In a very human way it was a genuine reaction from him for the moment. HE was not living in the past but living in the present but forgot that people took his words too seriously. Both the ladies have taken him too seriously and are living by his words.
For him to clear things, he needs to clear is brain first which is right now filled with anger and hurt. Somebody needs to show him a mirror, hopefully soon.
Guess he was done being the parent (mature) in the relationship and wanted a little attention and pampering from his wife. She is the only one he is expecting things from. The rest of his family he has no hopes.
That is what he wants to tell her-- leave aside the family fights for him to handle because they are not going to change in anyway and she's only spending her energy by taking it upon herself to drill sense into them. "sab Kuch tumhe Kyun Karna hai"?
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