Jealousy vs Distrust

Its been a long time since I made a post here. Thanks to the amazing progression🙈

So what is it about this twisted love story between jealousy and distrust. They are soul mates, one merging into another, yet they are different.
Does Sai doubt Virat’s character and vice versa? Nope. I don’t think so. In a more calmer situation if a third person had made such allegations these two would have vouched their lives and fought to defend each other. So no it is not lack of trust.

It is the pure jealousy. And its natural in any relationship, how much ever secure one is, one is bound to feel a tad bit of it at some stage. And it is harmless if its not leading to any actions and repercussions. But what has escalated the situations is the insecurity of losing the person due to lack of clarity on relationship status. They haven’t confessed, they still need validation on their marriage status from each other, they need the commitment. It a murky state where they have a right to question yet they feel frustrated to voice it as they doubt their own right on each other. Because if this is a deal then they have no claim on each other and the thought is hurtful

Ajinkya vs Shruti episode

Without getting into the aspect of an IPS helping a naxalite, if we only look at the humane side of it Virat is only trying to help her owing to guilt and on humanity grounds. He is stuck in his own web and is feeling suffocated with the weight of this secret. But then how much ever pure his intentions are, its his actions/decisions and he needs to take responsibility of it. Here he has done things to trigger doubts, lying, hiding things etc, unlike in Ajinkya episode, where Sai had done nothing. In fact Virat was angry even before he saw them together in the room. Just at the mention of them together had made him charge towards his room. But here he has given Sai enough reasons to question him. Imagine how frustrated a partner would be if he/she faces such situations and the other person is not willing to divulge any information. It’s not distrust on the person, but its curiosity to know the truth and get clarity on the situation. But most of all the about the trust on each other to share everything. What would have been Virat’s reaction if the tables were turned, knowing his possessiveness about Sai? This would have been way too much for him to take. For Sai this feeling is new, she had started to finally hope for a future with Virat, and she had allowed her heart to open up to that thought. Hence she is scared, now even more since she has let her guards down. Here she is jealous of someone being more important in his life than her and that Virat is no longer willing to share things with her even in the domain as her friend.

While both situations can be compared yet they are not comparable. If we expect one person to understand the other’s situation because of the past, we can’t. Because the incident and the magnitude of it is at different levels. Sai had cleared that Ajinkya is her friend, Virat has mentioned Shruti as his friend’s wife. Fair enough even if it was when DIG cornered him. A friend can come to meet a friend, but why would a friend’s wife keep calling someone everyday and the guy also runs out at odd hours without giving any details on his whereabouts. You are creating situations for others to doubt and question.
And most of all Virat is all victim mode. He may be good at heart and do things for others selflessly, but he is flawed when it comes to understanding others. If he hurts someone his first reaction is self pity. He gets locked in his own shell of his feelings and his helplessness and his intentions. He keeps it all about how he never meant it and how he was misinterpreted and wronged. He fails to see the pain of the other at such points.
So even if he is trying to help a pregnant helpless widow, Sai can’t be blamed. It’s his actions and he needs to take the responsibility of whatever is in store. But unfortunately it will be Sai who will come out as the immature, possessive, unreasonable wife. She will be labelled as the distrusting and inconsiderate one and bear all the consequences of his actions. And that’s unfair!!

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Beautifully explained the similarities and differences in both situations and also why Sai is absolutely justified in her behavior and how unfair it is that makers are portraying the narrative as "bechaara/mahaan" virat n "impulsive /immature " Sai when its NOT the case.

But credit to makers for Sais dialogue about his reaction to Ajinkya because thanks to that, the contrast of Sai vs Virat reaction n behavior when jealous/possessive/insecure is there for all to see.

Wow! Awesome post! ❤️

Thank God you spoke and spoke so clearly about it...I was so tired of the way both have been equated in the lasts few days...i even read somewhere they are same the way they behaved...Sai would have attacked Shruti physically if she was there and not the phone...like Virat did to Ajinkya🙄.... Sai has not just cleared Ajinkya is her friend but also mentioned he is not a close friend.. Sai did not jump at Virat at the scene of him leaving at night after seeing Shruti's missed call...She had endured and seen so much and till date is giving him a chance to explain...while Virat did none...that too after knowing the equation they share and just after seeing them in the room together..both situations incomparable...i am glad you talked about it.👍👍

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

Thank God you spoke and spoke so clearly about it...I was so tired of the way both have been equated in the lasts few days...i even read somewhere they are same the way they behaved...Sai would have attacked Shruti physically if she was there and not the phone...like Virat did to Ajinkya🙄.... Sai has not just cleared Ajinkya is her friend but also mentioned he is not a close friend.. Sai did not jump at Virat at the scene of him leaving at night after seeing Shruti's missed call...She had endured and seen so much and till date is giving him a chance to explain...while Virat did none...that too after knowing the equation they share and just after seeing them in the room together..both situations incomparable...i am glad you talked about it.👍👍

Originally posted by: Kumuda-123

In today episode sai herself said the difference between ajinkya and shruti. If after that also people try to equate both then 🙄. Most funniest comments like sai would have hit shruti like virat did to ajinkya,by this logic shouldn't sai slapped pakhi infinite times.

With the kind of closeness Pakhi and Virat have shown emotionally and at times physically Pakhi would have been dead by now and Sai in jail..if at all Sai was even 10% like Virat....

The problem always with Virat is that he is way too dumb and tries to hide his dumbness in a cover of mahaanta..if you want to hide something, do it but do it with some brains. He is doing everything like he is announcing it, yes I am doing it... catch me if you can, making everything all the more suspicious. If his parents/ family can doubt him and his intentions, what is sai/ his wife then, with whom his relationship has had trust issues since the starting.

Each and every thing written here is on point💯

Brilliant post💫

Brilliantly explain 👏👏

I agreed 💯

Thanks😊

And again Virat’s response was so true to his character. He put that back on her that he has apologised so many times already then why does she bring it up everytime. Does apologising mean that the deed was never done? And she spoke about jealousy to draw a parallel and herefused to see the whole point here again. I, Me, Myself🤷‍♀️