Discussion thread - Sai’s feelings for Virat

We all had a good time discussing about Virat and his relationship status with Pakhi , his family members and Sai but this post is for Sai . This is just a discussion and I hope we will have a healthy one where we get to read different perspectives.

Off late , I feel Virat’s presence and absence doesn’t matter to her and she isn’t attached to him as much as he is to her. I don’t know if I am unable to understand her emotions but I believe Virat is the one who gives more in this relationship . I understand her reservations because of Pakhi’s presence but can we call it love if they come with conditions . If this condition is met I will love you back . I can understand if she is not confessing but here I feel there is no love or attachment from her side .

She does things for his Aai and Tai only because she loves them not because they are associated with them . I think she bears all the CN drama because she thinks it’s temporary and sometimes we don’t want to get out of our comfort zone even if the environment is toxic . Moving out of CN will make her life difficult . I am being very practical here and this happens in most divorce cases where a spouse hesitates to divorce due to the fear of losing the security in life . It happens when in professional life where we stick to the job though it’s toxic because moving out requires lot of energy, time and the fear of future .

Originally posted by: 404_NotFound

We all had a good time discussing about Virat and his relationship status with Pakhi , his family members and Sai but this post is for Sai . This is just a discussion and I hope we will have a healthy one where we get to read different perspectives.

Off late , I feel Virat’s presence and absence doesn’t matter to her and she isn’t attached to him as much as he is to her. I don’t know if I am unable to understand her emotions but I believe Virat is the one who gives more in this relationship . I understand her reservations because of Pakhi’s presence but can we call it love if they come with conditions . If this condition is met I will love you back . I can understand if she is not confessing but here I feel there is no love or attachment from her side .

She does things for his Aai and Tai only because she loves them not because they are associated with them . I think she bears all the CN drama because she thinks it’s temporary and sometimes we don’t want to get out of our comfort zone even if the environment is toxic . Moving out of CN will make her life difficult . I am being very practical here and this happens in most divorce cases where a spouse hesitates to divorce due to the fear of losing the security in life . It happens when in professional life where we stick to the job though it’s toxic because moving out requires lot of energy, time and the fear of future .

@bold

Well,a logic part of mine stated that, here thay have shown Virat to be out on training. And since her father was also associated with the same field ,maybe she has experience in this matter as she knows how all these works. As it is not a mission. I might be wrong,but this might be one part of the reason.

And ,she was shown worried when he was at the hospital with that little girl ,as he had went uninformed,but since she knows about the whereabouts ,so probably she wants to focus more on the situation which is at hand now.

I disagree with the conditional love part because it was not a condition. Sai was restricted from loving him by the man himself in clear words. He might have changed afterwards but how could she know unless he clarifies the facts along with Pakhi issue?

I don’t think Sai could think of separation or divorce as of now. She is too young even to know the after effects of divorce. Right now she is into deal only as per which she will complete her studies and move on. She once said she may leave earlier may be due to the daily torture meted out because of Kaku gang. She might be thinking of moving over to hostel.

Sai cares for Virat. At present she is not reaching out to him because Aswini prevented her. She is trying hard to protect herself from falling deep in love because she knew Virat apart from being noble and good at heart, happens to be irresistibly charming also. Which teenage girl won’t nourish feelings for such a man who is her husband ( by deal Ofcourse)? Sai is no exception.

Originally posted by: Shristhi2002

@bold

Well,a logic part of mine stated that, here thay have shown Virat to be out on training. And since her father was also associated with the same field ,maybe she has experience in this matter as she knows how all these works. As it is not a mission. I might be wrong,but this might be one part of the reason.

And ,she was shown worried when he was at the hospital with that little girl ,as he had went uninformed,but since she knows about the whereabouts ,so probably she wants to focus more on the situation which is at hand now.

Originally posted by: ltelidevara

I disagree with the conditional love part because it was not a condition. Sai was restricted from loving him by the man himself in clear words. He might have changed afterwards but how could she know unless he clarifies the facts along with Pakhi issue?

I don’t think Sai could think of separation or divorce as of now. She is too young even to know the after effects of divorce. Right now she is into deal only as per which she will complete her studies and move on. She once said she may leave earlier may be due to the daily torture meted out because of Kaku gang. She might be thinking of moving over to hostel.

Sai cares for Virat. At present she is not reaching out to him because Aswini prevented her. She is trying hard to protect herself from falling deep in love because she knew Virat apart from being noble and good at heart, happens to be irresistibly charming also. Which teenage girl won’t nourish feelings for such a man who is her husband ( by deal Ofcourse)? Sai is no exception.

Originally posted by: 404_NotFound

Nicely worded . I found it strange that not once has she given any thought to losing Virat or impact of their relationship during Pulkit drama or during Amay case . For a girl who is falling in love with her husband or admiring the man who stood like a rock for her during tough times will at least think about the repercussions of her decision . So much happened in last few weeks but not once I saw her worryingly about her martial relationship. Is it selflessness or ignorance or indifference.

Even when she asked him why he won’t send her to Gadchiroli he did not confess what he thought to himself that he can not digest her absence and he is used to having her around.

