The confounded 'husband'

Good afternoons to the sisterhood! 🌞

Chowk purao, Maati rangao, Aaj mere piya ghar aavenge... ✨✨

Isn't it the first time that Virat used the word "pyaar" in reference to Sai, in the way it is meant to be? He has been forever confounding his 'affection' with his zimmedari. But today, in those 10 minutes of the near heartbreak, he almost got a preview of his feelings😀.

It is said that jest and anger are two ways to speak the truth -- knowingly or unknowingly. That typical husband-wife fight, many true words have been spoken. While Sai's act was evidently fake -- the words were not by default. And Virat caught on to each one of them: "meri zarooratein"... "mera bhi toh dil hai, main bhi toh chahti hoon koi mujhse pyaar kare.. pyaar ki do baatein kare... kya tum mera pyaar nahi banoge... meri murjhayi zindagi mein bahar ban ke aane ke liye..." Oh, every dialogue was a separate dagger piercing his heart 💔. As he watched Sai, he evidently understood the truth too -- or so it appeared to me. He might have to introspect once his anger subsides: Was he being "fair" by asking this "young, beautiful, intelligent" woman to be a "deal-wife", completely forgetting what she would desire -- and then want to seek it at some point of life from someone, if not him? 😟

The icing on the cake for me was Amey saying "Pyaar me koi jaldbaazi nahi hoti" -- wasn't it something on the lines of what Virat mentioned to Patralekha while attempting to confess his yoga-love? But today, he couldn't gulp it down when someone else said it to his 'wife'. It made him fume. Perhaps, the only consolation came in Sai's reluctance to answer Amey's "apne pati ko chhodh do aur mere saath chalo nayi shuruwat karne". I think if she had said an instant "yes", Chavan saheb would have snatched the phone right away. If his eyes were guns, he would have shot "Amy baby" dead on the spot😠 but filhaal, Chavan saheb, get that ice pack from your vehicle and put it on your head.

Jokes apart, was his rage justified -- yes and no.

Yes: Because he was also actually speaking from the protectiveness for Sai. This is not just his feeling of wanting to protect her from the 'danger' of trying to honey-trap a man like Amey but also to protect her from the onslaught of criticism, hurt and allegations that his own family will make, picking up the opportunity without fail -- "Tum unhe ek aur mauka de rahi ho". And, it is evident from the precap when Bhavani calls her "behaya" going with a "paraya aadmi". Chavan saheb, I feel bad for you 🥺. He's just so drained in this constant match between the family and wife and he does not want to be the referee, as I mentioned yesterday. Unenviable position. And there is a definite yearning to find a "normal" with this woman who makes him feel the best about himself. 😔

No: Let's be honest, he went mad at Sai because his heart couldn't handle the truth Sai unwittingly spoke. He would have said the logical parts about the family showdown and his disapproval of her action in his usual firm but calm manner. What drove him to this extreme reaction was his helplessness as a 'husband'. He was screaming at his 'wife', not at badtameez Sai Joshi. One could see his breath trapped in his chest and that discomfort coming right to his eyes. But, it did not come out in words -- it won't, unless he introspects and acknowledges what this marriage has begun to mean to him.

I wrote at length yesterday about Virat's approach and his feeling to get Sai the status she deserves, and so much discussion happened in so many posts. Today's reaction from Virat makes it evident that he has moved on from the yoga-vaada and even the deal-marriage conditions to wanting a normal husband-wife relationship minus the physical intimacy with Sai as of now. And, I won't say it is a subconscious feeling any more. He is making conscious efforts to show it to her but not acknowledging it the way he should. The understanding that he is seeking from Sai in reciprocation is not going to come unless he breaks his silence.

