One must learn to love, and go through a good deal of suffering
to get to it, like any knight of the grail, and the journey
is always towards the other soul, not away from it... To
love you have to learn to understand the other, more than
she understands herself, and to submit to her
understanding
of you. It is damnably difficult and painful, but it is the
only thing which endures.
-D. H. Lawrence
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