Why doesn’t Virat call Pakhi “Bhabi/Vahini?”

There are certain boundaries and etiquettes of relationships which Virat and Pakhi both have crossed time and time again, not going to start on that. However, I find it odd that Virat calls his elder brother’s wife by her nickname. Mohit is older than Sai but calls her Bhabi. Since Pakhi is married to Virat’s elder brother, he should definitely call her Bhabi. It sounds really odd when he doesn’t. His resort days with her are over. Now they share a relationship. Idk about others here but I can’t imagine calling my elder brother’s fiancé by her name nor can I imagine my younger brother doing that. These are family hierarchies to be maintained which I believe a family values. Him thanking her for her “parwah” for him is odd as well (because he knows the intentions she has and she’s clearly crossing boundaries, thanking her for crossing those boundaries is encouraging her, would his brother be okay with this?), but I’m not going to start that topic either because I don’t have any expectation from him. However, the respect a sister in law / brother in law relationship demands - is it something one can curtail? It’s basic manners, something Virakhi seem to lack. He reminds himself she’s his “elder brother’s wife” but the way they behave with each other signals towards something far more. Very repulsive. Anyway rant over. 😂

P.S. might differ from family to family but that is not an issue here : Given their past + everyone in his family maintaining those hierarchies. They call elders Bhabi Bhaiya. Except him. So issue is with him.

Respect is in the heart . He has always treated her like a elder brother’s wife and has never crossed her limits so the accusation of not following the Indian family values is wrong . Calling her by the name her friends call her is nothing wrong . Sunny calls her Pakhi too .

I am sorry but I totally disagree that when we you say people who don’t call by the relation name lack good family values . It’s very judgmental and a controversial statement IMO .

Virat and Samrat call Karishma by her name why isn’t that an issue? As per Indian tradition even younger brother wife needs to be called as Vahini .

P.S the comment is on the initial post posted by the TM .

Originally posted by: idkwhattoput

There are certain boundaries and etiquettes of relationships which Virat and Pakhi both have crossed time and time again, not going to start on that. However, I find it odd that Virat calls his elder brother’s wife by her nickname. Mohit is older than Sai but calls her Bhabi. Since Pakhi is married to Virat’s elder brother, he should definitely call her Bhabi. It sounds really odd when he doesn’t. His resort days with her are over. Now they share a relationship. Idk about others here but I can’t imagine calling my elder brother’s fiancé by her name nor can I imagine my younger brother doing that. These are family hierarchies to be maintained which I believe every good family values. Him thanking her for her “parwah” for him is odd as well (because he knows the intentions she has and she’s clearly crossing boundaries, thanking her for crossing those boundaries is encouraging her, would his brother be okay with this?), but I’m not going to start that topic either because I don’t have any expectation from him. However, the respect a sister in law / brother in law relationship demands - is it something one can curtail? It’s basic manners, something Virakhi seem to lack. He reminds himself she’s his “elder brother’s wife” but the way they behave with each other signals towards something far more. Very repulsive. Anyway rant over.

This is actually depends upon family to family... I mean even i have that etiquette type joint family...but my maternal uncle who is actually 6 yr older than me... He got married to girl from family we already know ... She is actually my friend (not bff) just friend, but we are friends since childhood as only almost 2 yr age difference is there... So after marriage I was confused to what should I call her... But my mother and my mamu let me call her by her name.. actually calling mami was actually awkward

In normal circumstances it is ok if devar calls Bhabhi by name for specific reasons. No problem but after knowing Pakhi’s wrong intentions and feelings Virat can Atleast try to use this to keep her in control. If not Bhabhi he should call her Patralekha like he once did . But I doubt if his message reaches her delusional brain! Anyway nothing wrong if he tries atleast.

Originally posted by: Antaramantara

This is actually depends upon family to family... I mean even i have that etiquette type joint family...but my maternal uncle who is actually 6 yr oldef than me... He got married to family we already know ... Gi is actually my friend (not bff) just friend, but we are friends since childhood as only almost 2 ye age difference is there... So after marriage I was confused to should I call her... But my mother and my mamu let me call her by her name.. actually calling mami was actually awkward

Haha that is so cute! I have some of those relationships too 😂 where even someone few years younger than me is apparently my mama🤣 but that’s another tangent. Virakhi don’t have that issue, and they have a past. People in that Chavan family call elders Bhabi/Vahini/Bhaiya, Virat is the only one who doesn’t. Which is what I find odd.

Aisa koi hard & fast rule nhi hai ki bhai ki wife kehna zaruri hai. Virat never calls samrat also dada , even samrat don't called devi tai.

Virat don't call pakhi bhabhi coz she never behaves like bhabhi , even he call her bhabhi will pakhi start çonsidering him as devar I have a doubt on this.

