"Dam ghoot raha hai" - Page 2

Woww Janki really beautiful post.

Your analysis is always superb one.👏

Amazing post as always, Janki.⭐️

Happy New Year to you too.🤗

Hands down, this is the best breakdown of everyone's chillam-chilli from today's episode.

Chakram nivas ke logo ko lagta hai chillane se aur darane se sab log dar jate hai. But no issues, Sai Joshi is here to break that illusion. She is not someone who will agree to nonsense because the other person is screaming down on her. She raised those questions so well and managed to keep up with every damn argument without raising her voice.

TBH, when Ninad raised his voice and threatened to do lose control, it instantly seemed like the reaction of a hypocrite being shown the mirroe reflecting his actions. He went on a defensive mode. OFFENCE IS THE BEST DEFENSE.

Sai has started to point out flaws in those people who until now believed that nobody is better than them. Bhavani is a person who likes to believe that she has made this family, she is the one holding this family together but Sai today openly said that she actually kills the joy in this family. The fact is that this drama company calling names to Sai while they are the ones who actually start all sorts of bitching sessions

Funny, Bhavani wants to conduct Gruha shanti ki pooja but actually has only ashanti and dvesh in her heart and mind.

PP ka toh jo bole woh kam. I remember you once replied to a comment that- husbands behaviour towards his wife determines how the family will behave with the DIL. That is just too honest, Janki. How else would PP ever think of talking like that with Ashwini. PP has absolutely no regards for any relationship, be it her marriage to a man MIA, or the elders or even Virat.

She is just a petulant woman who wants to have her way by hook or by crook. It is clear as day that today's 'Mera Pati' comment was actually a trick to see if Virat was bothered by that or it was a strategy to make Virat feel guilty of having 'Honeymoon period' with his wife while his brother was MIA and she was at Chavan niwas in her 'Bichari Patralekha' mode 🤔

Virat has grown up with these niyyams and kanoon and is moulded to think that such an environment is normal. But now that he knows that Sai's normal is different than this toxicity and she is actually a prime target of this entire madness, he is starting to see things as they are.

The crazy gang of bullies are actually leaving no stone unturned to make Virat feel guilty of being a disappointing son and police officer.

Actually, PP gave a brilliant idea. Though Sairat are never gonna leave this Chavan Jail Niwas, this is actually not a bad idea👍🏼

Awesome post....as always...

Originally posted by: jankiraghav

Good morning lovely ladies!

23 minutes of full blast of Chakram niwasis (+three ads, thrice, with migraine-inducing music. I suddenly realised, I could buffer the annoying ads before beginning to watch 😅 migraine saved.😐)

It was an episode to balance all the mesmerised gazes we got yesterday but it was also a very telling episode. The first half, before the assault turned towards Virat and Sai -- when Ashwini was at the receiving end -- was so heart wrenching that it left me livid. The sadism that every single person in the room (save Shivani Bua) delighted in when Bhavani backed Susheel bahu -- the newly appointed spokesperson of the Makad gang-- in heaping insults at an "elder" in the family is appalling. I did not find this OTT today because many of us are lucky to have not grown up or be forced to live in such a toxic environment. But having closely seen the struggle of so many going through it, I couldn't help but feel so upset.

The biggest struggle in a toxic environment is the fact that the one who's struggling cannot recognise the toxicity. I felt bad for Ashwini but I also felt a bit let down by the fact that she has spent all her life being suppressed by her so-called husband and the Queen B of the house to an extent that she is now their "official insult dart board" -- anyone can walk up and play a dart 🎯 game in hitting the bull's-eye of insult, including 'kal ki aayi Patralekha'. The best part about a dart game is that it can be played by an individual without the need to compete against anyone while everyone enjoys the game.

But in the exchange between Ashwini and Bhavani, it was so evident that the toxicity of the relationships in the family has never been called out, until today -- when Sai, unabashed and point-blank, spoke up for Virat:

"Aaj Aaba ke jaane ke baad pehli Baar main Khush huyi thi... Main aapse khushiyaan baatna chahti thi but Aapke chehre to hamesha latke rehte Hain..."