As some other posts have pointed out too -- he caught on to the word "pyaar" from Sai's conversation with Amey and used it two times to express what he has been doing. "Itne pyaar se tumhe college drop kiya, kaam par gaya, socha tumhara haath theek hoga toh saath me dinner karenge... pyaar se poochunga college ka pehla din kaisa tha, do baatein karenge.."😉True words are also spoken in anger. And Virat used the word "pyaar" for the first time in context of this marriage -- and Sai heard. 🥺

Did Sai gather what he wanted to say? I think she did, but only a part of it -- the fact that he was speaking to her as her 'husband' was clear. She paused for a moment when he said, "Mujhe pasand nahi hai"... but then, it was a deliberate -"Maine aap se kab kaha main wo karungi jo aapko pasand hai". She knew it would hurt and she wanted it to say it to him😟. She has hangups of her own about his feelings because he is the one who has said those things to her and he should remember that he has not yet cleared the air.

Her "Dinner khilane ke badle daant kyun khila rahe hain' was also heartbreaking💔I felt bad for both of them -- both of them were actually looking forward to this little 'pyaar' they could share over that blessed plate of dinner that sat at the table witnessing them scream at each other in words they actually did not wish to say. And actually for an issue that is someone else's for a change but well... 🥺

The clinching moment for me:

It was so BEAUTIFUL how Virat stopped at the door and took that breath he had held for such a long time when he saw that dinner plate -- and that glance he gave her when he realised she had also been waiting for him 💕. It must have soothed his heart a bit. Him asking her to eat alone and walking out even as Sai probably wanted to stop him for the dinner: both of them wanted to end the fight already. But, well, the moment had already been lost. The river had flown ahead... 🥺😔

(Also, I don't think this was part of both the other versions or was it? I can't recall)

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The zillat arena scene is still incomplete so I am only going to point out at a few things:

What is with Ashwini sulking?🤔 I cannot understand why did she, once again, choose to remain a silent spectator ALL through the build up to Sai's 'badtameezi'. When left alone and cornered to allow the Chakram Makad Sena to baarood bharna in her, she will obviously burst. Even during the mahabhoj, Ashwini remained tongue-tied. This is coming as a jarring character break to me after all the strong stands she took for Sai initially. Is she beginning to get disillusioned with Sai's counter-attacks at the Chakrams or is it because she doesn't want to be dragged into it in Virat's absence? What is the point of applying balm at the end when you couldn't stop the injury from happening in the first place😑. She may have not wanted to react when the aadarsh bahus and the wannabe aadarsh Karishma were blaming Sai for not contributing to the housework, but when they walked up to gang up on Sai, when Ninad raised his hand, Ashwini remained mum. I know she cannot sustain a fight, but not even walking up to Sai's side left me disappointed.

Jali Hui Didi just found an ointment tube to treat her first degree burns na!? When Virat screamed the "Bass Sai", Bappa re! What relief swept over her -- like the cold breeze from the Nashik yoga camp just arrived in Nagpur 😅😂. But Didi, sorry to break your heart, the ointment tube is empty😎. You will find out soon. Despokhi grabbed the opportunity to instigate Virat but I don't think Virat actually fell for it. On the contrary, I think he is very aware that they are all going to instigate him because he knows what is coming up and he so doesn't want it. 🥺

Makad Sena and spokesperson are not aware that Virat is having a anger-hangover from a very personal feeling for Sai. That combined with his very, very deep anguish that Sai is walking into slaughter in a few minutes and he won't be able to help her come out unscathed although he will eventually not allow the slaughter at any cost🥺. But har kutte ke din aate hain, so Didi, enjoy, today is perhaps your half-day because Sai is actually being stupid, I admit.😐😐 She should have left it to Virat to deal with the fraudster but she has taken it upon herself to prove Shivani innocent-- which is working as a balm for Shivani but causing heartburn to the 'husband'.

I do not blame Virat for rebuking Sai today (only as much as we saw) - not because it was his hurt-anger spilling over but because Sai actually did not use tact. She did not need to indulge in so much verbal exchange with the Makad Sena when she knew she was going into an "act" with Amey that the Chakrams will not understand and Virat has already warned her about. She should have just walked out and stood elsewhere instead of giving tit-for-tat to Bhavani and then also engaging in Ninad and Omkar. She needs to learn the power of silence. Just walk out.

