Is it even fair to pakhi, what virat is doing? - Page 4

Originally posted by: Chandu_500

yep, virat and pakhi both wronged samrat.

but pakhi ki zindagi uski kudh ki wajah se barbaad huyi hai as the decision was her's to marry Samrat knowing that she don't love him.

i get soo pissed off when people sympathise pakhi in the show, ghar ka beta is not at home cuz of her, but they love pakhi as she gets samrat's money every month i guess.🤪

pakhi ke maamle mein virat ki galti yeh hai ki he fueld her feelings by giving her more than required or more than needed importance in his life.

abhi woh agar directly bhi bolega na pakhi ko that he loves sai or he cant continue to fulfil the promise he gave her anymore, jo woh abhi aage karne waala hai, it is too late now. pakhi entered that psycho lover stage. virat's feelings doesn't matter to her anymore. she just wants him no matter how.

Pakhi is someone who only think about themselves. For her, she's the one who matters. Her happiness is of utmost importance. They can't put others above themselves. They don't like losing and so now she's hellbent on Virat by hook or by crook.

Originally posted by: AnjuRish

Honestly I agree ..

Virat has to cut ties cleanly and start addressing her as Bhabhi and make it clear that he wants her to move on from their relationship

Or he has to clear with sai what he really wants from her ..why should she put up with such toxic behaviour ? What is she getting out of mad house. She is better off in hostel

First mistake was to make that silly promise

That way he spoilt his pp and Sam's life

from the very beginning, from that 'vada' itself, i could'nt agree with virat's attitude....

he is the one who can stop pakhi being delusional...

earlier also, virat had chose family over pakhi.... now he is married and is evident that he want to move on...

either virat should understand it or pakhi......... kam se kam writers should understand

PS : nowadays, mujhe ehsas ho rahi hai ki virat ke paas ye realisation ke liye brain toh hai hi nahi, brain naam ki chees family mein kisi ke paas nahin...🤪

so, atleast paakhi ke paas brain honi chahiye, coz her father clearly have it...

Firstly thank you everyone for taking the time to read the post and sharing your views.

Before I say anything I want to once again make it very clear that this post’s intention wasn’t to absolve pakhi or her culpability or even to shift the major portion of the blame on virat. My only intention was to understand how virat who is shown to be intuitive of his best friend’s emotions, isn’t realizing the insanity that is slowly consuming her and how it is going to an irreparable damage to Sai and Samrat. There have been instances like the terrace scenes where he initiated conversations because he was aware of her state of mind. So him feigning ignorance makes as much responsible for this fiasco as pakhi.

There have been lots of point of views as to why pakhi married Samrat. I would like to share mine too. As far as my understanding is the moment virat made the infamous promise, he bound himself to pakhi for life. Pakhi in turn made a promise, if not vocally, of marrying Samrat and holding her side of the promise. My understanding of why pakhi might have gone ahead with the marriage is that she trusted virat to be loyal to her for life and in turn her life sentence was to be in a loveless marriage, which virat would be witnessing too. They will both be stuck in their own love story, which is mutual yet cannot be acknowledged publicly. Now coming to Samrat-pakhi’s equation in all this, I don’t expect pakhi to understand Samrat because in her mind that was her only way of still being a part of virat’s life, because Virat had already declared he wouldn’t fight for their love. How does one even expect a complete stranger to understand how Samrat’s life would be ruined by all this when his own brother failed to realize that. Pakhi’s hate and resentment stem from the fact that she trusted virat’s promise so much that she married a guy she barely knows. She married a guy who she didn’t even get a chance to know, a guy who might or might not make her life better based on how virat keeps saying. Adding to that is the fact that virat broke the promise by marrying Sai and the final nail in the coffin is he is falling in love with his wife, who was nothing but a responsibility and nothing beyond that.

Now coming to what if Samrat hadn’t left at all, how would pakhi have reacted to that development? I believe either of these scenarios.. one where she tries to evade Samrat’s approaches, hopes he eventually leaves her alone or maybe hope that Samrat himself addresses the issue and convinces virat for their relationship. Another scenario maybe where she fulfills her duties towards her husband in a loveless marriage, which virat witnesses. This may not only be a torture for virat, but for her too. Samrat being cheated is a whole another story.

