Maan - a man's perspective

Maan is the first and only character that I have ever deigned to watch and like on Indian television and Geet the only serial. Am going thru a 'wonder why' phase and got talking this morning with my husband about this. He is very like Maan in his principles and his demeanor (am going easy on the biceps...drop dead good looks and the billions ;-) ) and I was interested in hearing his take on the entire 'will he, wont he' issue that we have been discussing on this forum. Would he take on Geet if he were in Maan's shoes? How would he react if he were to know that Geet was his brother's wife?

Here's his perspective -

He was shocked that Maan first chose to pursue his attraction for Geet without finding out enough about her background. He was like...and this is the guy who runs a company? smirk...smirk..
How can anyone as 'smart' as Maan not make the effort to find out more about this girl who intrigues him...before going the whole nine yards? And in this case, it is not as if he needs to hire Sherlock Holmes...all he needs to do is make a couple of calls to his contacts in Hoshiyarpur...

Cant but agree! This is a major flaw in the storyline....I hope they come up with something intelligent to cover this flaw up soon.

And the 'will he, won't he' question - my husband feels that any principled man will not consider his sister-in-law to be on the list of women he would have 'dhak dhak' moments for. He feels that he would feel especially yucky if he learnt that the girl he had feelings for was once/was still his sisterinlaw. He personally would not be able to pursue a relationship with her...whether he disowns his brother or not....

Interesting....

Thoughts?

wow..thanks for sharing this!

um...it is kinda icky about the sis-in-law thing...it was a fake marriage, but the consummation was very real..which is where the problem comes in..all in all- a v v delicate issue..the cV's must tread v carefully here..

It's the romance of the thing which is amazing..but it hides something utterly painful which will shatter both Maan and Geet.

But love doesn't stop anywhere, or has boundaries...

I remember being so very disturbed after reading Lolita..but oh well, that's another story for another time..

My point is that - right now, Maan has no idea- neither does Geet

It's always been a question of societal values vs the individual assertion in the show-

If looked at from a marital relationship point of view- no problem cuz the marriage wasn't real..

The only way CV's can make the issue a little safer is by making Dev 9perhaps a step brother) or an adopted brother- that way

Maan needs to definitely understand and weigh everything very carefully.

It's pretty scary if you think about it..but I'm really glad you brought this up..

Thanks for sharing..and so sorry for the long post!

xx

Well this was certainly an interesting topic. I agree with the him not finding out more about Geet thing. That truly is a major flaw in the storyline. He certainly had enough money, power and contacts to have found out more about Geet but he didn't. Weird. However the question of his pursuing a relationship with Geet is where I disagree. He already has such strong feelings about her. We can already tell that he could and would go to great lengths to protect her. I feel his loyalty to his brother will be insignificant when compared to the love he will hold for Geet. At first he will be perplexed and shocked. It's only natural that after finding out what Dev and Naintara did to Geet he will at first atleast try to distance himself from her. Hopefully by then he will truly love her and she would've shed some light on the whole issue of leaving Hoshiarpur. Of course we also have to factor in Dadi who wants Geet and Maan together at any cost! I guess we'll just have to wait and watch. (:

well, as for Maan's liking for Geet, here is what I think
Maan is basically of the view that one should not be judged on the basis of looks or past or something like that. Maan is only concerned about Geet's work and well being. He opposed stereotyping people and tries to keep himself out of other people's business. The best part is that he follows what he says. Plus somewhere maybe his ego comes in the way, but I think thats too far fetched. However I feel that if he goes according to his character, he would ask Geet himself rather than confriming with somebody else.

I agree about the 'asking him herself' part. Goes with my view of Maan's character too...but am surprised that he has not done that as yet.

Originally posted by: nairprasu

Maan is the first and only character that I have ever deigned to watch and like on Indian television and Geet the only serial. Am going thru a 'wonder why' phase and got talking this morning with my husband about this. He is very like Maan in his principles and his demeanor (am going easy on the biceps...drop dead good looks and the billions ;-) ) and I was interested in hearing his take on the entire 'will he, wont he' issue that we have been discussing on this forum. Would he take on Geet if he were in Maan's shoes? How would he react if he were to know that Geet was his brother's wife?