The only justified retort was to Ninad - the permission she gave him to dare to slap her😠. This man! 🤬 But apart from that, she should have just remained calm simply because she is the one who is aware of what is going to unfold in a few minutes.

I will still want to watch the entire sequence tomorrow. I think in this particular face-off with the family Virat is in a very vulnerable state about his own feeling for Sai that he is not at all prepared for this 'badtameezi' fight. We all know that stress and anxiety we feel when we fight with someone close to us and it is unresolved, especially the spouse. And he's now almost desperate that Sai should stop being reckless and walk into the lion's den. He really wants her to carve a space of her own in that house. Since he mentioned "jalebi" word again to her, I so wish he sits her down in their next calm conversation and explains to her the need to be in the same team -- if not about his raw feelings yet. Because that is when they slay it the best, when they are in one team!

Awaiting tomorrow's installment because, honestly, I loved how Virat was affected by that phone call. But wait, he's going to allow her to go alone in that car with Amey? 😅 Video call nahi karega?😅 Uff, Amey ki dhulai dekhne milegi ya Chavan saheb sirf kanoon ke lambe haath use karenge?😆

Ending with: “Perhaps there was an intimacy which did not need words.... Yet, the unspoken words trembled in the air.... Why can't I do that, why can't I just ask a woman to hold my hand, why can't I ask?” (Iris Murdoch)

I guess we are all fast getting into the thick of the drama and so, it only going to be a bit of heavy dose in the days to come.

Sending hugs🤗, love 💕💞 and pyaar-ki-plate par serve kiya hua lunch bhi 😀

Lots of love

❤️J

I went back and watched the first half, Sai's words to Amey were like Virat's unravelling today😆

He just couldn't 😆

And I completely agree with you that though the things that were being said on the call was on the pretext of leading on Amey it doesn't take away the fact that it is the truth. Although I am not sure if Sai has even thought of all this even subconsciously because frankly the girl hasn't had much breathing space after her Aaba passed way. Initially it was her studies and admissions alongside one drama after another, since marriage never featured in her immediate future she hasn't really had time to reflect on what the deal really is however since she is more perceptive than Virat the wall has already been constructed 😆

I loved the fight in their room because to me it represents growth in their relationship and of course Virat's "Khana kaa lena" in the end had such a domestic feel to it along with Pyaar😆

Yes, by the looks of the precap Virat seems all set to defend Sai let us see how that plays out.

Oh, toxic didi can have her day nah moment today I am just hoping we'll get to see Virat showing her the hand and walking away because that would affect her the most and unleash the niagara in her eyes and because I live for such pettiness 😆 (borrowed this line from somewhere on the forum)

It was actually funny for me seeing him acting in that way. He’s used big words before, he’s made big promises, he wanted to control things around him, how was he to know that his own heart would not be in control around her, because of her. He’s hidden his affections/emotions under the guise of Zimmedari, his farz. I`m not even sorry to say Virat; but holding her clutch and thinking about her when she was not there, going out of your way to celebrate for her, getting her balloons and Candy floss, surprising her to the river, asking her to have dinner with you were not part of your zimmedari. Either look for answers or update the conditions of your deal, because I don`t know about your wife, but, you have definitely gone beyond your own set conditions, let alone your Vaada. As he was getting angry today, his words, which he repeated so many times so that she gets it and internalises it - that “umeed mat rakhna” - it seems like he has not internalised it himself. Was this as fickle as your Vaada? Whatever it is, it suits us. Thing is Sai has already internalised his words and she is insistent on helping him in following his words/his vaadas which for him have long been forgotten.

While like you said every word was a separate dagger, the most powerful was perhaps the “zarooratein line…” because you can take so many meanings out of it. That must have hurt the most for it is absolutely true. That must have hurt more because he probably realised that he wouldn’t want her to go, no matter what he wants her to believe. Is he being fair to her? No. Is he wronging Sai? No, because she took the marriage with all its conditions. But, most importantly is he being fair with himself? Absolutely not, he must be stupid if he does not realise the extent of the emotions (whatever you wanna name that emotion) he feels for his wife. He was absolutely out of his wits when Amey was flirting with her - despite knowing that she was pretending, despite knowing that she wouldn't have anything to do with a cheater and it’s been what, a few weeks. What would months (for not saying years) do to him?

