cry today ...be it when he signed it or he spoke with his dad. It speaks volumes about Nikhil's pure heart which got manipulated big time starting from beginning by everyone including his bauji. Only person who never played with him is Laajo and soon he would realized he finds out Laajo would never marry again he wil be broken, because basic urge deep down in his heart is to comfort Laajo---its a call to his heart, may be it was when he saved her, married her, couldn't leave her in sonbursa, saved her at his sister's fiasco...basic instinct to protect Laajo is there and that is what scares Ishaana and makes her insecure.

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Posted: 11 years ago

Originally posted by: sami01
ok all right my 2 cents on all this..
what is PH thinking. I feel they r building for grand downfall of all the family members.

Every one including Nikhil's dad played on Nikhil's guilt in their own way. Ishaana played on Nikhil's guilt by telling him how this decision would make Laajo more comfortable. No one is even suggesting that Laajo could just adjust into his lifestyle had she gotten any chance. So the game they played right from start is playing a psychological game with Nikhil. Nikhil has a chemistry with Laajo, there is awareness between 2 which confused Nikhil but before it could be explored Ishaana always came in.

Now Ishaana and all his family are making him think that even though Laajo did this for you,she will benefit from this.His father ensured he would help with her second marriage .Nikhil feels may be if she marries again she will get happiness. The day he finds out that all his family as in his mom,nani and ishaana knew Laajo loved him and played games with her to get away from him he will hate them, hence that will be next track...Nikhil hating all his family. So I feel low point in Nikhil and his character is for next high point of the drama...the grand eye opening of Nikhil...

hope this helped/but am also confused ...but Nikhil's scene made me cry today ...be it when he signed it or he spoke with his dad. It speaks volumes about Nikhil's pure heart which got manipulated big time starting from beginning by everyone including his bauji. Only person who never played with him is Laajo and soon he would realized he finds out Laajo would never marry again he wil be broken, because basic urge deep down in his heart is to comfort Laajo---its a call to his heart, may be it was when he saved her, married her, couldn't leave her in sonbursa, saved her at his sister's fiasco...basic instinct to protect Laajo is there and that is what scares Ishaana and makes her insecure.

Thank you for the reply dear . I agree that all people manipulated him from the
begining . But that does n't make him good any in my point of view . He deserved
to be in guilty and we are not even getting a chance to see him in guilty .

Main interesting point which u said that nikhil from the begining wants to protect
laajo . He has that basic urge to protect her right ? I agree but
Yaar sami iam too much tired of seeing this nikhil who is only showing pity
protectiveness towards laajo . He just wants to protect her nothing more than that.
In the begining he wants to protect her from the society so he married her without
any second thought .

we all know what nikhil thought after his marriage how he always regretted
his marriage . yaar did he actually helped laajo protected laajo or in the name of
protection he actually made her life hell . U tell me i accept that he is not an evil man
with evil intensions to spoil her life . He is a good man with pure heart and helped her.
But still it would have far far better laajo's life if he had not married her ?
Dont u agree i mean as of now ?

What does he think now ? He wants to protect her again by actually divorcing her .
I mean as if he don't want to divorce her in the first place ? Is he doing only for her sake
for protecting her ? Did n't he ever realised that He only he and i repeat only he dont
want to be with her and only he needs divorce to marry his girl friend .

I know everyone is manipulating his guilt but does he ever realise that they
are all manipulating him to just make him guilt free ? or he is really beleiving
all that stuff all they are saying to him . It seems to me that he is actually beleiving that he is doing for only laajo's good . He is not doing for himself he is beleiving
that. That 's why iam disappointed with him .

He played with an innocent girl's life and here we are not getting satisfaction
atleast to see him guilty . Even that guilt is being manipulated and he is actually beleiving that taking everything in light sense .

Such an important emotional scene when signing on divorce paper
i mean the scene is very very light actually looking like its just an ordinary paper
his girl friend asked that whether he beleived her and he signed it . Is that so simple ?
Or his belief in Ishaana is that much stronger that he did n't even hesitated to sign later.

I wonder Is that the actor's fault or the makers's fault where the intensity is
bloody missing in each scene of nikhil's .

I have seen enough of his caring , protectiveness towards laajo .
Those feelings are not taking him anywhere and nothing change is happening in his
character .

I dont want him to come to laajo this time with just protectiveness . Many people
are there to protect laajo . No need of him.

