SS 51 Baby Steps to work on 1 - Page 108

Originally posted by: moonwearer

Agree Swathi that some of our customs and the need to conform to traditions(irrational at times) yet what a middle class Iyer joint family instilled in us is a deep sense of care and concern for all...
The sisters reliving moments from the past also considering ahead of time how to tackle issues that are likely to crop up...Akka seem reconciled that Vaishnavi will be a pile on...the typical tattling Maamiyar image emerges.

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Originally posted by: dristi64

The update began in a cool note for me and ended on such a hot (intense) one😃

I honestly presumed that these guys were going to make up, but the doubts would still linger and remain unresolved. Just five words "I can never be cool" - and it has conveyed everything that II has ever felt for R&B. It has never been just the passion between their bodies; his very existence makes her passionate. She is so, by her very nature. This admittance makes her love more evident than the acceptance of any material benefits from him.🤗

And the "bummer"... Sigh..❤️

I can visualize him lazying on the bed so well; satiated after a bout of love-making and a few unexpected words from the wife to satiate his troubled soul- icing on the cake! And that glint in his eyes

I loved this confession Nisha. Unique as always. Goes straight to the heart❤️

Dristi, 😳 👍🏼

Swathi,
Yes I agree, over dinner last night I was told about a Desi friend thats divorcing her hubby, they have a 1 year old baby girl I think
Both are greatly accomplished, Material Science Ph Ds, IN THEIR 30s
University romance I believe not sure, it happened in the East Coast

He lost his job when I company restructured August, 2 years ago, SHE KEPT HER JOB ALSO at my company .
My friend said "Maybe parents gave some "parental advice" and said "Oh! why dont u get pregnant, sex makes everything better"

She did, he still didnt have a job

Eventually when the baby was born last August he got a job in Tennessee I think and moved. She moved back and forth between my city and his
And this week he is in town to sign "papers"

We can easily slam goras sayinbng "They dont respect marriage" blah blah blah
Given the SAME opportunities and situations WE DO THE EXACT same thing

We are equally intolerant
We have the same amount of ego
We dont respect marriage either
Our careers are supremely important
Job loss DOES take a toll, for a man
If she had lost her job and he had kept his
I DONT think they would have divorced

Originally posted by: Nisha0604

Swathi,
Yes I agree, over dinner last night I was told about a Desi friend thats divorcing her hubby, they have a 1 year old baby girl I think
Both are greatly accomplished, Material Science Ph Ds, IN THEIR 30s
University romance I believe not sure, it happened in the East Coast

He lost his job when I company restructured August, 2 years ago, SHE KEPT HER JOB ALSO at my company .
My friend said "Maybe parents gave some "parental advice" and said "Oh! why dont u get pregnant, sex makes everything better"

She did, he still didnt have a job

Eventually when the baby was born last August he got a job in Tennessee I think and moved. She moved back and forth between my city and his
And this week he is in town to sign "papers"

We can easily slam goras sayinbng "They dont respect marriage" blah blah blah
Given the SAME opportunities and situations WE DO THE EXACT same thing

We are equally intolerant
We have the same amount of ego
We dont respect marriage either
Our careers are supremely important
Job loss DOES take a toll, for a man
If she had lost her job and he had kept his
I DONT think they would have divorced

What I meant is reaching out Kalpana how poignant it is to read the story...the perspective of the son is so valid I have been interacting with young people for a long time now...children are looked at dream realisation mode...we are so obsessed with what they will do for a living that we fail to live and let others live their life and dream a lot of young people carry in them this angst it is not they lack focus...it is the way we want them to focus

Kalpana

An eye opening for middle class parents n kids...
Thanks for sharing this...

Kalpana
Very poignant note
While I sympathize with the young man unfortunately unable to "take his side"

I feel "paavam" for his parents. They in their wildest nightmare could not have imagined their son talking so harshly about their upbringing of him
How cruel
I am not saying like typical Desis we should keep everything bottled up and neither do I appreciate this disgusting "honesty"There will be NO human being on earth that will care for this young man AS MUCH as his parents, I am sorry, his wife wont either. I just shared a incident from my town

The parents did what THEY thought was good for him. They lived in TRICHY. Chances are they are not "uber cool" and greedy. I have plenty of relatives in Trichy. Its a simple life. Where there is no or little money parents hope education will fill the gap
I dont think they would ever have imagined it would traumatize the young man so deeply

Tomorrow if he breaks his back "trying to be cool hiking the Yosemite" see how they fly over and waste away by his hospital bed
Its very smug and self serving of him to dismiss their earnest prayers and wishes this way

I LOVE SUJATHA
HE WAS SO REAL

Swathi