Vaada – 3 Perspectives - Page 2

Thank you for taking the effort to write such a detailed account of Virat's mind and motivations ❤️🤗

Ist round of reading over ..... It has warmed up my brain...

I will re-read it multiple times and get back with my doubts ....👍🏼

(Jalebi minds need more re-readings 😆)

Originally posted by: Amor_fati

Ghum has revolved around this word for more than 268episodes. There are multiples vaada’s in place, some are kept and a few are forgotten. This post is about the vaada, given by Virat to Pakhi. We all know Virat’s bheeshma pratigya, it’s been repeated enough in the show for all of us to remember it verbatim.

Now that Virat fell in love in with Sai and even informed Pakhi about it, feelings have changed considerably. What does the vaada mean at the moment? What do they think is the endgame here?

Virat – He has moved on, and realized that Vaada was an absurd idea, he is yet to clarify this to both women involved. Is he avoiding looking back into the past? or is he afraid of being confronted by the ladies?

Pakhi – She knows Virat moved on, but she hasn’t and want him to follow through. Does she want him to become Pakhidass and remain desolate like her? or is she thinking of EMA? or Is she being just sadistic?

Sai – She doesn’t know exactly what the vaada was or the circumstances surrounding it. So, what does she want him to do, just tell her everything was just a mistake and revoke his code of pakki jabaan? or Does she want him to reveal the truth to the family and marry Pakhi, her co – sister? Or she hopes him to help her to become a doctor, then go on their merry ways?

@bold: From the way Sai reacting off late this i@bold option seems to be what she wants! Otherwise why would she not leave Virat and also not want to have a hubby-wife relationship with him?🧐

Bhishma prathigna is the reason for the whole Kurukshtra. Standing by ones words is most important only only if it's outcome is good.

If pakhi ever loved Virat, she would not have allowed him to make that promise in the first place and she wouldn't have ruined Samrat's life for her selfish reasons. All I understand from Virat's behaviour is that he is not that foolish to ruin his entire life for a selfish person.❤️

True that! Then what Virat has done is correct. He didn't stick to his stupid vaada and has moved on.🤔

Thank you for this detailed post on Virat. I feel really bad for him. He is caught in a mess of his making yet he doesn't seem to know how to get out of it. But then, I guess stepping back is ultimately the right direction so that he doesn't get hurt anymore. Sai needs to go beyond her fears too and reflect on what he means to her. As a viewer, I can see he is her life! But she can stay away from him if necessary, for his happiness.

Her face today when Sam refused to accept Virat...her heart broke for him.

Originally posted by: vimeo

True that! Then what Virat has done is correct. He didn't stick to his stupid vaada and has moved on.🤔

In life, it's not possible to make everyone happy at a time. Happy and peaceful life ka ek hi thumb rule hai, Never ever waste your time and energy where it's not valued. ❤️

Yes Virat should let Sai go and step back. She needs to know that she needs him. Its always been shown that Virat needs her. However for the relationship to progress both spouses need to participate. Someone on the forum said that Virat needs to step back so that he knows what is his importance in her life! But that's not even necessary. its Sai who needs to.know this. She needs to realise what Virat is in her life. Virat realising anything makes no difference. You needs two hands to clap!

Pooja,

I told you I had understood the post-Ladakh fight yesterday and your post seems to confirm that my understanding was right.

I understood some important points from your post (which you have been saying all along)

• Virat never meant to hide his past at all. This was an important point and thinking over everything, I agree.
• Virat's failures in clearing his past comes from him not understanding its impact on Sai
• "This is a constant trend in their relationship- Sai’s harsh outer layers scare him and make him retreat" 👍🏼
  
• Virat focuses on showing that he has moved on from Pakhi through his actions, Sai wants spasht words...

I have tried to put what I've understood in words....just wanted to clarify if I had understood it correctly...this is purely from Virat's POV

"This is a constant trend in their relationship- Sai’s harsh outer layers scare him and make him retreat"

This was the gist of the Ladakh fight to me. Sai was literally spelling out her pain - but it was hidden behind her anger and an armour of "I'm not affected". The ultra sensitive Virat perceived everything she said collectively as words coming from anger, ego and pride - and thereby missed her pain. At one point he tells Sai that everything she has said about Pakhi and him are false. He wasn't referring to his past with Pakhi as a lie . He was implying that the conclusions Sai had made about the current status of Virakhi relationship - that both were pining for each other - was false. This is what he was refuting - because according to him neither of them (Virakhi) were cherishing each other in their heart.

The fight after the pool side encounter. He kept asking about what she heard in an effort to engage with Sai - to try to find out what exactly was bothering her. Because at this point, Sai already knew about his past with Pakhi. He did try to tell her a few things - that he married her inspite of the vaada. But then Sai was reeling with guilt and confusion. His 'behuda sawaal' comment was not to her questions related to Virakhi past - he would have answered all her questions if she had asked. Sai masked her pain and she asked with a tone of indignation "why Virat was backing off from his vaada to Pakhi". This is what irritated Virat and this is what he called as behuda sawaal. Her pain and confusion went over his head..he seemed genuinely confused. This ignorance can probably be attributed to his inexperience and an inability to understand what Sai might be feeling. Although, having said that, I'm still confused at what he made of Sai's tears...still haven't found an answer to that...one can miss the pain, one can mistake the tone, misunderstand the words....but how can one mistake someone's tears.Why would she cry for no reason?

I agree about the family confrontation of vaada. While we were fuming over his silence, he was more hurt at the way everything was being revealed to the family than trying to hide it.

After that, in the room he told Sai that he was not committed to anyone. From his POV, he had cleared the MU. But then Sai asked him if he was doing so only because she would feel bad. To that, Virat just rolled his eyes.... completely missing the point that she wanted to be countered. Again he didn't realise how much all this was impacting her.

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You are spot on about Virat and Sai's relationship in GC. I have just one more point to add. Apart from all the qualities that you have listed, that attracted Virat to Sai, I believe he was also moved by her selfless love for her father. Subconsciously he was yearning for such a love where somebody puts their their loved one above their life, their manners, their everything. True love must have been a rare thing in CN - no wonder he recognised and valued it the moment he saw it in the purest form. He mentions to Kamal sir multiple times about how much Sai loves her father - and everytime he say it there is emotion in his eyes. I also believe that Kamal Sir entrusted Sai's care to Virat because apart from Virat being a man of his words, a man for whom duty was paramount, KJ saw that Virat was quick to discern the goodness beneath Sai's brashness - as very few might have done.

Thanks for the tag, Pooja!

I just logged in now.. going to go read

Originally posted by: AparnaRenu

Thanks for the tag, Pooja!

I just logged in now.. going to go read

No pressure to read, yaar. It's very long and mashed up 🤣