He cannot do this fighting thing with her. He absolutely hates it. That is probably because he looks for comfort, solace in her. I do think a lot of the anger also came from the fact that Sai was not not understanding the implications of this fake flirting. She is a married woman at the end of the day and her actions are going to appear very wrong, especially in front of his “traditional family”. He was not only trying to protect her from Amey and the verbal onslaught that she would face.

But, she was insistent on her plan, probably thinking that he was saying it out of Zimmedari or because he thinks Sai is a bacchi. There is a also the fact that she has been a victim of a man as well, so she gets very sensitive when it comes to women being hurt. She unfortunately did not see that the man was jealous, just like she did not notice him checking her out the other day. It is her first relationship though so she has a lot of learning today.

Ohh man, that dinner thing was such a nice touch. It was such a poignant scene - no matter how much they hurt the other, they are hurting as well. The pure and reciprocal care beyond everything was so touching.

I’m unable to figure Ashwini out these days, ever since she was angry about the lunch thing. For someone who said I won`t stay silent and I have someone to fight for, I had a lot of expectations for her. I mean just pointing at Sai to stay silent is not working for me.

I do not want to focus more on the last scene since there would be continuation. But, the outburst, a continuation to the night one, made sense in that situation. I mean he still tried to explain to her calmly.

Lovely analysis of Virat. I noticed we don't think that he needs anything from us...just like Sai😵

I said this in another post, that today I saw 'chemistry' of a couple between Virat and Sai. That chemistry which was lacking because Virat would only think of his zimmedari and Sai would only compare him with Aabaa. No chance for any romantic vibes so far.

There were so many little Sairat moments today:

- Sai blissfully unaware of the effect her talk with Amey was having on Virat, even gesturing to him excitedly about Amey's self khulasa. Virat's thunderous face.

- Chuubha...that pyaar thing. Don't I treat her with love?

- the last 2 minutes after 'Bas Sai'..& Pakhi's comment.. Virat's frustration that Sai brought this on herself, Sai's shock and hurt. They will recoup and continue tomorrow, that is besides the point. Neil and Ayesha give me Best Jodi vibes ... hopefully Star catches onto that.

- Virat asking Bua to stay out of their argument. I wish he also tells a certain someone the same thing, in the same tone.

I was pleasantly surprised when I heard Virat enter the room mimcking baby baby . My wish came true ..Virat did hear the best part of the conversation. I expected protectiveness but we got possessiveness and lot of other emotions as well . I throughly enjoyed the scene . He was legit jealous and he gave it away twice . Sai was too focused on Shivani’s issues that she missed the hint.In normal situation, she would have played “hum aapke hain” with him and maybe that would have taken the discussion in a different direction . Fake flirting did wonders he forgot his favorite word Zimedari and used the right correct word this time “pyaar se” . Good going Sai .

Another thing I noticed was Virat bottles up his emotions . He is not an open book .The morning conversation where she said she only likes his mom has effected him . In her fake flirting , she has said many thing which he effected him and the aftermath will be seen in their upcoming fights .

Less said the better about Sai’s plan and she was stubborn to not listen to him or understand his PoV .This is also one of the reasons for him to disagree with Sai in the living room drama .

Janki you are love💛 thank you for analyzing this full on drama, tensed episode so beautifully. It instilled a ray of hope in me that there is light at the end of this gruesome drama tunnel!

