Virat's "Zimmedari"

Today my heart was breaking for Sai when she held her Aaba's photo and sobbed. She is so alone in this world. Even the ones she considered her family are so caught up in her getting married to an eligible bachelor. This made me think about Virat and his zimmedari towards Sai. I don't think even he knows the weight of this word. He has one definition of zimmedari. Mausi, Kaka and Kale have another definition. But in the context of Sai, nobody has truly understood what the zimmedari should really be. For Virat, it is restricted to him doing everything to make Sai a doctor, helping her out financially. Sai's relatives think it's about Sai not having a family and somehow marrying Virat, magically solves all problems.

As far as Virat is concerned, it's great that he was upfront with Sai about not expecting anything from him. Sai doesn't care either but Virat is not considering one thing- marriage doesn't just mean a WIFE's expectations. Has Virat ever thought that more than financial support, Sai is going to need tremendous emotional support? She has been through so much trauma and his "umeed mat rakhna" ramkatha is not helping matters. He has to be her friend, a shoulder to cry on- EVEN if she doesn't want to cry on Virat's shoulders, he HAS to offer it. Virat's zimmedari towards Sai doesn't start and end with her college fees. When Kamal made Virat promise that he'll take care of Sai, he would have meant the other things. Someone to understand her. Somebody who will accept Sai for Sai, someone who'll understand her nature. I hope Virat understands this. He doesn't have to love Sai or fulfil any spousal duties to actually be there for her. This girl is going through such a dark phase in her life. She lost her father and now has to adapt to this circus Chavan khandan- he needs to be there for her, every step of the way.

Virat knows his family better than anyone... Still he married Sai without informing his family members ..

Waiting to see if he is emotionally going to support her or like other saas bahu dramas he will remain a showpiece

Well considering that Viraat himself is going through the heart break of losing the woman he loves that too to his cousin brother , have you thought that may be it's not easy for him either ??

He's being tremendously patient , caring and gentle with Sai, a girl who has always been insolent , rude and nothing but ungrateful towards him since the day they met ??

Why we have all these expectations from Viraat and none from Sai ?? Should we not expect Sai , to get her head out of her behind and get over herself and consider being a friend , a shoulder to cry on etc. etc ( all that you expect from Viraat towards Sai insert here ) towards Viraat as well.

Hell is waiting for him at home, all his family members will be greatly disappointed in him and perhaps for the first time. All because he is keeping the promise to Sai's dying father.

Not to mention the woman he loves blames him for breaking the promise given to her and knowing that he indeed failed her.

Just because he's a man , his pain is inconsequential ?? Mard ko dard nehi hota kya ?

Let's not forget , that the biggest and most important cause of this marriage is NOT financial . I think you've misread the situation completely , Sai actually does not need Viraat's help for money. It's laughable that he married her to provide for her , that could've been arranged with out bringing marriage in the equation. He married her to provide her SAFETY. Which is essential. Which only Viraat can provide. She'll be wedded and bedded forcefully if Viraat the armour is not standing in front of her. Which is why Sai's well wishers are so desperate to marry her off to Viraat only. It has nothing to do with providing her with a family . It's just Sai is too immature and short sighted to understand the gravity of the situation she's in.

And no they don't think it'll magically solve all problems . But it'll definitely solve the most crucial one at this moment - Sai's safety.

Originally posted by: MusicMuse

Well considering that Viraat himself is going through the heart break of losing the woman he loves that too to his cousin brother , have you thought that may be it's not easy for him either ??

He's being tremendously patient , caring and gentle with Sai, a girl who has always been insolent , rude and nothing but ungrateful towards him since the day they met ??

Why we have all these expectations from Viraat and none from Sai ?? Should we not expect Sai , to get her head out of her behind and get over herself and consider being a friend , a shoulder to cry on etc. etc ( all that you expect from Viraat towards Sai insert here ) towards Viraat as well.

Hell is waiting for him at home, all his family members will be greatly disappointed in him and perhaps for the first time. All because he is keeping the promise to Sai's dying father.

Not to mention the woman he loves blames him for breaking the promise given to her and knowing that he indeed failed her.

Just because he's a man , his pain is inconsequential ?? Mard ko dard nehi hota kya ?

Let's not forget , that the biggest and most important cause of this marriage is NOT financial . I think you've misread the situation completely , Sai actually does not need Viraat's help for money. It's laughable that he married her to provide for her , that could've been arranged with out bringing marriage in the equation. He married her to provide her SAFETY. Which is essential. Which only Viraat can provide. She'll be wedded and bedded forcefully if Viraat the armour is not standing in front of her. Which is why Sai's well wishers are so desperate to marry her off to Viraat only. It has nothing to do with providing her with a family . It's just Sai is too immature and short sighted to understand the gravity of the situation she's in.

And no they don't think it'll magically solve all problems . But it'll definitely solve the most crucial one at this moment - Sai's safety.

I am sorry, but you are comparing Viraat's two-day yoga-wala love to Sai's father's death. You can not call him a victim because if he wanted he could have flat out went up to Sam and told him that he likes Pakhi, but he didn't. So it is his own fault for standing up for his "love."