Originally posted by: 404_NotFound

Nicely worded . I found it strange that not once has she given any thought to losing Virat or impact of their relationship during Pulkit drama or during Amay case . For a girl who is falling in love with her husband or admiring the man who stood like a rock for her during tough times will at least think about the repercussions of her decision . So much happened in last few weeks but not once I saw her worryingly about her martial relationship. Is it selflessness or ignorance or indifference.

i think it is ignorance on her part. she genuinely doesn’t think all these things will effect her marital relationship. remember when usha mausi says this might effect your own relationship with virat, she was quite confident that nothing of that sort would happen. they have fought many times before and made up, maybe she thinks virat might be against her but once he comes to know the truth he will side with her.

She doesn't feel like her marriage will be affected by her actions because she somewhere thinks thst eventually just like in the amey-shivani case, virat maybe angry with her methods but he will support the truth. Right now in her eyes, virat has been misled but she has a strong instinct and trust that pulkit is a good man and will do right by devi. And now with this track of pulkit missing etc she will soon find proof that this is also all staged drama by bk gang.

I think Sai has given as much to this marriage as she can at this stage in her life. Shes only 19 and not independent. She is just starting out on establishing a career. Medicine is a long road...so she will be "dependent" on virat for a while. But she does try to give back. She has shown she cares about him and his well being- by applying alta despite an allergy just coz its supposed to be for husband's welfare, calling DIG in worry when he didnt come home on time or pick his phone and taking him food. She was on the verge of leaving after the food denial and handholding but she melted immediately after she heard that he had not eaten. Until then she was angry but her expressions changed as soon as she heard that he had also starved! She immediately grew concerned and she was adamant about making sure he ate along with her. She swallowed her pride and brought pp home just because she felt it was important to virat. Because its a deal marriage she claims to do "ghar ke naukrani waale kaam" out of courtesy but really she started doing ghar ke kaam as soon as she stepped in the house because she cares. She made breakfast voluntarily early in the marriage. She got pissed by the chilli grinding but Sai was always up for doing ghar ke kaam. She is inherently someone that volunteers to do things for others. She cares so much about devi/shivani/aai/mohit not only because of the need to stand up for what she thinks is right but because they are his family- therefore she has unconsciously accepted them as her family too. Unfortunately because of the terms and conditions Virat made at the time of the shaadi, and his connection to pp, while she is more easily demonstrative of her love for aai/devi, she has a tougher time accepting that he is her family but her silence when he asks her says it all. She gets tongue tied coz she cant deny that he matters a lot to her. He is the number one person in her world now that aabaa is gone. All her other relations are because of him. So she cares deeply about virat but her swabhimaan will prevent her from being as expressive about her feelings and love until she feels like virat still harbors feelings for pp and does things for her only out of farz/zimmedari. Its not that her love is conditional upon him loving her back but how expressive she is, is conditinal. She will only accept her feelings and confess when she feels like he will reciprocate it. If she feels like he is still bound to his commitment to pp then she will not open up and keep her guards up and maybe even pretend at times to not care because she thinks it will dim her pain/sadness.

I feel that Sai's feelings are as complicated as Virat's. I believe they are both equally attached to one another.

I think that there are three reasons why some people feel Sai is not as attached to Virat as Virat is attached to Sai:-

1) She does not involve him in her plans

I think this may be due to her being a child-woman. She is very young - she was dreaming of college; marriage was probably last on her mind. Basically she is mentally not prepared for such a deep, serious commitment. On the top of that, their marriage is not one of normal husband and wife. So she tends to remain and act like a free bird out of ignorance that these things will not matter.

2) She acts indifferent towards him

There are plenty of scenes, where we can sense that Virat is affecting her. Eg. She recalls the river date with a smile on almost three occasions; when Virat is at the hospital with Viji, she misses him - she tenderly caresses his side of their bed. The reason she doesn't give in to these feelings is ofcourse her belief that Virat will always hold a candle for Pakhi. So she creates a wall of indifference to protect herself from falling into unrequited feelings.

3) Virat does more things to show his affection than Sai

I personally believe that Virat has become more emotionally dependent on Sai than vice-versa. It does not mean that the emotionally dependent person is more attached or cares more than the less dependent person. It happens in real life also that a person who is more emotionally dependent will tend to do/show more affection than the partner who is less emotionally dependent. The care and attachment of both the partners, however is the same.

Little bit of what I understand.

Originally posted by: 404_NotFound

Nicely worded . I found it strange that not once has she given any thought to losing Virat or impact on their relationship during Pulkit drama or during Amay case . For a girl who is falling in love with her husband or admiring the man who stood like a rock for her during tough times will at least think about the repercussions of her decision . So much happened in the last few weeks , but not once I saw her worrying about her martial relationship. Is it selflessness or ignorance or indifference.

I would say it’s part selflessness and her impulsiveness. Also I strongly believe that she trusts Virat. And believes that he would support her.

Though I am not watching episodes I saw a clip with Usha mausi where she mentions about Virat being on her side.