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Posted: 11 years ago

Originally posted by: ziks

Thank you for the reply dear . I agree that all people manipulated him from the
begining . But that does n't make him good any in my point of view . He deserved
to be in guilty and we are not even getting a chance to see him in guilty .

Main interesting point which u said that nikhil from the begining wants to protect
laajo . He has that basic urge to protect her right ? I agree but
Yaar sami iam too much tired of seeing this nikhil who is only showing pity
protectiveness towards laajo . He just wants to protect her nothing more than that.
In the begining he wants to protect her from the society so he married her without
any second thought .

we all know what nikhil thought after his marriage how he always regretted
his marriage . yaar did he actually helped laajo protected laajo or in the name of
protection he actually made her life hell . U tell me i accept that he is not an evil man
with evil intensions to spoil her life . He is a good man with pure heart and helped her.
But still it would have far far better laajo's life if he had not married her ?
Dont u agree i mean as of now ?

What does he think now ? He wants to protect her again by actually divorcing her .
I mean as if he don't want to divorce her in the first place ? Is he doing only for her sake
for protecting her ? Did n't he ever realised that He only he and i repeat only he dont
want to be with her and only he needs divorce to marry his girl friend .

I know everyone is manipulating his guilt but does he ever realise that they
are all manipulating him to just make him guilt free ? or he is really beleiving
all that stuff all they are saying to him . It seems to me that he is actually beleiving that he is doing for only laajo's good . He is not doing for himself he is beleiving
that. That 's why iam disappointed with him .

He played with an innocent girl's life and here we are not getting satisfaction
atleast to see him guilty . Even that guilt is being manipulated and he is actually beleiving that taking everything in light sense .

Such an important emotional scene when signing on divorce paper
i mean the scene is very very light actually looking like its just an ordinary paper
his girl friend asked that whether he beleived her and he signed it . Is that so simple ?
Or his belief in Ishaana is that much stronger that he did n't even hesitated to sign later.

I wonder Is that the actor's fault or the makers's fault where the intensity is
bloody missing in each scene of nikhil's .

I have seen enough of his caring , protectiveness towards laajo .
Those feelings are not taking him anywhere and nothing change is happening in his
character .

I dont want him to come to laajo this time with just protectiveness . Many people
are there to protect laajo . No need of him.

first of all ur welcome,this forum needs more activity re and somehow not many people watch this show it seems.

You know what I rewatched the scene and tried to see it from director's point of view.See we know vibhav can pull it now in emotional scenes.He has grown much better actor with time ,even with his voice modulation so it is director's demand I feel whatever we see as in about expressions

I saw few things today in scene with Ishaana: Nikhil was not pre occupied with Ishaana and her toys🤢,in fact he was not that interested, I feel this is this director's first step towards Nikhil's maturity. I also feel he was restless, despite the constant lectures about how he should not feel guilty, only thing that did satisfy him was when she finally told him Laajo would be insulted in this house, wont be fair to laajo etc etc. Also when she handed him the pen, he was reminded of all rituals of marriage hence culturally significant point ...that a signature cannot destroy marriage and its rituals. See if you look at our culture specially in hindus.sikhs etc we don't have concept of divorce, marriage is forever and it is a commitment and it doesn't even depend on a consummation or not, Legally its a different story.

So we were shown that these things like signatures on divorce papers may be significant legally they r not able to break bonds created by god's own grace and in his presence. First time I saw Nikhil acknowledging those rituals. Have you noticed any time he is real danger of getting out of his lakshman rekha he is reminded of that sindoor and mangalsutra time. Also he easily removed Ishaana's hand from his shoulder. And later on when Ishaana said its good for Laajo also ,then also he hesitated. She asked him are you ready to even break this relationship---his answer was such a lackluster rant from before---there was no conviction in voice when he said I told you I want to spend my life with you. He is not sure in his heart if this is what he wants but since has been saying this for years he is still sticking to comfortable and known and not willing to look into unknown with Laajo.It is scary for him.

And I feel that dialogue ---do you trust me and his signature due to that is very symbolic...that is a build up point for grand break of trust track which I hope comes soon.

I know and agree with all your points my dear but from what I understood this director and PH they want to take it slow and to keep audience still stick to show they released the promo early so people watch in hope of the Nikhil of that promo.

