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Everybody is pressuring Gulaal into accepting Kesar as her husband because she is the one who chose Kesar for the Deeyarvatu.
I understand that Deeyarvatu has taken place in front of the society and the panchayet has put their seal of approval on it, but love cannot be forced. Many said through various posts that Gulaal has to live up to her promises, but today Dushyant made the comment I have been trying to say all along. Not everything can be forced. A relationship cannot be forced. Yes, Gulaal can start living under the same roof with Kesar but can she love him as a husband? Why do I doubt it?
Those who have been watching this serial from the beginning would remember perhaps that Gulaal made the promise to get a wife for her "devar" when he grows up. Please refer to the Deeyarvatu episode. It was also very clear at the time why Gulaal picked Kesar. She truly had no other choice. What I find a little odd is that the elders who should remember the Deeyarvatu incident do not mention anything about that to Kesar. Nobody, not even Dushyant is telling Kesar what really happened. Gulaal now knows that Kesar knows about Vasant's murder, but even she is not telling kesar the truth. The question is why? Is there a good reason or the writers have forgotten those dialogs themselves?
After Vasant's death, Gulaal had just one focus - to take care of the family and fulfil Vasant's dream. To this day she maintained her promise to Vasant and did everything to make sure she filled Vasant's void in the family. Is it not possible that she loved Kesar the same way Vasant did? I know that Gulsar fans would hate this but really, think about it. If you do not have any romantic feelings for someone, how can you accept him as your spouse? Gulaal always loved Kesar, always cared for him, but certainly not as a husband, ever. She never planned a relationship with Kesar the way it is being forced on her. I feel like Gulaal is being cornered in every way - by a Mother who is too hyper and too overwhelming, by Kesar who is too passionate and too overbearing at the moment, by Jamna Kaki, who is too stubborn, cruel, and tactless, and now by her own Father - the voice of reason in that household. It seems like, the only people who can understand Gulaal are Motabha and Paanbha. By the way, where is Daima?
The bigger question I have is, why don't the people, who are forcing Gulaal to accept Kesar, see that they are in essence insulting Kesar's pride by imposing him on Gulaal. Gulaal has already mentioned several times about her feelings, why can't people respect a woman's wishes? Each and everyone in that house knows the circumstances leading to Gulaal's Deeyarvatu to Kesar, why can't anyone speak up and stand by Gulaal? I am surprised that the reformed Dushyant does not have the guts to face up and admit his guilt. What kind of a reform is it? Paanba knows everything but even she does not defend Gulaal or confide in her husband. I find that everyone in that household has LTM loss or total amnesia. How frustrating it all must be for Gulaal!
Finally I was wondering if the places were traded between Kesar and Vasant such that Kesar were her first husband who died or was murdered then would all the Gulsaar fans like to see Gulaal move on from Kesar after his death and accept Vasant as her present? I guess not. I do believe that some love are so true, so intense that ten years or a lifetime even is not enough to forget. Vasant and Gulaal's love was like that - it was a promise for eternity. I think that is what the show is trying to convey.
DISCLAIMER: I just want to say that these are only my observations about the show. I do not wish to offend anyone at all. I respect all your opinions, views, sentiments, emotions, and wishes. At the end of the day, it is a drama and the writers have probably planned the ending of it. It is fun to discuss the perceptions and opinions on this forum with like minded and not-so-like-minded people. No fights or arguments or insults, just clean debate and exchange of ideas. That's all.
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