Virat : The Blindfold of Fear, Guilt, & Everything in Between Updated - Page 11

Absolutely. It’s just a type of personality. There is nothing wrong with either. In fact each thrives on the other.

The problem lies not in the title, but in the word. The literal prejudice associated and connotations surrounding it.

And that’s why Sai and Virat complement each other like the missing pieces of a two block jigsaw puzzle. Provided they work on their placements in situations more judiciously.

This thread is a goldmine - worth to be pinned/ bookmarked. A big Hug 🤗 to all the contributors. You all are amazing ❤️

No worries yaar. I like to discuss and exchange ideas. And when we discuss about Virat, the ideas seem to go in circles like his jelebis. 😆

His reactions to Pakhi are something that comes under scanner and needs a separate topic. Let me formlate my thoughts and put them up in a more comprehensive way. His reactions to Pakhi did go through some evolution and devolution, but only until he was confused about his feelings towards Sai. I will try to put up my thoughts in a separate thread.

This thread is amazing.

Tried looking for it couldn't find...or maybe it was in some other thread.

Someone (i guess Msin or Sherry) mentioned how when V saves Sai from her wedding to Jagtap, he looks a little heartbroken when she runs to Aaba instead of him.

Just adding to this...

In LB (Marathi ghum) they have tweaked this...

Over there Sindhu runs into Raghavs arms while Appa (Aaba) is standing a bit away.

I mean they could have still shown her running to Appa but she stays with Raghav.

If there was some symbolism in this act like you all mentioned... Then they have definitely changed it there. 👍🏼

Originally posted by: sherry_24

Will take a step back.

We are not just what we are born with. It is the effect and result, of various factors. Like the relationships in our life and the experiences we have. A part of it is ours, others borrowed. There are traumas of incidents that exist in our subconscious for years without our knowledge. And it deeply impacts our responses and actions again without our knowledge. It may be taxing but it is critical to shed the baggage and clear the remains for our own benefit. To remain true to our self.

Nagesh is someone we can only make assumptions around, but it is likely we will ever know. He was probably the first person Virat resonated with, admired and respected. Someone who left a mark on his impressionable mind. Probably the ones who gave his values, the foundation. But slowly the Chavan upbringing (in the absence of Nagesh) filtered down the characteristics. Because what we know of Chavans is that they are very superficial. They make big claims around principles and truth and what not, but fall short when it comes to actioning, clubbed with their regressive thinking.

So while Virat's foundation was intact, he wasn’t able to function freely around that framework. This is why people feel suffocated in certain environment. Virat's coping mechanism was escape, avoid and ignore. So while he functions primarily around the same foundation he does that more when he is free from from Chavan bondage. Outside the Chavan Niwas. Inside the house he just goes with the flow, without conflict. Now remember this as an experience along with a trauma that has stuck on to him.

KJ enters and Virat meets someone after a long time who is so aligned to his values. He idolises KJ because he embodies everything and more that Virat deems as right. And KJ practices and thrives on those values. There is no two versions to him when it comes to value system and execution. This is what draws Virat to him because he lacks the latter. That is what Sai's disconnect with him is too. While she sees glimpses of her father in him, he fails her when he needs to implement them. And this is where Ninad failed Virat too. The example you stated about Ninad not supporting Virat's decision to marry Sai.

Virat was never a leader, because he has always been unable to express or live on his own terms. When he stands up for something, he needs a support, whether for reference or for action. His values are not his, but borrowed by the virtue of action, the examples they set or gave ..Nagesh, KJ, Sai. Leaders may have idols or mentors and they learn from them, but eventually they own what they learn and make their own way. Virat is unable to carve a path.

Virat speaks to KJ only when it comes to Sai. One because he is that connecting common factor. Someone both idolise. Two, like I said there are two versions of V and the second one comes to fore for Sai and it is this version that resonates completely with KJ.

You have a way with words that I don't...

Perfectly put when I said V idolizes KJ and not ninad or even Nagesh.

Something i would like to add...

I am not sure about this but it seems like Nagesh died when all of these people were very young. So i am assuming that V either had no or very little interaction with him and if at all it happened... V must have been a baby...

With that in mind, whatever Nagesh represented or imbibed among the family members was what V or the kids were told of. And not exactly seen by them.

BK keeps bringing up Nagesh every now and then but I wonder how much of it is hers and what part is Nagesh. Guess we will never know.