But I agree with you on one point and that is Ishaana's grand downfall is due and soon but somehow I feel it wont be soon, I feel The sickness track will come first, then Laajo too will sign divorce papers and then may be Nikhil will realize...so what can we do but to be patient and Remember to skip the scene from SBB...😃

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Posted: 11 years ago

I just went thru; your post here and felt I should share what I feel about it. I think Nikhil's conscience is going thru an emotional turmoil. We should be very clear here to know that Nikhil is not aware that Laajo loves him. He has been treating her as his responsibility right from the beginning though he has let her down on a number of occasions. Now he feels that he did not fulfill his responsibility and is feeling guilty. His this vulnerability is being used against him by his parents and Ishaana who want Laajo out of his life by hook or crook. Nikhil cannot see through this as he has a smoke screen in front of him namely Ishaana 😡 !!!!!

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Jesmin

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Posted: 11 years ago

sorry to disappoint guys ..but i hate this INNOCENT GIRL term..it is a shame itself!!! girls don't require to be innocent ..they need to stand up and fight! seriously i don't sympathize with girls in such situations ..we r only blaming Nikhil ..but why we never think,it is also Laajo's fault that she gave up on him .. see she was not confident abt her love and the fact that Nikhil too wil love him back,so she left ..if the relation never worked,that means both parties r responsible ..nothing in this world happened for one side ..did u ever try to think what was Laajo's contribution to the relation ..if we see a zero in case of Nikhil,same with Laajo ..both never cooperated as better halves ..i m also disappointed in Laajo ..she never even felt confident to fight for herself .. so now all blame on Nikhil? if we want to see a revolutionary change in Nikhil for that something or someones has to work to naa .. it won't happen overnight .. and then Laajo left!

And coming to other points i totally agree with Sami Di,that now days he feels disconnected to Ishana wherever we have any scene .. so i m happy with the progress :)

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Posted: 11 years ago

@ Jes.. Well you are right on one count that girls need not sacrifice all the time and they should feel equal to men and have right to voice their opinion and also disagree with things which they don't believe in. But being INNOCENT does not mean being weak all the time. Innocence is a rare attribute which is being yourself and also having a truthful & pure heart. Here Laajo's innocence has never come in her way of being courageous, as Nikhil rightly says that she is the one having more 'Boota'😆. Having said that Laajo is not suffering because she is less confident or innocent or weak, but she is so selfless in love that she doesn't want to hurt her love Nikhil because all she wants is his happiness . In the show Laajo is the hero😉 because a person can be a hero only if He/she can endure pain, suffering, sorrow and be bold in the face of adversity without being dishonest and manipulative. Laajo was never weak, infact she boldly left her in-laws place caring a damn for society or what people of her village would do to her, only to give happiness to her love. I think problems, failures,sorrows in life teach us more than happiness and they show us how strong we are. I am sorry if I have said something out of the way😳.

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Posted: 11 years ago

I missed out one more point, As you said that it is not Nikhil's mistake alone, but Laajo is also to blame for her condition today yes you are right!! but Love has strange ways!!😳 She knew very well that Nikhil loves Ishana and she is just his responsibility, then also she fell for him. She tried her level best to balance her love and Nikhil's happiness, though it meant that she would suffer seeing him in somebody elses thoughts, but when she realized that she is the very reason of pain for Nikhil she just backed off. This is the beauty of love. Love is not claiming someone to be yours but attaining fulfillment in your beloveds happiness. Laajo has never blamed Nikhil and if anybody is to be blamed then it has to be her destiny!!

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Posted: 11 years ago

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Originally posted by: ...Jes...
sorry to disappoint guys ..but i hate this INNOCENT GIRL term..it is a shame itself!!! girls don't require to be innocent ..they need to stand up and fight! seriously i don't sympathize with girls in such situations ..we r only blaming Nikhil ..but why we never think,it is also Laajo's fault that she gave up on him .. see she was not confident abt her love and the fact that Nikhil too wil love him back,so she left ..if the relation never worked,that means both parties r responsible ..nothing in this world happened for one side ..did u ever try to think what was Laajo's contribution to the relation ..if we see a zero in case of Nikhil,same with Laajo ..both never cooperated as better halves ..i m also disappointed in Laajo ..she never even felt confident to fight for herself .. so now all blame on Nikhil? if we want to see a revolutionary change in Nikhil for that something or someones has to work to naa .. it won't happen overnight .. and then Laajo left!

And coming to other points i totally agree with Sami Di,that now days he feels disconnected to Ishana wherever we have any scene .. so i m happy with the progress :)

Completely agree with you.I also hate innocent girl term ,mahan heroines n sacrificial lamb heroines .

@Bold - I also happy to see the progress.