"Jab se hum log yahan aye Hain, hum par nishana hai... Fark itna hai ki goliyon ki jagah, sawaal daag rahe Hain..."

"Kitne sawaal karte Hain aap log Virat sir se? Chutti lekar Sai Ka result Kyun check Kiya, Sai ko admission Kyun dilaya, Sai ko ghoomane Kyun le Gaye?"

"Ye ghar Nahi, jail hai... dum ghoot ta hai..."

A person, who has never seen that kind of toxicity can actually identify it, which perhaps, Ashwini and Virat have internalised as the 'normal'. It made me wonder how Virat -- by the virtue of living in a joint family and being the uncrowned prince -- has, grown up to not be able to identify toxicity. We think it's "people pleasing" attitude but it's actually the compulsion to find the 'breath' for survival by trying to escape and avoid confrontations in an environment that is so toxic.

Unfortunately for him, despite the shade that Ashwini has given him as a mother, has has toiled his childhood years under the scorching heat of his relationship with at least two toxic parents -- his father Ninad and his aunt Bhavani, who by default is everyone's parent. I am not counting Omkar and Sonali because their toxicity has their own motivations -- Omkar trying to push Karishma into Bhavani's good books today.

By remaining silent all these years, and offering her healing touch at the end of the toxic attack, Ashwini has actually failed to protect herself and Virat from the poison. I always notice this specific expression Virat has on display when someone is making an allegation at him by reminding him that he has failed an expectation -- there is a surprise and a nod and he wants to hear how! Be it his conversation with PP at her maika or Ninad in the living room before the admission. It's because the "consequences" of breaking expectations in toxic relationship is a heap of guilt.

Fortunately, Sai can and identify this right from the first day she stepped into the house -- Virat, the son of Chavan niwas, is not the ACP Virat Chavan who smacked Jagtap and Vitthal Mane in their faces. Sai can see how the so-called elders -- Sarghana as she called Bhavani and doosre bade Ninad Chavan -- do not treat all family members with respect as individuals. They can't compromise, show accountability for their behaviours and certainly do not feel sorry. She can see that respect for a person is directly proportional to the 'yes-nods' he or she gives the Chakram gang.

Virat has been a victim of poor parenting -- despite getting the solace and love as well as values from Ashwini-- and perhaps has lived through a traumatic childhood that doesn't seem traumatic on the face of it. But children grow up in mentally abusive settings or dysfunctional families by accepting it as normal. They may deny the fact that they have been abused emotionally, especially if the facade of the family is perfect -- and material needs have never been a problem.

Sai can see the pressure that the clan has been applying on Virat to make him feel guilty of having Sai -- the overreaction, drama, emotional blackmail, critical references to obedience shown in the past, the manipulation, playing victim, attacking, scant respect for his physical or mental boundaries of his feelings.

I LOVED how she gave it back to Ninad when he made this scathing comment about 'not being dependent on his son financially' -- what a typical attack that a child must face from a parent who is sulking over a decision that undid an 'expectation'. Of course, Sai had wanted to react even when Ninad told Virat how he is no longer the reason for "Garv" but "shame". A part of her anger is obviously also because Virat is specifically told that he has let them down because of his decision to side with Sai.

Just moments ago, Sai witnessed the inner child in Virat, jiska 'mann tha, Khush hone ka' because, 'tum Khush Hoti ho toh main bhi Khush ho jaata hoon'. Sai, is that gahivarla shwas (the breath one needs when one is choking), who has indeed begun a process of allowing Virat to emotionally detach from the toxicity -- just by being around him and making him realise that one must not let go of the 'moments' of joy that actually define happiness.