Hoping that jali hui didi ke din zyada na hi aaye.. taaki humare din khush-haal bane rahe.

i think that 'exposing amey's true colors' will happen in Wednesday's episode.

tomorrow they will show a little more of chavan family arguments and sai trapping amey, while in chavan niwas kaku and gang will continue to point fingers at sai.

i actually don't like family drama and false accusations being made on FL.

but surprisingly in GHKMP even family drama is interesting😆

i guess this is only because, unlike other shows we have 'sai' here GC ki sherni. i just love her dialogues. its like she speaks everything that's in the audience's mind.

hum yeha soch the hai ki 'main hoti tho yeh bolti' and she says it, in a much better way. I LOOOOOVEEEE that...

and virat is sooo in love with sai shaq ki gunjaish hi nay hai🤣

virat saheb ko pattu lekha bhabi abhi se sach mein bhabi lagne lagegi for sure🤣

Originally posted by: ..Peppermint..

It was actually funny for me seeing him acting in that way. He’s used big words before, he’s made big promises, he wanted to control things around him, how was he to know that his own heart would not be in control around her, because of her.

Wahi toh. He made promises on behalf of an involuntary body part 🤣 and then the Dil started knocking sense into his brain with the 'dhak dhak'

He’s hidden his affections/emotions under the guise of Zimmedari, his farz. I`m not even sorry to say Virat; but holding her clutch and thinking about her when she was not there, going out of your way to celebrate for her, getting her balloons and Candy floss, surprising her to the river, asking her to have dinner with you were not part of your zimmedari. Either look for answers or update the conditions of your deal, because I don`t know about your wife, but, you have definitely gone beyond your own set conditions, let alone your Vaada.

But he can't do it alone now. The conditions need to be ratified by the "wife". She better ask him a few questions too. 😅

As he was getting angry today, his words, which he repeated so many times so that she gets it and internalises it - that “umeed mat rakhna” - it seems like he has not internalised it himself. Was this as fickle as your Vaada? Whatever it is, it suits us. Thing is Sai has already internalised his words and she is insistent on helping him in following his words/his vaadas which for him have long been forgotten

Internalised yes because every time he is on the back foot he comes up with really bad defenses -- even today: why are you doing this for a family you don't like? He doesn't know she's heard that blessed phone conversation with Sunny and assumed he was heartbroken, sleepless and starving because of his "pyaar....dosti". 😆

While like you said every word was a separate dagger, the most powerful was perhaps the “zarooratein line…” because you can take so many meanings out of it. That must have hurt the most for it is absolutely true. That must have hurt more because he probably realised that he wouldn’t want her to go, no matter what he wants her to believe. Is he being fair to her? No. Is he wronging Sai? No, because she took the marriage with all its conditions. But, most importantly is he being fair with himself? Absolutely not, he must be stupid if he does not realise the extent of the emotions (whatever you wanna name that emotion) he feels for his wife. He was absolutely out of his wits when Amey was flirting with her - despite knowing that she was pretending, despite knowing that she wouldn't have anything to do with a cheater and it’s been what, a few weeks. What would months (for not saying years) do to him?

Exactly. Sai has actually already spent more time with him than 2-days yoga. Even before he met Patralekha vahini, Sai had already crossed the two day mark and also made some of that 'connection' 😆 I wonder how did he assume he won't be affected himself by his own "deal" proposal. That's why I said yesterday, his deal marriage was even more thoughtless than that brahmachaar ka bakwaas Vaada🤣

He cannot do this fighting thing with her. He absolutely hates it. That is probably because he looks for comfort, solace in her. I do think a lot of the anger also came from the fact that Sai was not not understanding the implications of this fake flirting. She is a married woman at the end of the day and her actions are going to appear very wrong, especially in front of his “traditional family”. He was not only trying to protect her from Amey and the verbal onslaught that she would face.

Yes, she was really being like a college friend spying on a friend's boyfriend. She totally forgot she's Chavan Khandaan ki bahu 😆 and that's what he was trying to explain to her initially but his 'husband' feelings were too overwhelming today. But I got so much pleasure in the fact that she actually did continue flirting in his presence🤣 Saturday Ka saara anxiety of him having missed the conversation was made up for. Only if Amey had repeated something about 30 lakhs and Gadchiroli, I am telling you he would have walked out with his gun loaded to get Amey and really smashed that dinner plate again😆 she was stupid to tell Amey that.

