Ghum Hain kisikey Pyaar Mein WU and Daily discussion thread no 36. - Page 143

Originally posted by: nethraa_99

I understand the emotions Virat might be feeling (and how beautifully you have explained it as usual!). And I agree with the part about resentment - all of us are selfish. But I cannot condone or understand his actions(if it is as bad as we think).

It would be different if it was a normal marriage - where they promised each other of commitment and fidelity. But it was Virat who sprung the deal marriage on her...so if there is no commitment, it's on him. No point in feeling cheated.

To me, although his emotions are of insecurity, his actions smack more patriarchal possessiveness than insecurity. And it is gender-neutral. Even if a woman did this, it is despicable.

@bold you think so? It is just that the guy overreacts when he loses it, his emotions always overpowers him. So his jealousy and him losing control over his feelings might make him do it. Don’t you think so?

Originally posted by: laksh

@bold I agree, you have put it beautifully. Though the actions cannot be justified, his emotions can be understood.

About his hesitation to pull back, I am sorry I have a different view about this. His hesitation made sense in the past but not anymore. He had a few opportunities to come clean with Sai, to confess his feelings but he failed to. He didn’t fear rejection at that period of time actually. His focus bas shifted from confessing to make her admit her feelings which I find it silly or stupid or even foolish.

Also, earlier, I could always understand his hesitation, but when he sawq how messed up things are when Sai confronted him recently, he could have put an end to it once and for all. I would always say, one shouldn’t fear about rejection and it doesn’t even make sense for him to worry about rejection during the recent past when he could have confessed but chose not to even after he has heard from his friend that Sai could have feelings for him, even after he himself could see Sai getting affected of his and Pakhi’s relationship.

Now, he has lost that time because Sai has started fo act in denial. Sometimes they say that when one loses time, they can’t get it back. He had a good opportunity to but he lost it. Let’s hope she doesn’t start to maintain distance with him and he doesn’t start to get more insecured.

yes I am all for confession. I seriously don’t understand what is stopping him. There is no valid reason anymore 😔

Originally posted by: laksh

I know why he can feel insecured but his actions if they show to be really bad cannot be justified at all.

Sai has been assuming only recently but that’s her misunderstanding or assumptions because Virat’s feelings had changed which he himself never expected but her understanding about him and Pakhi was the truth for sometime actually. She just is not aware of the change in status of his commitment. Sai misunderstood him recently after the pool incident. After the Ladakh trip cancellation, she asked him straightforward questions which he failed to answer.

The point is not whether he can feel insecured or not, he too can get insecured, I have been able to understand his hesitation in the past, now, he is going by Sunny’s words to know her feelings when he can actually confess his feelings. Earlier, he used to think that she doesn’t like him, doesn’t care for him, it all changed and he could see a lot of changes in her after he got shot. He could have easily confessed but chose to find out about her feelings. She had a reason to have her walls high, not sure about his reason now. I could understand his hesitation in the past, not now. The reason for Sai’s insecurity is entirely different, he himself is a reason for it. I do agree that he has also put in efforts in this relationship but he had also spoilt it every time on his own. Right now, when things are going smooth, I wish he can put an end to what he started during their wedding.

Also, not even teenage girl would get attracted to someone in college.

@ bold... Laksh you believe or not I was never attracted to anyone in my teenage life, I am just saying teenage is vulnerable and people find attracted to someone when they find peace in their company, here sai finds that peace with virat but virat don't know that... That's it...

And I am not supporting him bashing sai , even I don't want him to use bad words....or push her to suicide... That's why I am saying I wish they handle this track different with different dialogue which shows his hurt other than doubting her

Originally posted by: Kumuda-123

Virat has the full rights to feel insecured. But nothing can justify him questioning sai character. He knows sai don't love him, he knows his marriage is not normal one, he knows sai will one day leave him. So the question of sai cheating him should not even rise just because he saw her with her college mate in his room. Didn't he allow his ex to come to his room at odd times & talked with her many times in alone infront of sai. Even in vaada confrontation sai asked him to accept the truth which he told her in their marriage day. That he is committed to pakhi but never said he is characterless for having feelings for pakhi after marriage too though she caught them both talking privetly many times. If virat feels sai is really into other man he should free sai from this marriage & devorce her instead of calling her names. Didn't he said pakhi that he'll never impose his feelings on sai. He can show his frustration & disappointment to her that how she didn't understand his love & choosed other man. But calling her characterless is big no. Nothing can justify this.

How come the dress designer gets P new sarees and blouses with different designs but Sai gets the same tents 🤔 even during dance practice.

In Tamil Sai wears tights which seemed like a perfect fit for dance practice. Here she was practicing in tent 🙄

Originally posted by: sadiltl

yes I am all for confession. I seriously don’t understand what is stopping him. There is no valid reason anymore 😔

What else, they just want to drag it 🤦‍♀️. Confess kar diya toh Ghum khatam 😆

Originally posted by: laksh

I was upset with Virat saying jab tak tum is ghar pe ho recently. I get that he was jealous but by speaking this, he has only pushed Sai further away. Yes, she says she will be leaving the house one day but when he loves her, wants her to stay with him forever, can also see that she is not comfortable with him and Pakhi, then why speak anything that will make it look as if he agrees with her or he also thinks that she isn’t going to stay in the house forever? He is aware of his feelings, even if he is not confessing, he could have not said that because that is only going to confuse Sai even more. So it is not just because of Pakhi that Sai feels insecured, this guy too messes up in some way or the other in their already complicated life.

Originally posted by: Rdigest

How come the dress designer gets P new sarees and blouses with different designs but Sai gets the same tents 🤔 even during dance practice.

In Tamil Sai wears tights which seemed like a perfect fit for dance practice. Here she was practicing in tent 🙄

This is too annoying now. Sai’s dress today was still lot better than the aubegrine colour dress that she wore recently 🤦‍♀️.

Originally posted by: laksh

@bold you think so? It is just that the guy overreacts when he loses it, his emotions always overpowers him. So his jealousy and him losing control over his feelings might make him do it. Don’t you think so?

yeah ego he doesn’t show much. See he is a nice guy.

One example: he was asking her not to dance during aniket track. Even yesterday he criticized her for not focusing on studies but during their dinner he was all up for her ticket selling and also pleased that Neighbours will come to see her dance! That is his true self. He is not someone who cages her. It is just his words out of jealousy

Originally posted by: Rdigest

How come the dress designer gets P new sarees and blouses with different designs but Sai gets the same tents 🤔 even during dance practice.

In Tamil Sai wears tights which seemed like a perfect fit for dance practice. Here she was practicing in tent 🙄

didi ka blouse purana hai! saree is new.... she has 4-5 blouses which are repeated...

Sai on the other hand has tailor-made costumes.. for didi the sarees are ready-made blouses are repeated!