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Today's episode was a start of new phase in Guddan's life. So lets go back & see her progression throughout
Pre-Marriage :-
She was very care free with nothing at stake, no big responsibilities.
She used to do mistakes but that would hardly put anything of her "appne" on risk at most people would berate her, sunao her & leave saying "Tumse Na Ho Payega"
When everyone used to say her "Tumse Na Ho Payega" she would be adamant to prove that wrong & she always did even though creating a whole lot of new mess around.
Post-Marriage :-
A whole lot of new responsibilities landed on her. This was 1st time she was dealing with people of grey shade & she didn't know how to handle them.
With her every mistake {though all of them werent exactly committed by her but she knew she was somehow being responsible} someone or other of her aapne would end up being hurt. She knew she can't behave as jhalli as she did pre-marriage as that will also risk both her sasural's naam & will also question her father's upbringing.
Earlier when she smashed cake on AJ face & back answered bahus, she was facing people who had in someway ended up insulting her family.
Post marriage they were her family. She realized AJ isn't any bad guy & according to her the Durga wasn't wrong either as she wanted good for the family.
To get everything in place, she needed to realize her position in the house & where does she fall within this, which today she did & then handle everything gracefully without putting her sasural's naam at stake & also not letting anyone question her father's upbringing.
Lets look at the household situation for her,
To be honest there isn't much difference between her sasural & mayka.
In her mayka, she always had, Kaushalya who would keep breaking her confidence everyday. She had Revti who would provide her with moral support but couldn't do much against Kaushalya. & Bhushan was bekhabar of all this
She wasn't much better in her Maayka then she is now in her sasuraal. Here the bahus keep doing the same thing that Lomri used to do, & dadi provides her moral support like Revti. But here she has AJ who when roars, shunts the witches completely + also helps her & guides her more strongly.
Conclusion :- Guddu was facing the same thing in her sasural that she faced in her Mayka but here she is learning while there she had an attitude, "Jaisa chal raha hai, chalne do !"
She was just acting restrained for the sake of her both family.
Bhushan & Lomri brought her up while AJ & Dadi have wholeheartedly accepted her in their family & genuinely care for her. So both of them are her family & she can't afford to disappoint one for the sake of other.
Some additions :-
Coming to Akshan & Guddu leaving the house,
Reason for leaving :-
----> the marriage is unwanted
----> She is insulted everyday by the bahus
----> Bahus don't accept her as saas
Reason for not leaving :-
----> Akshan don't seem to have any plan of getting rid of the marriage & that even has reasons,
1. Guddu might have never even though of any life partner or any love fantasies before AJ's proposal & she has no idea of how happily married in-love couple are as Lomri-Bhushan not one. So to her except for AJ's mood swings, he is a perfect & ideal husband.
2. For AJ since he proposed Guddu, he didn't think of marrying anyone else & he was very "ukhra ukhra" when he was going to marry shweta though Guddu's antics annoyed him.
3. With Guddu he got Antra's wish fulfilled + a 24 hr entertainment package
----> Bahus are doing almost the same thing that Lomri did in her father's house but did she leave her Father's house for that ?
----> Bahus don't accept her as saas but can it change a fact that she is their saas & malkin of the house
can it change the fact that she has indeed married their sasur ?
+ Lomri never accepted or treated Guddu like her daughter did she leave her father's house for that ? did it change the fact that, Guddu is Bhushan's daughter ?
----> If bahus don't accept her, Dadi & AJ do, then why should she leave then ?
its impossible to please everyone & its not necessary that she should leave cause some people can't accept her as there are others who can
----> If one gets posted in a new office as a new boss some employ may cat hostile & refuse to accept him but does that mean, he should resign ?
----> Most important reason, Guddu herself doesn't want to leave so who cares what bahus want ?
Now if she wants to stay, things could have gone 2 ways ;-
1. Jaisa chal raha hai, chalne do
2. Try to take control of her responsibility in her own hand & try to sort the things for good which she did.
Leaving everything & running away is easy but facing a challenge isn't & to bring the bahus under her command is her challenge that she has to win
& AJ has more than once told her this, that she tries to run away instead of facing the challenge upfront.
& this time she is following AJ's words.
Coming to self respect :
This term "self respect" is different to different people & no one is wrong
This is my POV :-
In this scenario, she could have gone leaving everything to stop facing the continuous insults, in this way she could have stopped herself from getting insulted. This would have been "self respect" but then again that would have been called "running away from problems" too.
Instead she is facing the situation & is commanding the respect that bahus are not willing to give. For her, "self respect" may be by making them bow down n front of her & taking what rightly is hers & she truly deserves.
& seems like that's what AJ believes in too.
Flashback Moment :- when the bahus insulted Guddu in the announcement party, she shunted them & also told that, "she wishes that, their new saas teaches them how to give respect"
& AJ was shown witnessing this & smirking looking very impressed.
Another thing, people who know to give respect will always respect you & those who don't know how to respect, won't respect you no matter who you are. If Guddu gets successful before reforming the bahus,
No doubt AJ, Dadi, Bhushan, & Revti will surely be proud but Bahus will still come up with ways & reasons to disrespect her.
If she is an actress, maybe with silly reasons like, "being a Jindal khandaan ki izzat, she will dance onscreen ? do show business ? etc."
Special Note :- I have nothing against women empowerment but ITV has hardly handled a women empowering track or shows well. Last i remember seeing Sita chalaoing ban from a danush at a "Dino-Asur" i.e. yes it was a dinosaur in "Star ke Ram".
+ our show is meant to be a comedy genre & I personally am loving it that way
This was my POV ! Lena Hai Toh Lo Warna Kut Lo !
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