Originally posted by: by_stander

I am sorry, but you are comparing Viraat's two-day yoga-wala love to Sai's father's death. You can not call him a victim because if he wanted he could have flat out went up to Sam and told him that he likes Pakhi, but he didn't. So it is his own fault for standing up for his "love."

Just because you don't understand it does not mean it's not love for Viraat or that it's not painful for both Pakhi and Viraat . Some times it takes only a moment to fall in love. Would you have said the same thing if the FL_ML of the show met in the same fashion and grew attraction and love towards each other ?? Many ITV shows have shown first sight love or attraction between leads , at that time I see no one complaining do din ka pyar etc. ?? All the time Viraat and Pakhi are crying for each other, remembering and pining for each other , this does not look love to you ???

Even if it doesn't no one has any right to say Viraat's pain is any less that that of Sai. So you mean loss of a father is more than loss of love ?? how could anyone even say that ? What is even then the premise of love stories ?

Originally posted by: MusicMuse

Just because you don't understand it does not mean it's not love for Viraat or that it's not painful for both Pakhi and Viraat . Some times it takes only a moment to fall in love. Would you have said the same thing if the FL_ML of the show met in the same fashion and grew attraction and love towards each other ?? Many ITV shows have shown first sight love or attraction between leads , at that time I see no one complaining do din ka pyar etc. ?? All the time Viraat and Pakhi are crying for each other, remembering and pining for each other , this does not look love to you ???

Even if it doesn't no one has any right to say Viraat's pain is any less that that of Sai. So you mean loss of a father is more than loss of love ?? how could anyone even say that ? What is even then the premise of love stories ?

Okay, tell me why he didn't go up to Sam and tell the truth? Why did he ruin his life?

Virat had a CHOICE, but he chose the wrong one.

@bold...it is not love at this point, what they are having is EMA.

Originally posted by: by_stander

Okay, tell me why he didn't go up to Sam and tell the truth? Why did he ruin his life?

Virat had a CHOICE, but he chose the wrong one.

@bold...it is not love at this point, what they are having is EMA.

Originally posted by: by_stander

Okay, tell me why he didn't go up to Sam and tell the truth? Why did he ruin his life?

Virat had a CHOICE, but he chose the wrong one.

@bold...it is not love at this point, what they are having is EMA.

Their family names would have ruined if the truth about their love had come out like this , and Samrat would have devastated. Viraat sacrificed his love for his brother's happiness and the reputation and happiness of the two families. At least that was his intention. He had no idea Samrat will find out and that too in this way.

That decision was idiotic I give you that , but most selfless and self sacrificing decisions are in fact idiotic in today's time and world.

And why are you diverting to another tangent? We are talking about pain and suffering. Whatever Viraat chose that day is his choice but what has it got to do with his depth of heartbreak or love for Pakhi?? Nothing. So why does it matter ??

Also , how is it relevant to Sai's demeanor and our expectations from her ? Again nothing. So no point deflecting.

Since Sai doesn't care about Viraat's pain , I'd advise Viraat not to give a damn about her pain either. You reap as you sow.

Unfortunately Viraat is too caring and nice to heed that advice.

Let's also not forget the same idiotic selflessness and tendency of martyrdom that drove Viraat to make that promise to Pakhi so that she marries Samrat are the same core character traits that made him own up and stand by Sai to keep the promise given to her dying father.

Or else he could have just shrugged it off and wished Sai best happy marriage with Jagtap ( more like marital hell and marital rape not to mention be the wife of her father's murderer) , or living in constant fear and persecution, appointed a body guard for Sai and washed his hands off the matter and opt out of Gadchirouli.

Just a thought to ponder on.

Originally posted by: MusicMuse

Their family names would have ruined if the truth about their love had come out like this , and Samrat would have devastated. Viraat sacrificed his love for his brother's happiness and the reputation and happiness of the two families. At least that was his intention. He had no idea Samrat will find out and that too in this way.

That decision was idiotic I give you that , but most selfless and self sacrificing decisions are in fact idiotic in today's time and world.

And why are you diverting to another tangent? We are talking about pain and suffering. Whatever Viraat chose that day is his choice but what has it got to do with his depth of heartbreak or love for Pakhi?? Nothing. So why does it matter ??

Also , how is it relevant to Sai's demeanor and our expectations from her ? Again nothing. So no point deflecting.

Since Sai doesn't care about Viraat's pain , I'd advise Viraat not to give a damn about her pain either. You reap as you sow.

Unfortunately Viraat is too caring and nice to heed that advice.

@bold. So same would apply to Pakhi right? When did she care about Virat's feelings and pain. If she truly loves Virat she would have given him benefit of dought....but she kept on and on and on about this vada and that vada. WHAT ABOUT THE MARRIAGE VOEW SHE TOOK WITH SAMARAT? how easily the "perfect Maratha woman" forget about that? Bhavnikaku needs a reality check fast. Her Pakhi bahu is not caring or perfect as she is thinking.