It will still be a while before Virat truly sees that under the cloak of "Ghar ke niyam and kayde" is the venomous potion that has so far been served as 'prasad' to those who follow the line. In a way, by merely becoming a part of his life -- for whatever reasons and circumstances -- Sai has become the reason for him to detach from the toxicity. He now has a purpose -- a zimmedari, farz -- to protect Sai from the line of attack. In the bargain, he will also have to detach himself. It doesn't mean physical detachment but emotional.

And he's already doing it -- he does not feel responsible for someone else’s feelings, especially when it comes to standing up for Sai (and because he is in vicarious love, also for himself). "Maine socha Sai ko ghuma Kar le aaun... Sai mere saath thi so niyam lagu Nahi hota... Der shaam huyi hai Der Raat Nahi..."

And Didi, did you hear he just called Sai 'biwi' in your face -- "Tumne inhe yaad Nahi dilaya ki inka beta police officer hai aur apni biwi ke Saath Bahar Gaya hai" 😎😆 I think I saw Didi gulping down her own venom. Waise, Didi your toxicity is not even being discussed here because it is so laughable and worthless in this context that today Chavan saheb didn't even call you "Pakhi". Lage raho, aap itni acchi Spokesperson Hain Makad Sena ki that you'll reveal their secrets yourself slowly with your own harkatein 🤣

Dr Sai Joshi -- I absolutely LOVE the way Virat addresses her by her maiden name and the chakrams have not yet realised that Ghar ki bahu is breaking ITNA bada tradition and not even taking their Chakram Khandaan Ka surname 🤣🤣... Dr Sai you have your hands full and you've already begun therapy for Virat without knowing because you are the PURPOSE for which he is breaking the chain of this toxicity, one loop at a time

Tumse pehle humne, tumsa na koi Dekha...Teri ore badhte kadmon ko Hamne Nahi roka... Tere saath bechaini ko bhi... Aaram sa milta ha

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I felt bad for Ashwini as much as I felt disappointed. Why did she turned herself into this door mat? I wish we know her compulsion for marrying a douchebag like Ninad. I wish Shivani Bua had got up and smacked Patralekha in her face. I do not want to waste words on this envious woman, whose going to burn in her own fire. I so wish Virat would witness his ex-to-be-wife and 'forever true love' showing her maturity and respect for his mother, who could have been her mother-in-law but now like Virat, Ashwini is also on her target list because in her imaginary world, these are people who should be on her side.

It is high time Ashwini stands up for herself and stops taking this insult from Patralekha silently. I totally understood Ashwini's anger towards Virat and Sai today. Virat was irresponsible about his reply to Ashwini and his explanation on returning, even worse. "Haan maine Bola tha, phir socha...." Man, it's because actually have no idea what your mother has been ensuring in your absence. Her 'sun na to mujhe hi padta hai' was actually directed at Virat but she said it to Sai. I feel Ashwini doesn't admonish Virat directly as much as she should. For that matter, she is yet to rebuke him for the issues relating to his friendship with PP but now because she can visibly see he's moving on, she's let it slide. So Virat has never faced Ashwini's direct anger or complaints so far... Is her silence really her strength? 😒 Or has it meant that Virat has grown up behind a mirage of protection from which only partial truths about the family filtered in?

The sweetness between Bhavani and Patralekha can cause fatal hyperglycaemia -- I hope it does to both of them and the Mamajis as well 🤢 Sai, you actually have so many gambhir bimaaris there -- bulimia (they binge on insults), verbal diarrhea, myopia, malignancy and even gangrene. Super specialist bano, sirf MBBS Nahi.

And the woman just reminded herself, in everyone's presence that Samrat, "Mera Pati" is missing? No, no, Didi. Aisa mat samajhna that we believed your sadness. Your eyes were set on your husband's cousin when you mouthed those words to check his reaction. You were reminding the 'police officer jo apni biwi ko bahar lekar gaya tha' that you have a missing "Pati" (jissse aap jan na nahi chahti) and so you will continue reminding everyone in the house that they cannot join in celebrating the joys that belong to Virat and his biwi.