My point being, Nagesh has become a revered figure someone whom you can idolize but never match up and therefore it becomes difficult to relate to them or take guidance from them.

KJ on the hand is someone who walks the talk.

BK has carried forward the legacy but has a lot of idiosyncracies which may or may not be in Nagesh. And this is where I said that the resemblance to Mufasa ends. V very well knows that BK fails... And thus now he does not look up to her and openly opposes her.

I did say in the other post that V only rarely takes guidance from Ash and that is only when it's about Sai.

Something that I would like to add here too.

Firstly I don't like Ash post Shruti kaand for whatever she did to Sai. That apart, there are few good things about her that need mention.

I am assuming that Ninad must have been away a significant time of V's life. So it's predominantly Ash V formed a bond with.

And she made him a sensitive person. Even though he does not react immediately, he Subconsciously always registers the rights and wrongs. Only takes actions when pushed for.

Another factor is whatever treatment Ash got from BK, Ninad or Sonkar... She has never poisoned V's mind against them. Never badmouthed them which is why V treats them with respect. Even after all the kaands.. just like today V still values BK and her words and by extension Sai does too.

And thirdly, Ash (pre shruti) was really a good mother to Sai. Yes there is an ingrained bias but she never saw Sai and V as seperate. Always saw them as a team and tried all her might to keep them together.

Some might say that she manipulated Sai to come back everytime, but I feel that is because she recognised Sai's feelings for V even though Sai had not. And that's why for giving them a chance she pushed them to be together.

While that is true, she cared for both of them, took brickbats for them and stood for them.

Ash found a voice after Sai entered the house and she used it in whatever way she can. Sais only supporter for a long period of time, she made sure Sai is loved. Atleast by her. That is more than enough in a house like CN where everyone else is a hungry wolf.

Probably not relatevale to you. Just wanted to add 👍🏼

Aila. I must check this out

Thanks for being so open about this.

Yes the guy spins webs more complex and stronger than the Darwin's bark. 🤣

P is a specimen in herself

Let me start on a lighter note.

Virat is saviour. A saviour of any desolate, in trouble, helpless woman. Its his addiction, his weakness. So he expected Sai to run right into him her saviour. Thanking him, her only hope, her rescuer. 😉

I guess if I have to look at the symbolism here then I would say, while V will take over her responsibility, be her guardian, her husband protecting and guarding her, her Aaba will be the pivotal force in her life. She will follow his values to the T even if it means fighting or going against Virat (walking past Virat).
And that is what we have seen so far

Thanks 😊 You do really do put in thoughtful perspectives Nice thoughts there too.

Like I had written you accept things after being in a situation or place for a long period of time. And we pick things along our journey of life and it becomes a part of us. Maybe Nagesh is more of a comparison referral, a person who has been placed on a pedestal by these references. Again we wouldn’t know.

There is a difference between respect and idolising. We will respect the person we idolise but it doesn’t necessarily work vice versa. We respect the elders in our family even when we don’t agree with so many things that they believe or represent. Hence, V respects BK as an elder figure. The ordeals she went through to keep the family together. And maybe he sees her intentions behind all her actions. Her intentions are not wrong, it is her thinking and ways she employs to get her way that is wrong. She does talk about values, but she customises them to her advantage. Like I said it is all a superficial talk.

V gets his softness from Ashwini. But she never had the courage to fight for her rights. And V grew up seeing this. He never spoke for her either. Not until Sai came in.

Yes, Ashwini gave a lot to Sai. The love of a mother that she never got. Ashwini really showered so much of that motherly love and affection on Sai that she will always be indebted to her. But that is why it is more painful for Sai and disappointing for the audience. Because the bar was raised too high and hence the expectation. And she faltered when she was needed the most. When it was the true test.

You have put that rightly. Ashwini saw them as a unit. And she was one person who saw and understood both of them. So she tried to get them together whenever they away from each other. But it is also true that she also considered Sai as that person who could keep P away from V. Referring back to the convo between Ashwini and V the night Sai stayed back Pulkit’s place. She reveals that she was knew about his past and was hoping that his past does not affect his future and with time it fades away. There were more meanings to it. That through Sai she hoped V to get over his past and discourage P’s advances. And with V and Sai bond getting stronger the past would die a slow death over time. Ashwini had always been scared that ways about V n P’s equation.