Originally posted by: asmi_joya
I dont question that.. I think she was pampered and KJ did what he could , with her being her only child and family.. I dont blame him, she was his only family and did instilled many good really qualities in her...Every parent goes wrong in some way or the other...They do raise child with some flaws...In this case she was his world. RIght now Sai's behaviour , or for that matter her behaviour after marriage has a lot to do with how she has been treated by everyone around...She has bottled up emotions long back..
She should have walked away long back and I have always maintained, Virat is a difficult man to leave with, considering how diplomatic he is.. in general..But then there wont have been this show... Also Sai has gotten too attached to without even realising it.. The way she forgives him after the whole accident or for that matter, the way she did not talk about him throwing out when he was wallowing in self pity after coming back from hospital is the testimony in itself.. SHe even today said he has to chose one and she wants to be chosen..Unfortunately she has just one family.. In the world of rights and wrong, even when the family is wrong one tends to forgive them , yearn to be with them.. She is emotionally attached to him beyond our perceiving and thinks he is not and that makes her this rattled and brash even more.. Its all coming out now because she is seeing Samrat suffering and is also reminiscing hers in the process...
Her way of talking well, I have seen young people with even good parents talk and behave this way and they do learn with age and experience. Just another day I was going around so many teenager issues, where I came across how they are so brash in terms of snapping out on everyone around specially their moms, who are the closest to them.. That too when these women are nurtured have the much required love from their parents.. This one has not had a free, relaxed moment after the time she was brought back by Virat from the clutches of Jagtap on the same day her Father died..That was the last moment of unfiltered happiness for her.. SInce then she has been expected to adjust, behave, accept someone past, accept overbearing ex and all sorts of nonsense..
I think there are a number of factors behind Sai sometimes coming off as too rude.
One factor is definitely the way she was brought up. KJ was a single dad who nurtured her good qualities but failed to tame her wild side. You can see that from her GC days when she is pretty rude to Virat.
There is also one more factor which I personally believe - that it is her inherent personality independent of her parenting. On of my friends is like that - independent, rebellious, wilful and self-protective. Such people are misunderstood a lot. When such people feel threatened or misunderstood, they protect themselves by being snappy and acting nonchalant. That's a defence mechanism. Once they are understood and valued, the defences drop. They are very sweet and caring actually and even obedient! Their snappy behaviour is still there sometimes but it has less sting... to close ones it's never a major issue... Sometimes you tend to let it go...sometimes one gets irritated...in that case they do realise their mistake. So I strongly disagree that such people are arrogant. With age and experience, they will mellow down quite a lot, although some part of it will always be there.
Third factor is obviously her marriage and sasural situation. While it may seem that Sai needs to be more diplomatic when dealing with CN people, I don't think that actually works on them. Sai's confrontational nature in the hostile environment was only way she could have survived. With Virat, again the problem is the strange deal marriage. Typical of such people, she is trying to protect her heart by keeping Virat at a distance - by being rude and acting tough. She is putting on an "I don't care" attitude and acting all stoic...but all that she is doing is messing with her own heart.
Disclaimer: I'm not justifying her behaviour today
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