Ladies, how would you react? - Page 2

Originally posted by: ..Peppermint..

I won't say anything yet about what Virat said because these segments can be misleading.

Coming to Sai, a lot of people mentioned about her tone and her language she uses, and rightly so. But, I mean I get her also. When I am very angry, my tone and language (not abusive btw😆) goes all over the place. Had I been in Sai's place, im pretty sure I would explode like her as well. When angry I also use lines like Sai used, "who are you to...." or "stay quiet". But these are for my family and closed friends, of course.

Had it been my in laws I would be mindful to a certain extent. Had my in laws been like Chavans i would definitely flip and leave no matter how much I loved the guy.

The problem is Sai has no one to fall back on - the remains of her family gift -wrapped her away as soon as they could plus there is attachment to Virat as well. When Shivani asked her the other day if she would be able to live without Virat, she didnt answer.

She would manage alright, she would survive, without him in a hostel. But despite all his flaws, he tries to find ways to keep her happy, to keep her warm. We all know how Precious KJ was for her, and KJ sacrificed his life for Virat, by default Virat is precious to her as well.

You brought two extremely important points, Sai has no one to fall back on. One can manage to live alone and even get a career, but having no family can be a void that can draw people to commit suicide. Sai is a great example and in real-life to we see many of those. Mother-Teressa Said, "We think sometimes that poverty is only being hungry, naked and homeless. The poverty of being unwanted, unloved and uncared for is the greatest poverty". Sai somewhere does care to have a family.

The second point you brought is Virat is precious to her as well. He is the only person apart from Ushamausi who knew Sai and her dad so well. Virat has gained her trust by saving her multiple times, especially, from Jagtap. Girls would never forget if someone saved them from a rape, its the biggest saving for a girl, so Virat already has that strong connection with her.

Originally posted by: prs_725

If I was in that situation, I would def give it back to them. My talking style is not like sai though, I’ve always been a woman of few words that are powerful and does the job. I won’t ever and never have taken bs from anyone, which is what attracted me to Sai.

If I was in Sai’s position, I def would leave. Self respect comes above anything else. Also, I think I won’t talk as much to the family. I will do my own thing and make my husband fight those battles lol apni goli kisi aur se chalvati.. he would have to make sure those insults towards me stops if he wants me around. If me and my family gives him respect, so should his. Respect is huge and number 1 for me so based on who I am, I would not compromise on that at all. If it gets too much and there’s no solution, I think I would just choose to go live in a hostel and do my work. Love is one thing but if there’s no respect, there can’t be love. There has to be understanding (which I realize takes time), but izzat honi chaiye .. me for him, him for me, and us for both of our families..

Very well said👏👏👏👏

Noone wants their daughters to be married to such families.... unfortunately these things are not known before marriage in many cases... So parents should definitely teach their daughters to stay strong and not tolerate unnecessary crap at any cost... Sai never misbehaved with anyone unnecessarily.... She gives it back if someone behaves badly with her... She never yelled or raised her voice against ashwini, shivani or devi... That itself shows why she's like this with rest of the chavans... They always tests her patience and brings the worst out of her.

Originally posted by: methebest

Very well said👏👏👏👏

thank you!! The only reason I’m watching the show is bc I see a glimpse of me in Sai. Also I always want all woman to be this independent and fearless! I always work towards boosting anyone’s confidence and making sure they are self sufficient in my life ..

Okay I’ll stop talking about me and my tarif lol

back to ghkkpm, I def want Sai to show aiina to Virat, he’s the one that needs to see it .. (yes she needs to change her tactic a bit too/and choice of words)

Hey there!

Loved your post ❤️

According to me, it totally depends on the kind of person they are.
For instance, in my case, if I know a given person doesn’t like me and that person is important to me, I will give it a try, but the moment they hurt my ego I won’t be a bechari.

One, they don’t like me..so obviously they don’t want good for me..so I would maintain distance.

Second, inspite of me making distance they charge at me, then I would give it back.
I don’t believe in the saying elders should be respected.
Sorry if I offend anyone, but respect has to be earned.

Also Virat has to understand, if they are good to him doesn’t mean they are good at heart. 😊

People are good to each other for various reasons!

Sai is doing the correct thing and she should not drop her attitude!

I love it! 😈

Originally posted by: methebest

There are different views when it comes to Sai's behavior. Some think that she needs to mind her words and others think she must give back as good as it comes. My question to you guys is

When the whole family from Kaku, Sasur, Chota chachu, choti kaku, husband's ex-current(bhabhi, best friend whatever the hell she is) all together just bark at you day in day out what would you do?

How would you react if your in-laws called you jungly mulgi, chote ghar ki, badtameez, muhfat constantly, how would you react? Put yourself in the same position and imagine if all of your in-laws gang up on you doing this day in and day out, what would you do?

I am one among them who believe Sai shouldn’t stoop to kaku’s level . This will actually help Sai more than anyone . Let me repeat it I am not against Sai taking a stand for herself but the choice of words and tone matters . There are multiple reasons for saying so

1. The main objective of the argument gets overshadowed and the focus will get shifted . Let’s take Shivani’s ex the moment Sai asked Ninad to shut up , the real issue I.e family not taking a stand for Shivani was forgotten and everyone pounced on Sai . Sorry to say , it was Sai who gave them this opportunity .

2. The objective of the argument was to show Ninad the mirror not to insult him .The message that he failed to protect his sister could have been said in better words .

3. Being firm and assertive is not a sign of weakness . It’s a strength . I believe to convey a message one doesn’t need to shout on top of their voice .

4.Anger can get better of us and when we are angry we forget the main agenda of the argument and will play into the hands of other people .