Originally posted by: 404_NotFound

Respect is in the heart . He has always treated her like a elder brother’s wife and has never crossed her limits so the accusation of not following the Indian family values is wrong . Calling her by the name her friends call her is nothing wrong . Sunny calls her Pakhi too .

I am sorry but I totally disagree that when we you say people who don’t call by the relation name lack good family values . It’s very judgmental and a controversial statement IMO . In my family, we call by names and don’t use Vahini, brother or sister etc .

Virat and Samrat call Karishma by her name why isn’t that an issue? As per Indian tradition even younger brother wife needs to be called as Vahini .

Respect is in the heart just love for ex in the heart -Pyaari cheez, Pakhi keliye pyaar. Always treated like elder brother’s wife? Why did he say the love for Pakhi in my heart then. Three’s no denial she meant more to him than bhabhi after marriage. Rn also who knows. Intentions are questionable 😂

Sunny isn’t her devar, lol what’s the logic. A friend can call her by name anyway. Virat is the devar.

Idk why people deny Virat loved Pakhi. He himself said it. If his feelings changed why can’t he call her Vahini, kyunki banda bhabhi cum ex mei khud confused hai. Isliye itni softly behave karte hai after knowing bhabhi’s lutsful intentions. Aur kamal hai don’t want ex to leave as well😂

He’s ambiguous with his relationships, no wonder he hesitates to call her Vahini. Kam se kam uski baap Kaku ko Vahini bulate hai. Lekin Virat voh bhi nahi karate. Hawww. Aur mislead bhi karenge bhabi kam ex ko by being polite, thanking and apologising

Well in my family everyone is referred respectfully by using the relationship status

Let Virat decide first ki voh bhabhi ya ex👽

He isn’t calling because he doesn’t want to create boundaries. What if she actually considers him to be devar

Originally posted by: ltelidevara

In normal circumstances it is ok if devar calls Bhabhi by name for specific reasons. No problem but after knowing Pakhi’s wrong intentions and feelings Virat can Atleast try to use this to keep her in control. If not Bhabhi he should call her Patralekha like he once did . But I doubt if his message reaches her delusional brain! Anyway nothing wrong if he tries atleast.

Exactly their past + everyone in his family maintaining those hierarchies. They call elders Bhabi Bhaiya. Except him. So issue is w him.

Originally posted by: Niranjan256

Respect is in the heart just love for ex in the heart -Pyaari cheez, Pakhi keliye pyaar. Always treated like elder brother’s wife? Why did he say the love for Pakhi in my heart then. Three’s no denial she meant more to him than bhabhi after marriage. Rn also who knows. Intentions are questionable 😂

Sunny isn’t her devar, lol what’s the logic. A friend can call her by name anyway. Virat is the devar.

Idk why people deny Virat loved Pakhi. He himself said it. If his feelings changed why can’t he call her Vahini, kyunki banda bhabhi cum ex mei khud confused hai. Isliye itni softly behave karte hai after knowing bhabhi’s lutsful intentions. Aur kamal hai don’t want ex to leave as well😂

He’s ambiguous with his relationships, no wonder he hesitates to call her Vahini. Kam se kam uski baap Kaku ko Vahini bulate hai. Lekin Virat voh bhi nahi karate. Hawww. Aur mislead bhi karenge bhabi kam ex ko by being polite, thanking and apologising

Well in my family everyone is referred respectfully by using the relationship status

Let Virat decide first ki voh bhabhi ya ex👽

He isn’t calling because he doesn’t want to create boundaries. What if she actually considers him to be devar

Originally posted by: Niranjan256

Respect is in the heart just love for ex in the heart -Pyaari cheez, Pakhi keliye pyaar. Always treated like elder brother’s wife? Why did he say the love for Pakhi in my heart then. Three’s no denial she meant more to him than bhabhi after marriage. Rn also who knows. Intentions are questionable 😂

Sunny isn’t her devar, lol what’s the logic. A friend can call her by name anyway. Virat is the devar.

Idk why people deny Virat loved Pakhi. He himself said it. If his feelings changed why can’t he call her Vahini, kyunki banda bhabhi cum ex mei khud confused hai. Isliye itni softly behave karte hai after knowing bhabhi’s lutsful intentions. Aur kamal hai don’t want ex to leave as well😂

He’s ambiguous with his relationships, no wonder he hesitates to call her Vahini. Kam se kam uski baap Kaku ko Vahini bulate hai. Lekin Virat voh bhi nahi karate. Hawww. Aur mislead bhi karenge bhabi kam ex ko by being polite, thanking and apologising

Well in my family everyone is referred respectfully by using the relationship status

Let Virat decide first ki voh bhabhi ya ex👽

🤣🤣🤣 anyways this is my only input here

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