Coming to virat’s decision to marry Sai, for me at least it felt it had more to do with the fact that he cannot be with pakhi. He may have closed that door himself for his brother, but the fact that his love is lost forever made it easier for him to get into a loveless marriage himself. What I want is for virat to understand that he is not the victim here, not even of pakhi and neither can he feel vindicated. He needs to address how his decision to involve a 18 yo in a loveless marriage, who might have wished to find true love in her life on her own and that she has been robbed of that. Most of all acknowledge his brother’s pain whom he has actually betrayed and robbed him of having a wife who truly loves him and is faithful. I believe virat didn’t intend to fall for his wife or plan for that, but Sai’s nature made it easier for Virat to fall in love with her. Imagine if Sai’s character isn’t the same, what if she is someone like Karishma who finds joy in other’s pain or someone like pakhi who is in love with someone else. Then what? Until he acknowledges his own mistakes and the ramifications of that mistake, he is as culpable as pakhi in all this and he needs to accept that.

HiI am here for the first time. I hope you don't mind if I write here. My English is not good. but I will try..

I really like this show. But I don't like a lot of things.I see a problem on all sides. Why didn't Panthi cancel the wedding when she loved Virat so much? Her dad supported her. So now I don't know what awaits her? she waits that Virat has been promised that he will never love anyone else, and she will be married, she will perform marital duties, and he will live as a priest? this has no logic. or she thought she would marry and will live an EMA relationship. Have sex with both.

I don't understand that Virat is blind. She irritates me when she enters their bedroom, without knocking. She went to check on their wedding night, with an excuse, for headache medications

.And another thing, his family has no problem if he goes to a hotel with his sister-in-law alone? It looks like Auntie supports their "relationship" and wants them to be alone together.Virat should tell Pathi that there is no place in his heart anymore. End everything. Sai is right, Pathi is constantly appropriating Virat.

I'm not looking forward to the future song when Virat throws Sai out of the house :(

Originally posted by: Estadra

HiI am here for the first time. I hope you don't mind if I write here. My English is not good. but I will try..

I really like this show. But I don't like a lot of things.I see a problem on all sides. Why didn't Panthi cancel the wedding when she loved Virat so much? Her dad supported her. So now I don't know what awaits her? she waits that Virat has been promised that he will never love anyone else, and she will be married, she will perform marital duties, and he will live as a priest? this has no logic. or she thought she would marry and will live an EMA relationship. Have sex with both.

I don't understand that Virat is blind. She irritates me when she enters their bedroom, without knocking. She went to check on their wedding night, with an excuse, for headache medications

.And another thing, his family has no problem if he goes to a hotel with his sister-in-law alone? It looks like Auntie supports their "relationship" and wants them to be alone together.Virat should tell Pathi that there is no place in his heart anymore. End everything. Sai is right, Pathi is constantly appropriating Virat.

I'm not looking forward to the future song when Virat throws Sai out of the house :(

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Originally posted by: Bana

Samleema I totally agree with u & have maintained this from the start that Virat is most to blame. U have put it beautifully here.

Even if we take Sai out of the equation & see (ie if he had not married Sai or any other girl) Pakhi would still never “get” Virat as he would never cross that final line to break his brother’s marriage. So, by unthinkingly doing things just short of that line, he is pushing Pakhi faster towards the edge of sanity.

Thank you. Your kind words are most appropriated😀

let me ask a question. I get that virat has not made it clear and cut ties with pakhi (for their past relationship) but it has been claimed by pakhi and her supporters in chavan nivas that she is mature, samajdaar and what not. when virat was requesting her to marry samrat, how did she not see that as a red flag ? what kind of partner claims to love you and then request you to marry another (it doesnt matter that that was his brother) ? also in what way did she see that promise as something plausible ? I mean how did she think was this going to work out? she was going to become his bhabhi for godsake and that relationship has its boundaries that cant be crossed as she would be married to another person. did she expect to be involved in EMA and expect everyone including her own family and society be ok with it? so that means she is the type who is alright that virat would suffer and live a long and lonely life without a partner as he made a promise to her, who is now married? Virat promised to love her as he was desperate to get a yes from her for his brother, not because he loved her so much. So pakhi is ok till virat is miserable as she is miserable too but the moment he is happy, she has issues just because she cant move on from him? what kind of love is that, that is if that is even love? I am not going to say this is virat's fault entirely. Pakhi is the one who decided to get married and didnt use her "samajhdaari" when it was direly needed and she has only herself to blame for this. Virat's fault is that he made that second promise of loving her but his reasons were not selfish as he did that for his brother not to have an EMA after pakhi's marriage. So his promise cant be held responsible for pakhi's lack of brains, foresight and selfishness. Her current actions show that she doesnt care about anyone but herself and that is why she married samrat. she married samrat as they was an easy way out of the mess she was also responsible for creating. All she wanted was to be with virat in anyway possible even if that meant bringing shame to her family by EMA. look at the way she was excited for this trip. That validates everything i am saying here. She is an adult not a child for whom boundaries are drawn and explained. some things she has to figure out herself and understand them.