I don't think Virat can fall for this bait, Didi. He, in the depths of his heart, knows Samrat means nothing to you and so not even the family. It is only a matter of time until he detoxifies and realises that you are using his missing-in-action brother as a dupe to cover your tracks.

Waise, Chavan saheb, you better have a fitting answer to that. Please let your 'true love' know that your biwi stormed out of that toxic chamber to enjoy some private head massage at the end of a tiring day 😂😂 aapki problem hi solve ho jayegi when Didi does a Samrat and goes missing-in-action.

Virat is now paying attention to the communication pattern and the changing shift of target -- he is also aware that the strategy to deal with matters concerning Sai cannot be the habits and defenses that he has used to manage his own anxieties in that environment. While he's doing a perfect job in the role of Sai's husband in that zillat exchange ring, it's time that he stands up to do a decent job as a discerning son to an oppressed mother and a scion of an inheritance that will be thrust upon him eventually.

Must mention: Chavan saheb totally enjoyed that Live Reporting session. Ab kal he will enjoy 'Sai Joshi, MBBS' mono-act. Kya kismat hai, aapki. Itna entertainment toh koi Kisi ke liye bewajah Kabhi Nahi karta. Socho Socho 😄😅

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May the rising sun of the new decade begin the much needed healing for the world and also for individual needs -- in our own struggles. May it give us enough light to filter the blessings we're surrounded with to strengthen us to stand for justice for selves and those around us. ✨💓 Keep shining!

Sending across hugs 🤗🤗🤗 and coffee ☕☕☕ and of course, heap loads of pyaar bhi ❤️❤️ and as dewdrop Sai said, "Jaan jokham me daal Kar bhi, apni khushi ki raksha karni chahiye" 💕

Love you all🥰 have a great day! 🌤️🌠

First of all happy new year to you and all the forumwasis🤗what an episode at the start of the year🤔but like always loved your post👍🏼

Ashwini's situation was really heart-wrenching and how could Bhavani even compare her with PP about anything at all specially about her education🥱 I absolutely hated her there... wasn't she the one to stop her education midway?😕 I literally felt like smacking her head the whole time she was spewing the ridiculous comparison😵(sorry for my use of the words but that's how much I'm done with her😵) and Ninad's tukdo par jeena comment was equally ridiculous😵....when did Virat even claimed this? 😳loved Sai while giving him back there👍🏼my heart really goes out for Virat and Ashwini😒this whole time they had not only tolerated but also lived in such toxic environment silently supporting each other😒good that they now have Sai who would point out the injustice done to them along with herself... anyways... enough of my rant😆and about your issues of ads, have you ever tried downloading the episode and watching?coz it's a good way to get rid of all the ads😉

Amazing post as always. I like the way you write and always wait for your posts(along with posts of catering lory and Anamika)

Today's episode reminded me of my in laws house. My FIL s dialogues were same (not similar) as Ninads to my husband. But here I have seen Virat raising voice in support of Sai but it never happens in so many households. The sons of the family will be pushed to guilt trips if ever they support their wives even if they know their wives are not wrong.

As I always your post is fabulous. 👏

Today take away

1) Prison : Chavan niwas has became like a prison for the people who live there to be ruled by a khadus jailor and her assistants. Today when Mohit said " why are they now dragging me". You can get that all sons of this family look for an escape to be away from this mental asylum. Samrat ,Virat and Mohit due to their professional setup get an escapism. But what about the DIL and daughters of the house they have to endure the torture.

2) Free Bird : Sai has always been like a free bird, roaming inside jungles eating sour fruit. She never likes to be encaged. And if anyone tries to do it, she is ready to break it or challenge it. And today we saw another glimpse of it.

3) Weapon : Right from day one when Sai entered Ashwini said " dekhna ek din yeh Virat ke dil pe aur is parivaar pe raj karegi". She knew it will be Sai who will act as a weapon to recuse her from this prison .

A mother feelings can be best understood by her daughter. As Ashwini today though scolded Sai, but had tears in her eyes. The pain which only a daughter saw. She knew, that it is now her responsibility to show Virat, the sufferings of his mother. So, he starts taking stand for her along with Sai.