But, she was insistent on her plan, probably thinking that he was saying it out of Zimmedari or because he thinks Sai is a bacchi. There is a also the fact that she has been a victim of a man as well, so she gets very sensitive when it comes to women being hurt. She unfortunately did not see that the man was jealous, just like she did not notice him checking her out the other day. It is her first relationship though so she has a lot of learning today.

She was so insistent even after the whole screaming match-- mere plan ke mutabik that he barely had any choice but to gather his mind and leave. 😆 and he knows he's going to have to defend her really stupid idea in front of a gang that's not even willing to acknowledge the fraud. Sai Sai!

Ohh man, that dinner thing was such a nice touch. It was such a poignant scene - no matter how much they hurt the other, they are hurting as well. The pure and reciprocal care beyond everything was so touching.

True ❣️

I’m unable to figure Ashwini out these days, ever since she was angry about the lunch thing. For someone who said I won`t stay silent and I have someone to fight for, I had a lot of expectations for her. I mean just pointing at Sai to stay silent is not working for me.

Ashwini is confusing me. She has the best intentions but why does she remain silent. She can try to diffuse the tension if she doesn't want to escalate. But silence doesn't help.

I do not want to focus more on the last scene since there would be continuation. But, the outburst, a continuation to the night one, made sense in that situation. I mean he still tried to explain to her calmly.

It makes sense because he's actually not thinking in a detached manner. She is not at all willing to see his point, which is valid. And in her over enthusiasm to prove the guy guilty, she's putting her dignity at stake which the family will not understand since they don't want to. So when she said 'mujhe fark Nahi padta wo kya Bolte hain' he was angry because really 'aisa Nahi hota hai'. It affects him.

wow amazing as always 👏.i felt relieved after watching today's episode. Kudos to Neil for bringing out that vulnerability of virat

Personally I don't like sai honeytrapping amay bcoz u r right it's way too dangerous. It also showed she is not trusting her husband to do his duty.

Sometime sai is bahut ziddi.she refuse to listen to anothers pov.But the whole sweet talking was beneficial in bringing out the hibernating hubby bear virat to full gun blazing mode . So I am happy and I don't mind virats screaming bcoz sai can take it and give it back a hundred times more.her chillaye mat and kya aap meri professor hai cracked up.It was tic for tat

I felt virats hopelessness in making sai understand that very important thing ie think before U say something or in your words janki use tact.

I think that rebel teenager in Sai will take sometime before she follows his advice

Virats jealousy is very cute but I also felt his helplessness as a husband to ask his wife not to flirt with another man. ACP Saab it's ur own making.i wonder what answer will virat like to his question "tum hoti kaun Hai to teach me how to speak to my bua ?"will I am ur wife suffice😃

I also loved his sadness upon fighting and shouting with sai.He is not like ninaad who looks like a satisfied toad after shutting up ashwani. CVS did a good job 👏I also loved sairats parting words that night.how they wanted to patch up.But the river just flows on and that moment is lost along with our dream dinner😭

Virat is right in wanting to stop sai bcoz we know what a fools his family are and they will question sais character.

I loved some part of drawing room drama.especially sai questioning 3 chavan seniors about being the reality show judges was awesome.I think CVS read our post about them being jobless and judgemental and put it as a question to them by sai.

I know sai is bringing more problemsto herself and virat and that makkad gang will take full faidavof it.Like u said they don't know the underlying tension of miya biwi😆.And paakhi like a fool want to butt her nose in.Despokhi aab koi faida nahi hai.boat kab se Sail hogaya hai.🤣.

I have a feeling about bass sai dialog bcoz looks like sai is inhaling a much needed air to launch another attack on virat 🤣.cant wait for tomorrow morning.

And that makkad gang including despokhi can rot in hell🤢.i know sai should have used tact but her dialog to Cavan seniors about being reality show judges was like showing them a mirror and only sai has guts enough to do it.

Like u I am disappointed in ashwani😔.

Have a good evening dear.

Brilliantly written Janki