Originally posted by: Sanleema

There have been lots of point of views as to why pakhi married Samrat. I would like to share mine too. As far as my understanding is the moment virat made the infamous promise, he bound himself to pakhi for life. Pakhi in turn made a promise, if not vocally, of marrying Samrat and holding her side of the promise. My understanding of why pakhi might have gone ahead with the marriage is that she trusted virat to be loyal to her for life and in turn her life sentence was to be in a loveless marriage, which virat would be witnessing too. They will both be stuck in their own love story, which is mutual yet cannot be acknowledged publicly. Now coming to Samrat-pakhi’s equation in all this, I don’t expect pakhi to understand Samrat because in her mind that was her only way of still being a part of virat’s life, because Virat had already declared he wouldn’t fight for their love. How does one even expect a complete stranger to understand how Samrat’s life would be ruined by all this when his own brother failed to realize that. Pakhi’s hate and resentment stem from the fact that she trusted virat’s promise so much that she married a guy she barely knows. She married a guy who she didn’t even get a chance to know, a guy who might or might not make her life better based on how virat keeps saying. Adding to that is the fact that virat broke the promise by marrying Sai and the final nail in the coffin is he is falling in love with his wife, who was nothing but a responsibility and nothing beyond that.

Secondly, I don’t think she understood Virat’s promise . He promised her of not loving any other women provided she married his brother and becomes his wife in every way . Pakhi never kept her promise to expect Virat to adher to his promise . Is Pakhi not mature enough to realize EMA causes immense pain to the significant other . She entered this marriage with the hope of continuing her relationship with Virat and she knew all along it will hurt Samrat when he will know the truth but she only thought about herself .

Both virat and pp are wrong.

PP a teeny bit more because of the fact that she lost all sense of morality in addition to her sanity because of her current behavior. She is enjoying someone's pain (Sai). Atleast virat hasnt done that.

PP agreed to a marriage with someone even when she was in love with another just because she felt cheated. Was the the solution a rebound marriage?! Her parents were kinda forcing her to give the alliance a chance..but she didn't come clean to samrat when he asked her. He was a stranger but she owed him the truth about her past especially when both families pressed the fast forward button and were getting them engaged and married! She opted to get married to a man without divulging the truth about her past.

Once she realized that virat was samrats brother, she talked to virat who basically told her he will not come forward to help her break off her alliance with her brother because his family is more important to him. Instead he makes her some ridiculous promise that he wont ever give her place in his heart and life to anyone else! Yet instead of alarm bells going off in her head and calling off the marriage to samrat to stay away from BOTH samrat- a stranger and virat- ex lover who doesn't have the courage to stand by her, she opts to get married just to stay close to virat even if it as his SIL! Why?! What did she think would happen in future. That they would have EMA or they would torture themselves pining for each other forever, despite living in the same house?! Do they think they were both setting some example of true love by making this stupid decision. Isnt the first step after a breakup to create distance? To stop meeting/talking to each other?! What is the rubbish about being BFFs. Maybe eventually they could have bee friends but not immediately after "breaking up" and certainly not when they are actually BIL-SIL.

In ALL this, neither virat nor pp thought of the consequences of their actions on Samrat.

Virat an ips officer not once considered that the truth always comes out! And how the truth would affect his brother.

Virat didn't want to break off his brothers alliance because he thought it would hurt him and the family but he forgot that marriage is a lifetime commitment. It was better for the marriage to break BEFORE happening rather than AFTER. If the girl Samrat was marrying was not his own love pp but someone else entirely and virat had seen/learnt that samrats to be wife was in love with someone else, would he not stop his brother from ruining his life by getting married to such a girl. If virat himself had married someone and found out later that the girl was in love with someone else not him, how would he feel? Even if he assumed that pp-samrat would live happily and pp would grow to love samrat because hes so amazing, did he ever consider that it'd be ethically wrong for him to have had "more than friendly" feelings for his vahini. Just in principle its wrong. It doesn't matter if no one came to know.