Here's his perspective -

He was shocked that Maan first chose to pursue his attraction for Geet without finding out enough about her background. He was like...and this is the guy who runs a company? smirk...smirk..
How can anyone as 'smart' as Maan not make the effort to find out more about this girl who intrigues him...before going the whole nine yards? And in this case, it is not as if he needs to hire Sherlock Holmes...all he needs to do is make a couple of calls to his contacts in Hoshiyarpur...

Cant but agree! This is a major flaw in the storyline....I hope they come up with something intelligent to cover this flaw up soon.

And the 'will he, won't he' question - my husband feels that any principled man will not consider his sister-in-law to be on the list of women he would have 'dhak dhak' moments for. He feels that he would feel especially yucky if he learnt that the girl he had feelings for was once/was still his sisterinlaw. He personally would not be able to pursue a relationship with her...whether he disowns his brother or not....

Interesting....

Thoughts?

Hi Nairpasu,

I am really surprise the reaction a man can have after knowing that he is in love with someone who already got (though it is fake) and consummate with his bro. I don't find any reason for Maan feeling yucku about it ...that is not something like married relationship and passing and sharing time ...having relationship and developing it takes time and I don't think by just passing a nite with his bro she have become impure for Maan.......

I agree what your hubby said it is hard to marry a bro's wife if he is still alive and living in a same house..and moreover accepting his baby as you own....this is quite difficult and really hard to do it in real life..but this is what we call true love.....love has no boundary and physical relationship is not the criteria about purity in love....the purity come from heart and Geet's heart is pure her soul is pure....she is innocent ...her love is true and moreover she suffered so much in her life that she shouldn't get more of it again....


I have no offense with what he commented about a Man's feeling toward loving a bro's wife ..but strangely my hubby have total different perspective..here it is.....

"A maan type Man will be less interested in Geet's past and as per his perception he knows all what he sud know about her...the moment he gets to know about she is preggy ..he himself go and ask her rather than doing CID"

And the second thing is "If he really loves her than it hardly matters her that she married to his bro or preggy unless she still loves his bro or having any feeling about him or interested in going ahead with that marriage....in current scenario he can think only one thing that is how to console and comfort Geet and he can go to get her married to his bro if she wants that for her baby.....by sacrificing his love...but on the other hand he can marry her and accept her and her baby ...as their own.....if she wants that....he will look what Geet wants and will surly do as per that"


though Dev is already married so the first possibility is very less and it has high probability that he himself marry to her ...he may not consummate with her but the yucky think never comes in his mind..at all ....all he can think about the pain and suffering she went thru..

Society have changed a lot and we are not the same narrowminded people as we were 100 years back....and moreover in Indian histroy it is very normal for a bro to marry his bhabhi after death of his bro and generally they accept the babies also ...so this is'nt a strange thing at all....

Also sisters marry their bro in law after their sister's death...how can it be strange ....My opinion is that there can not a be defied rule for this situation/......Just imagine Geet married to Dev .,.stayed with his and considered Maan as just like his bro.....they have been living happily and then if Geet and Maan develop feelings and try to marry then it looks strange but here the scenario is totally diffeent ....Geet Knew Dev for 3 days and once they consumate when Geet even had no idea what happened to her and on the very next day she was betrayed by Dev....she had no feelings for Dev at all ...on the other hand she have been saved by Maan and he was the one who was in front of her since the beginning so there are much possibility tht she has strong feelings for him....and though it all happened and till now they have no idea about DEV and NT episode ...there is nothing strange in showing them falling for each other....

The situation will be really difficult for both of them to handle when the truth is uncoverd...but that will also depend on the circumstance how they react.....there can not be a set rule that ...a Man should feel ...nice or yucky........

There's another point to consider here. Both Maan and Geet have had a painful past and for this, Maan tried to resist Geet to not think about her past or say anything which would hurt herself. One actually doesn't feel the need to scrutinize another person when one is in love or falling in love, but this point is purely judgemental. Perspectives differ. He just knows she has had some incident and doesn't care to find it as he thinks past is past.

i dont find it odd that maan didnt try to find out more about geet earlier..i mean, i guess love just kind of happens on its own..not after finding out about the person's past and love doesnt need i reason i guess. and trying to find out information about her through other people is a little stalkerish, i think. i guess after the situation comes out maybe they'll split for a little bit, because its definitely going to be hard on both of them