5. In Chankya nithi, he says straight trees are cut first. Sai needs to learn the tactics to survive in life .

5. Lastly , I would not cross my limits with my husband’s father . I am doing this for my husband not anyone else . Sai could have thought of Virat who fought for her every time against his parents . The least he expects is to watch her tone . He doesn’t ask her to mince her words or take shit from his family but only expects her not to cross her lines . Is it too much to expect ?

It was Virat who asked Sai to take a stand for herself on their wedding night .

Virat apologizes for domestic verbal, emotional and physical violence on Sai privately, but insults Kamal-sir publicly! He says his family members have good heart, but questions Kamal-sir's up bringing. What would you do if your husband said all these about your dad especially after asking you to take the torture from his psycho family?

When did Virat insult Kamal Joshi ? I would like to remind people that he was the one who took a stand when Kuku and her gang questioned about Kamal’ Joshi’s upbringing in their wedding reception .

Let’s not forget , Virat took the responsibility of Sai because he respects and recognizes the sacrifice of Kamal Joshi . He could have easily left GC Without talking Sai’s responsibility.

If people are counting the ehsaan then I would like to remind pthat Virat already repaid by saving Sai’s life twice .

What would you do when your husband is either blind, dumb or a liar in a sense that Virat thinks his family is good at heart and with time they will like Sai if they are given chance, however, they still don't like his mother. Forget others, even his dad doesn't like his mother and till date Ashwini is treated like punching-bag. So my question to you is what would you do if your husband was either delusional or just a plain liar and asked you to work towards pleasing your torturer in hope of things getting better despite an example like Ashiwini is right there?

Virat is not a delusional person or a liar . If he was he wouldn’t have apologized in first place . He has different way to tackle a problem and one can disagree with his approach but I don’t agree with calling him names . He believes in “practice before you preach “. He has used the same approach for Sai in GC . He was called names , accused of not doing his duty , misunderstood , his ability as an officer was questioned when he was not at fault . Despite that he followed what he is asking Sai to do now .

Virat asked Sai to deal with Chavans tactfully so that she doesn’t give Kaku a power to make Sai dance to her tunes .

Why is Sai staying in that horror-house? And when she wants to go, why does Virat want her to stay? Chakrams have nothing else to do, but create fight all day long! I am sorry to say, but hearing Indian Army paying pension to Ninad at tax payers money to fight with his wife and daughter in law is too much. Then there is ACP who is asking his wife to turn blind eye to domestic aggression by gang of hooligans at home in name of respecting elders.

No one is stopping Sai from walking out of this marriage . Virat advised Sai not to but still she can do it if she believes it’s not worth staying with her husband who fights against his family to fulfill her dreams even though it’s just a deal marriage . The deal was to enable Sai to fulfill her dreams but Virat went a step further than that .

Biggest question! Does any of you want your daughter be treated like Sai at her in-laws? Would you advise her to take the crap or would you expect her to take a stand for herself like Sai does?

This has been answered already . No one is stopping Sai from taking a stand but I would advise my daughter to not cross her line while doing so . Two wrongs never make it right .

My answer to the last question is I would never want my daughter to be treated like Sai and God forbid if it happens, I want her to stand tall and give it back as good as it comes. Respect is a two way street, give and take. In name of manners I would never ask my daughters to take crap from ill-willed psychos. And I am more than OKAY to hear I didn't raise my kids with manners to treat the elders right. In my mind what I would be hearing is I didn't raise my kids to be doormats to hungry dogs!

I am interested in watching the journey of Sai and Virat who are flawed . I am ok if they make mistakes , learn from it and bond over time . I will neither support regressive stuff nor pseudo feminism

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Originally posted by: ltelidevara

I have an eight year old daughter .I feel horrible if I end up marrying her into such a toxic family when she grows up. I don’t think Chavans would soften up if Sai keeps her calm. They just hate her and would continue their assault. So I understand Sai’s position. It is not easy to bear such hatred and taunts 24/ 7. ACP Virat Chauhan failed to do justice at home front .

What would I do? If I go back to when I was 18, I was naive and a little idealistic. I thought everyone would be like my mother or my father, love me however I behaved. I just had to say sorry and everyone would melt.

Which is how Sai behaves. She expects people to understand her.

My 18 year old self would either react like Sai or become like Ashwini.

Definitely, if my daughter got married I would want her to come back to me. Lot of families, one doesn't know how they are from the outside. I would want her to get away from such toxicity. Now haven't Pakhi's parents done that??

Sai to her credit did try...her attempt at breakfast.. remember how Ninad refused to eat what she'd made? Virat too, refused to choose her over Paakhi and walked out without eating.

They need not have praised but they could've eaten in silence instead of insulting her.

I know since I was in a situation like this in reality ..it was tough I was called stubborn , man in a woman's body and what not. They even took away all my edu and personal documents and money I had saved up when working. Finally I managed to record some evidence somehow emailed my bff and bro.

Long story short I managed to take charge and now I am remarried to a wonderful man and have a 3 year old.

But it took a big toll not only on me but my brother. He still has anxiety if u don't respond to calls. I also have some issues that I battle off and on.

Believe me if u have support walk out else build it and then walk out

I would simply walk out. There's no amount of love that would make me tolerate ALL OF THAT. Heck even my own husband questioning my own upbringing. And over here, Sai doesn't even love Virat yet. SO GIRL, leave, walk out of that house because they do not deserve you.

And I know I have read here and there on the forum that the actual reason Virat yells at Sai is for her behavior and her yelling. Honestly, that doesn't make anything better. Sai is forced to yell and raise her voice because they all gang up and attack her. No one deserves the behavior she gets. If I was here that would only be half the anger I showed. Sai needs to leave that toxic house and Virat.

Virat would have still had a spine if he had had the decency to correct her in the privacy of their room instead of blasting her in public, especially in front of Pakhi and her smug face.