How would virat feel if his wife was mohit/samrats ex girlfriend. Or maybe mohit/samrat had " feelings" for his wife.

Pp is virat's vahini/bhabhi- that is basically a sister or mother figure. NOT a "friend"

And pp also only cared about her love, her feelings. In her "grief" after realizing that virat would not stand up and accept his love for her publicly she decided that she would marry an innocent man and make him also pay the price by ruining his life. She couldn't tell samrat that her and virat had a thing, ok granted. But she could have atleast said that she has been in a failed relationship. Give him at least some part of the truth instead of basing her whole life on a lie. Her parents in the end, were so supportive that they were willing to support her if she called off the wedding but pp still went through with it.

And now that pp is seeing virat married to someone else and her husband is MIA, she is in the position virat would've been in if samrat was still around and Sai didnt exist. This is what virat's life would have looked like. Has she ever thought about that? If she truly loved him, is this the kind of life she'd want for him. Ok its hard for her to watch him move on while she is without companion and doesn't even know if shes a widow or not. But she is taking out all her pain and anger on an innocent girl Sai- who she knows did NOT want to get married , who is only 19 and an orphan. Pp cannot be expected to be friends with Sai because she is the wife of her "lover" but she has reduced herself to taanabaazi and is deriving sadistic pleasure watching the girl in pain! And she doesn't have an ounce of self respect!

Virat didnt expect to get married to Sai, but atleast he kinda told her the truth about having a past. But now that he is married , he is realizing that his feelings are rapidly becoming more than just zimmedari- and so he is trying to move on, he is respecting the boundaries between him and pp but he can see that pp is struggling to move on. He has realized that pp feels lonely and is trying to latxh on to him for comfort/support. And that should raise alarms for him. He should know that its not fair to his WIFE if he is being overly friendly with another woman and its not fair to pp to have her ex lovee be her confidant/companion while she is waiting for her husband to return! Instead of taking the onus of "caring for her" himself he should have the common sense to ask someone else to do that. Allow her to leave and go to her parents house atleast till Samrat comes back so that she can focus on herself rather than be in pain/torture himself looking at her ex lover and his wife 24x7 in front of her eyes! Instead he forced Sai to bring pp back home. In the process he made made both women feel like he still has "feelings" for pp.

Despite ALL their ridiculous behavior thus far- virat and pp think that both of them are MATURE, samajhdaar ! What a joke!

And both of them have the audacity to call Sai as someone who doesn't have "saleeka", nasamajh, immature . Why? Because she dares to speak the truth and face it unlike these 2 cowards!

Originally posted by: neeraja91

If only I could give multiple hearts to this post!!!

the whole premise of their love story is warped. Firstly, 2 din mein pyaar nahi hota, attraction of course.

according to Sufi tradition these are the stages of falling in love-
Dilkashi (Attraction), Uns (Attachment), mohabbat (Love),akidat (Trust/Reverence), Ebadat (Worship), Junoon (Madness) and Maut (Death).

These two were definitely in the first stage, nothing more.

second, bhai phone pe ya paper pe number le leta, haath pe kaun leta hai aaj kal 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️
chalo woh bhi maaf kiya, but the phone falling out of the car was hilarious 😂 at least could have made a back up, itna humein bhi pata hai ki these days phones aren’t reliable we should have a backup.

Third, pakhi blocks virats number when he is busy at a function (his welcome) doesn’t have her number, doesn’t recognize her voice because his mind is preoccupied, so ms. Mature decided that he has played with her emotions and BLOCKS his number!!
matlab waah bhai waah! I mean what a love story!!

How does one just block someone’s number without thinking maybe they are busy, maybe they have something going on. Let me drop a message, or wait for them to call back.
also pakhi just said hi! Kuch aur bolti toh Virat maybe usse bata deta ki pakhi wait I’ll call you back later, a little busy at the moment!

But she is the most samajhdar and mature out of everyone!! Hum jaise immature logon ko yeh baat samajh nahi aayegi!