4) Eyes : As Sai was acting as reporter today trying to cover the sensational news from CM. There was a man silently admiring her in the corner. Ab Kya Kaye

Deedar ko tere, tarasti hai nigaahein meri

Kuch ankahe sawalon hai mere,

jisko deti hai jawab yeh tere

In nazroo mein hai kuch baat hai aisi

Raaz kholti yeah dil ke, bas inhe padhe to Koi

Yesterday epi too his eyes were fixated only on her and today also. He has started noticing her, trying to find answer to question which his heart asks.

Last night was watching jab we met where in climax Geet says " tumhara ek ehsaan rahega mujh par sirf ek. ki tum anshuman ko wapas le aaye warna mein kabhi samjh nahi pati ki mein kya chahti noon. ab mein apne dil ki baat sunne wali hoon aditya phir sab thik ho Jayega"

Same here Sai, we are thankful to you that you brought pakhi back. Now Virat will be able to compare and see who loves him truly . The day is not far when he hears his dil ki baat. phir sab thik ho Jayega. Today you called him pati, and see he came back calling you his biwi. Sai magic is working❤️.

Fabulous post by you, Janki! ☺️🥰

Awesome post. There are people like Ashwini, Virat and people like Bhavani Kaku and Ninad who think if you are rich and marry a girl from poor family you can treat her as you wish. It's truly pathetic. And then these very same people have the audacity to dictate terms and conditions and teach others how to respect your elders. And, when that doesn't happen they are termed as disobedient or rude. It has such a bad influence that even the children have the same kind of attitude. Virat has got his Mother's upbringing and not Ninad's which is why he's caring, loving and has got the guts to stand up for his mother and wife. Maybe, Ninad was too busy in wagging his tail for Bhavani Kaku that he didn't realise he had to fulfill his responsibilities towards his son. And, the less said the betterof the sushil bahu, Pakhiji. She's getting on my nerves. I think maybe in the upcoming episodes we'll see how Sayi shows the true faces of the entire Chakram family to Virat.

Originally posted by: scarlett22

Such an in depth analysis, especially about Ashwini and her dynamics. 👏

Thank you dear 🤗

Yes, sad fact is there are families like this. Since this is a tv soap, every emotion is magnified ( irritatingly so).

I remember a woman, whose son was in my son's school. She was very young, one of the youngest mothers. I saw a photo of hers on Facebook, fully in a ghunghat, standing demurely at a pooja.

Couple of us asked her...she said she had to have her pallu over her head at home since she lived in a joint family. She would step out for dinner in a salwar with her hubby and change into westerns in the car. Her husband fully supported her in this subterfuge.

For some reason, these two days remind me of that lady.

Oh it is so sad, in a way. There are so many families and so many couples like these where the sons cannot stand up to the elders despite knowing that the wives are being wronged. The dynamics of a joint family or even a smaller nuclear family with an older generation that is rigid is difficult to manoeuvre through. But wherever thoughts are enforced to uphold a sense of pride and not rationality, it is "Toxic". Because, change is actually the only way forward.

Women like Ashwini also exist...very much so. Her identity being her only child ..Virat. there also slips in an element of subterfuge with him, protecting him maybe from the toxicity, so that he continues to believe..yeh sab to chalta hai because my family is traditional. And he learns to balance his mom and Kakku.

Till he acquaints himself with this fiery, young woman who is his partner too.

Her joie de vivre, candid nature affects his carefully structured, precariously balanced mind space.

Interesting actually at many levels.

Yes though, too much family drama..kya karen. Hopefully, the subliminal messages also get through.

This is the dramatized version of reality. Unfortunately, many viewers who concur with the rigid mentality would also see it as a reinforcement of their belief that the younger lot, especially 'unworthy' women who their eligible sons choose end up bringing disgrace to the family.

So, on this note, Happy New Year to you and to everyone reading.